What Aspergers syndrom actualy is (no trolls and keep it PG13)

[Lt ReiStark]

Here i would like to be proactive in telling people what aspergers syndrom is actualy like. i've read books and met real people with this condition in their lives, i also have aspergers so i KNOW what i am talking about, im not a mental heath doctor but this is one thing i know i have a firm grasp on.

let's all be mature about it so no swearing even if you bleep out the word like this **** (that word was cake). no offencive words, even if its not a swear it can offend people. No telling me "You're wrong about it and I know more by other means"  live with it for years and have a bunch of child and youth mental health workers explaining it to you for years and then we can talk on equal ground, or get a degree in this subject specialising in autism and i will respect you as knowing more than me, however that would take 6 years to do.

SO :D blow post one of the following.
A) What you've heard about aspergers.
B) What you think are the main facts of the condition .
C) A question about aspergers.
D) What you think we are like.
Or
E) ask how its been for me, all aspies are different.

[Lt ReiStark]

Also Selkit or however you spell it i forgot, is not welcome to complain here as he has trouble understanding that all people with this syndrom are different and the effects of it can hit lightly or hard, also generaly our upbringing changes how we deal with it. i grew up with an abusive father and a mother who ignored me, im depressive and have on a few occations been deemed a threat to myself. im medicating and trying to work through it, so those who don't understand that being hit with so much in your life and not finding out you have aspergers untill you were 13 can hit you hard. that being said i congratulate him on being a success story, i however am not one of those operah guest stories, im more of the Dr.Phill story... for now.

Im getting my life together now, im looking for a job, im learning how to drive, im getting into shape, and im working towards being a productive member of the community, and those are better than this time last year when i would sit in my room all day drinking and not showering for weeks at a time. I HAVE FAULTS! THEY ARE MANY! THEY ARE NOT ALL ASPERGERS! and i need to work through them, i know a young man named Alan who is my guiding light to get through it, so saying i use this as an umbrella is just mean, im trying to better myself so putting me down does not help at all.
Still i think that its great that Sel found the will and skills to get to where he is, and if i ever meet him i will ask him how he did it because i would like to try those things :D

[Ember]

I think that you very clearly go out of your way to be a dick and an idiot and use your aspergers (real or not) as an excuse to behave this way.


If you really do have this condition, it's not an excuse to give up on life and just be an asshole. People have far worse things and still contribute to society. Look at Stephen Hawking, do you really think you have a worse lot in life than he does?

In any case, people don't dislike you because you may have Aspergers. They dislike you because of your behavior.

[Peli]

I agree with Ember. One of my best friend's boyfriend has this syndrome, and it is a much more insidious disorder than simply something that makes you act like an immature kid and try to pass the blame off as something you can't control. It makes him have periods of extreme introversion, causes him to think that all his friends actually hate him, and severely impacts social functions when it hits. He is also an exceptionally smart individual. Granted, there are scales of severity as with any disorder, but the one thing I've never heard of it doing is making people act like loud, rude little kids who can't handle people not thinking their antics are amusing.

[Zen]

I worked with someone, for around two years, who had Aspergers.  It was an interesting experience, especially since I was the senior programmer on the same project as them, but had literally half their programming experience.

[PurpleVeggie]

I know that aspergers is very hard to diagnose, and there are many kids who are diagnosed with this syndrome who are not properly diagnosed or cleared of aspergers till adulthood, and are permanently stigmatize in their development. I've also learned of the percentage of children with Anti Personality Disorder being diagnosed with aspergers, which I find kind of horrifying.

I am not saying that you have Anti Personality Disorder or have been misdiagnosed, just answering A)

For E) I'd like to ask how this condition has affected your few on the sincerity of the relationships you've been in.

[EmoFox]

I agree with Ember.

Asperger's Syndrome or not, if you followed the same courtesy you've asked of other people in this thread, people wouldn't dislike you so much.

As for what I know about Asperger's, I know that it's on the autistic spectrum, and as such,"aspies" generally have one thing that they're amazing at, have an IQ that's borderline genius or higher, but have problems interacting socially, including reading facial expression and other forms of body language.

[Lt ReiStark]

Nowhere in here did i say i act this way BECAUSE i have aspergers syndrom.

Yes i was diagnosed with it at age twelve and every one of the  workers i've had agree i have it, so i aint trollin.

That being said i will say im sorry i was suck a jerk on the forums, i was rude and belegerant.
i will also say this I HAVE LOTS OF FLAWS THAT DON"T HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH ASPERGERS!

