Mania and Burnout.

Started by Sevrin, October 21, 2012, 08:06:29 PM

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Sevrin

Ever notice how quite often people will join BCF and they will be almost manic in their desire to post and attend events, but then 2 months later they hardly post anything and only go to certain events or only hang out with certain people? I've done it twice now, and I see other people doing it all the time, is there a scientific explanation for this? does this happen outside of the furry community? have any of you experienced this yourselves, if so what are your observations on the subject?

Peli

Well, people do lose interest in or grow bored of things.

Neox

A lot of the time they realize there are a lot of people in our community who just don't fit their personalities? I know I have that experience almost every time I go to an event... so now I usually just go to hang out with the people I'm good friends with because we get along well together.  Most big get-togethers end up a lot like the old high-school days when everyone had a clique to run with.

As for posting, I like to run my mouth, and this is as good of a place to do it as any. Some people are a little more quiet than others, I guess.
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Pat The Fox

I will echo Neox's observation about large events. In the larger gatherings there is a lot of of people keeping to preselected/familiar groups. I imagine to someone just starting in finding people to chill with can be intimidating.

Perhaps this is a sign that at larger events we need to find better ways to be open and intermingle. Obviously this does not mean hang out with people you don't like, but if you see someone new at an event pull them over, say hello, introduce yourself, find out their interests and drag them over to meet people.


Other factor could be things just aren't what they expected them to be, so they taper off in interest.
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Tef

I hope you won't mind me echoing your idea Neox, but you do raise a good point.
I remember that somefur told me that BC Furries may not be as cliquey as, say, some other provinces, but I'd take it with a grain of salt.

From my experience, one could begin by attending fursuit bowling, before attending one of the furmeets of sorts. It's a smaller crowd than being at Rev's, and being in the private setting of the furmeet host's territory means a bit more of a chance at intermingling.

Hmm...
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Nibi

I think this happens with everything and not just furry events. Heck, throughout a year I will constantly get bored of one thing and then move onto something else for awhile. After enough time has passed I'll forget why I was bored of it in the first place and go back to it. xD

Silvermink

Quote from: Nibi on October 22, 2012, 03:41:04 AM
I think this happens with everything and not just furry events. Heck, throughout a year I will constantly get bored of one thing and then move onto something else for awhile. After enough time has passed I'll forget why I was bored of it in the first place and go back to it. xD

Agreed. I don't think it's unusual at all for people to come into something new going "THIS IS THE GREATEST THING EVER!" and have it settle down to being "something I'm interested in" after a while. Or, for that matter, to have people go "hmm, this isn't quite what I envisioned, think I'll move on" and drift away.

Sevrin

I remember the first day I wore my tail, I was SO EXCITED, you should have seen me, skipping down the street, walking with swag, daring people to challenge my style XD now I'm sort of like: "oh yeah, a tail, that thing I forget to wear most of the time."
It would be SO COOL if you could keep that crazy excitement about something all the time, everything would be amazing! though it might be hard to sleep o.o

Imagine how it felt the first time you heard your favorite song, imagine feeling that EVERY TIME you listened to it! science needs to make this happen (without addictive and harmful drugs)

Nibi

Quote from: Sevrin on October 22, 2012, 02:19:45 PM
I remember the first day I wore my tail, I was SO EXCITED, you should have seen me, skipping down the street, walking with swag, daring people to challenge my style XD now I'm sort of like: "oh yeah, a tail, that thing I forget to wear most of the time."
It would be SO COOL if you could keep that crazy excitement about something all the time, everything would be amazing! though it might be hard to sleep o.o

Imagine how it felt the first time you heard your favorite song, imagine feeling that EVERY TIME you listened to it! science needs to make this happen (without addictive and harmful drugs)

Oh gawd! That'd be exhausting. XD You drink a glass of water you'd freak out how amazing it is, then your phone would go off and you'd rave about that, then you sit down in a chair and go off about how comfortable and amazing it is, you go outside and see the sun and have another spazz attack. xD

Sevrin

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so many heart attacks, ALL of the heart attacks.

Neox

I think they call that "early-onset Alzheimer's with a side of ADHD." o.=.o
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Fallen

its not necessarily being clichey its more most people get really excited to meet people with their same interests as them then go to a couple of meets, which for alot of us is stepping outside our comfort zone, and then end up meeting a few people they really like a feel like they don't need to be pushed outside of their comfort zone anymore.

cuz lets face it meeting people is skury
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Drake Wingfire

Well Neox does have a point, like any social group of people no matter how many masks you slap on it, or how many the individual slaps upon themselves, there will always bee that underlying true personality that will shine through. So while someone can run around going "ima fluffy kitten, give me snugz!" and generally playing up the furry identity. A fair bit of the time when you meet them IRL they can be introverted or a really unapproachable shade of "geek" where one just really has little in common with them or may not get along well with them. My example would have to be with various Otherkin groups I was a part of many years back. Boom! Same species, slightly similar interests, same kind of core identity and spirituality, all the makings of a real tighter knit community, but while that all sounds like the excellent makings of a friend on paper. I had a really hard time keeping any form of social interest with some of them beyond the fact we were both dragons and had similar spirituality.

Once you meet any individual on a more personal basis outside of the community fan fare you can often find they might be say a total gear head, they love cars, everything about them, body work, mechanical work, driving, heck maybe even racing... But say you don't really care for cars, you instead are a huge WoW player or something, and this first guy doesn't really do computer games and thinks they are kinda dumb.. How long can a friendship or any social interest last with two very clashing personality types?

What im getting at is while we all have the similar furry social and identity qualities, it still isn't really enough to just make everyone instantly community oriented or really bond-able in that regard. We naturally are bound to split off into our own clique's, whether its a group of furs who like to just drink beer and play sports and general try and act manly, or those who want to go ape over computers and programing and just nerd out. Hell look at how some of us do it based on what city's we live in. But to be fair its a LOT better than it was like 6 years ago thanks to this forum and actually trying to get all BC furs together more or less rather than just Vancouver and Victoria  :roll: