Furry Drama - Seriously?

[Violet]

So... before I returned to the furry community, I had some fear about "drama".  I very much dislike drama, and wish to take part in the "drama-free" furry community.  People warned me about furries being dramatic etc, which is not something I want to take part in.  Well, unless we are talking the acting type of drama, that is fun.

So...  My first re-introduction to the community seemed drama free, high five!

At the furcon I was put off by a few people who gave me weird looks... I am not an unfriendly person, so this threw me off a little... maybe I smell like rotting plants???  I wasn't really sure.

Well today someone close to me confessed they just basically used me to get back at another person, or something like that.  Well, that is upsetting, now I know why people were making funny smelly faces around me.

You know what I want to point out here?  Not specifically what was done or who, no.  I want to point out, is this what I am in for?  Random drama like this?  I sure to god hope not.  I came back to embrace my furry side and make friends.  No gossip, no lieing, no backstabbing crap, just friends.


Please let me know that there are furries around NOT interested in this sort of thing.  I want a Drama Free furry zone, and hell, if you are a drama free furry, let's have some coffee.

Also as a note, at the con I made a few friends, all from a furry sub group, I love you guys *huggles*

DRAMA FREE!!!!   :birdy:

[zenia]

I like reading about drama... but I usually don't like participating in it. But sometimes it is fun... but when it is because an OP is all butthurt about something that he is in the wrong about. That stuff usually happens on the FA forums though.

[Purplexity]

I don't really think life is very fun when its drama free.   however my side of the bridge there is never any drama worth considering as drama.

[Violet]

Drama is okay in some ways, but I don't want to participate in it.  I can find way better things to do with my time the wonder who is pissed at me and not even know why!!!

I usually watch some House or Game of Thrones if I need a good bit of entertainment ;)

[Neox]

Lol I always laugh when I see the word "furry" fixed in front of the word "drama."  Drama is drama, it exists everywhere people do.  Furry drama is no different from regular drama, and like regular drama, it will occur anywhere, anytime, for any stupid childish reason.  If you truly believe you can avoid it entirely, you're just setting yourself up for some heavy disappointment.  Learn to shrug it off and you'll be fine. =)

[Whitefoot]

I like to think furries are a friendlier bunch than most, but that doesn't mean we don't have personal issues. That said, you won't get much drama from me. Unless you emptied my savings account, or something. Then there would be drama. ;) 

[Tef]

Lol I always laugh when I see the word "furry" fixed in front of the word "drama."  Drama is drama, it exists everywhere people do.  Furry drama is no different from regular drama, and like regular drama, it will occur anywhere, anytime, for any stupid childish reason.  If you truly believe you can avoid it entirely, you're just setting yourself up for some heavy disappointment.  Learn to shrug it off and you'll be fine. =)

I couldn't put it any better myself.  ;)

[Violet]

*wiggles tail and bounces around* thanks guys  :-3!!!

[Drake Wingfire]

Ooooh okay you were referencing the "pre-teen girl" type of Drama IE: back stabbing, lying, using etc. Yeah I think we can all agree that flavor of BS and just DIAF same for those low types of people. That I completley agree with.

But now I am gonna be the odd man out here and try and make a distinct definition in types of drama. Being in the fandom for as long as I have, I have seen lots of shit come and go, furs flare up all proud then vanish without a trace, namely the shit disturbers who like to make drama outta thin air. But the biggest problem I see in the fandom is people so carelessly throwing the word drama around and slapping it on anything everything they don't want to acknowledge or deal with. (its  a very sad coping mechanism) Mostly its just the people who completley lack people skills and so they paint everything that isn't happy or good as "drama" I have known people who lost a loved one or a beloved pet, and of course, like any sane person they got in a slump and just sad. (hey wouldn't we all?) This is usually when they socially defective types would just start to point at the individual and go "oh god look, more stupid drama, get over it emo boy" There really is no drama here aside the fact that the person shouting "drama drama!" is the only one causing it. This sadly is one of the most common forms I have witnessed in the fandom. Simply just people who get enjoyment out of kicking someone when they are down and then claim they are making drama. I actually got it a few times myself during my long unemployed period, I was naturally a bit depressed cause I was having a hard time finding work and I was exhausting my options and leads, most friends I knew were supportive and just told me to keep at it, but there were a few who took the path of just calling me a loser and taking that drama route insisting I was just trying to make drama and just doing the verbal equivalent of spitting in my face. I'll tell you, go through a hard period in your life and you'll find out who your real friends are and who will turn around and try and drama label you as soon as something goes wrong. In that case all you can really do is just separate yourself from them and move on. I have no regrets having to outright block former friends as soon as they just turned into "kick him while he's down" types. Really I weighed it as "do I even try and talk sense to a person who just wants to be a dick and pursue some vague hope I can still be friends with someone that low?" or "do I cut my losses and just move on?"

Really what I am getting at is there is not as much legitimate drama as some may think, its mostly people with a severe lack of social skills with a very basic self taught mental programing to try and fill that hole in their personality. As much as I hate to say it, its really just cause the fandom is mostly composed of teens and yes even some people with "problems" who treat other people as a free meal ticket to be a asshole.

[Carl Foxmarten]

I try to avoid drama too, Cekuba, so you're not alone. =^.^=

[Violet]

Ooooh okay you were referencing the "pre-teen girl" type of Drama IE: back stabbing, lying, using etc. Yeah I think we can all agree that flavor of BS and just DIAF same for those low types of people. That I completley agree with.
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Really what I am getting at is there is not as much legitimate drama as some may think, its mostly people with a severe lack of social skills with a very basic self taught mental programing to try and fill that hole in their personality. As much as I hate to say it, its really just cause the fandom is mostly composed of teens and yes even some people with "problems" who treat other people as a free meal ticket to be a asshole.

Yes, this is the "drama" I am referring too...  I know there are "hardships" and I put that into another catagory, but yes, drama is also a related term here too.

[dreki]

If there wasn't any drama then you wouldn't have anything to compare the good times too :)

...but yes, I try and avoid it as well. It seems to always find me somehow though. *puts up shield* there, it's all good now :3

[Ja'Nathun]

I find that more often than not I've had to deal with what Drake's talked about. There's been a few people I've known that enjoyed more making my life hell than making it pleasant, and the only thing I could bear to do was walk away --though that's largely because it's all I could do to not tear their arms off and beat them to death with them :vik:, but I digress.

At some point you need to think how you're going to deal with this. If going to fur cons is what's creating an issue for you, then you have a choice to stop going; however, if you think that your desire to go is more important than your desire to avoid all those annoying people then by all means listen to that voice in your head. I hate to say it but, as a dog, I know it to be true; there will always be other friends. You don't always know if they're going to drum up some drama for you, but the best you can do is be nice to all of them and let the chips fall where they may. Go lick someone's face once in a while. It's sure better than turning into the misanthropic wolf that I am.

[Pat The Fox]

I always think furry drama is drama that involves elements that can only happen in the furry realm. It's like the term "first world problems" in my book.

[Ember]

I've long held that a certain level of drama is not only natural but beneficial for the community as a whole.

The irony is that the anti-drama furs are usually first the most dramatic, and secondly cause the most problems.

My views are outlined here: http://www.bcfurries.com/forum/index.php?topic=2872.0