1) My ego is huge, i think myself over everyone else at time, and i always thing im right and that i know everything.
2) I honestly have a hard time shuting the heck up, every part of my brain is saying "NOOOO SHUT UP! THE ISSUE IS OVER SO DON"T OPEN YOUR BIG MOUTH!!" but nooooooo i have to add another snarky comment.
3) I forget things that i know people i love care about, birthdays, meetings, and many more.
4) i get very confronational when im angry, i just can't let stuff go.
5) I don't care about myself as much as i should despite my ego, i sometimes wear dirty clothes and don't shower for weeks.

that being said im trying to work through those issues, so being told about these things is annoying. i pride myself on keeping all the dirt in my life on the outside where i can clean it, i let myself  say that i have problems in my life that i need to work out. if you can't write out the 5 things about yourself that you need to work on with honesty then i will be ignoring all your posts on this matter :)

[Lt ReiStark]

The things that i need to improve on or stop doing are as follows:


1) My ego is huge, i think myself over everyone else at time, and i always thing im right and that i know everything.
2) I honestly have a hard time shuting the heck up, every part of my brain is saying "NOOOO SHUT UP! THE ISSUE IS OVER SO DON"T OPEN YOUR BIG MOUTH!!" but nooooooo i have to add another snarky comment.
3) I forget things that i know people i love care about, birthdays, meetings, and many more.
4) i get very confronational when im angry, i just can't let stuff go.
5) I don't care about myself as much as i should despite my ego, i sometimes wear dirty clothes and don't shower for weeks.



Any who can't fill this out are going to ignored on this matter <3

[velvetkytten]

posting this was brave of you.
I only know one person with this and I don't know much about it. I know its a type of autism. I myself have to be in a good mood to be around my friend with this because it's a lot of excitement and sometimes I just can't coop with people who are buzz buzz buzz.  

It's just another difference in a person. in my eyes. And I feel badly when I hear someone else trash talking people who have this. It's not their fault after all.

It's good to communicate what your limitations are.

:)  

[EmoFox]

Um... I'm sorry. But I'm not going to post the top 5 things I dislike about myself on a forum that I've only been part of for little over a month. :\ Not even my mate knows the top 5 things I feel I need to change about myself, though I'm sure he could guess :roll: lol

Clearly you have no problem reining yourself in when absolutely necessary, because you've been at least civil in this thread. I would suggest, in future, when you offend some one unintentionally, perhaps apologizing instead of calling them names? Or take a break until you've calmed down?

[Lt ReiStark]

Um... I'm sorry. But I'm not going to post the top 5 things I dislike about myself on a forum that I've only been part of for little over a month. :\ Not even my mate knows the top 5 things I feel I need to change about myself, though I'm sure he could guess :roll: lol

Clearly you have no problem reining yourself in when absolutely necessary, because you've been at least civil in this thread. I would suggest, in future, when you offend some one unintentionally, perhaps apologizing instead of calling them names? Or take a break until you've calmed down?

Thank you for your VERY proactive comments, its good to see somebody who can talk about this with propper logic. I will try to SHUT MYSELF UP! in future, and your suggestions were very nice.
you've given me a good reason not to ignore you for not posting your 5 because you gave me a good expination about why you don't want to, i respect that because you didn't just yammer on about thinking it was dumb, same with Kytten.

[EmoFox]

Um... thanks? Haha I had to read that over a couple of times 'cause I wasn't sure if you were yelling at me or not. Oh how I love the internet. I would imagine it makes it harder to read social cues, since you don't really have any, except for the little emoticons.
Which leads to overuse!
:D:D:D:D:D:D :P:P:P:P:P:P:P :):):):):) AHAHAHAhAHA!
Ok, i'm done. have a good night everyone!

[Lt ReiStark]

Um... thanks? Haha I had to read that over a couple of times 'cause I wasn't sure if you were yelling at me or not. Oh how I love the internet. I would imagine it makes it harder to read social cues, since you don't really have any, except for the little emoticons.
Which leads to overuse!
:D:D:D:D:D:D :P:P:P:P:P:P:P :):):):):) AHAHAHAhAHA!
Ok, i'm done. have a good night everyone!

oh im generaly nice  :hug:

[Zythren]

What was the point in posting this thread?
I know you meant well, but I really don't think anyone cares. At all.
It's only turning into a pitiful hate-fest now.