Furries and homosexuality, why is it?

[Fuzzum]

ok from what i see right know its a Relization ya some bi's are hiding and but the Furry gay/bi stuff tends to lure them onto a side more than the other,
and some are just Bi no matter what though we have to be them to acually know. me im leaning alot more towords the laydies but im courious if anything.

[Silvermink]

I think at least some of it has to do with the history of furry fandom. If I understand correctly, Mark Merlino marketed Confurence fairly heavily toward LGBT groups (this is back in the mists of time, early 90s), and that early exposure may have had demographic ramifications to this day, with that slant attracting more LGBT people.

I'm bi, myself. I'm sure I was always bi and had felt leanings that way before I ever discovered furry (though my rationalization-fu was very strong at that time), but it definitely brought it out.

[Wereman]

Well, impressive turnout and responses, thank you for your interesting responses and adding your two cents to the survey. With the surveys you need at times to read in between the lines. Some participants may provide conflicting information even though they have different lifestyles. Thank you Temrin for sharing the survey.

Interesting aspect on the art part. Gay artwork is very prevalent in the fathom, for it is a favorite subject and also popular amongst many individuals. It may also be that is sells well?

There is a wide range of where on a scale you are, how much attracted you feel to one gender over the other. Happened a few days ago when looking at one person wearing shorts and noticing the legs.

Neox though, if recalling correctly you have a mate. Always have been wondering how one's mate reacts if you tell him/her that you can be attracted to the opposite gender as well. Your mate then becomes aware he/she lacks the capabilities to "please" you the other way.

[Neox]

Neox though, if recalling correctly you have a mate. Always have been wondering how one's mate reacts if you tell him/her that you can be attracted to the opposite gender as well. Your mate then becomes aware he/she lacks the capabilities to "please" you the other way.

While my boyfriend is aware that I am attracted to women still, he's also aware that I love him and I don't want or need female attention to keep me satisfied.  I have just as much fun with a man as I do with a woman, so the quality of my relationship with someone is completely independent of what sex they are.  If someone is insecure about that detail, well, it's really their own personal issue and it's something they have to sort out for themselves.

[Temrin]

*thumbs up for Neox!*

Though, i've been on the other end of that stick, being left, more then once, for the want/need of other men. So i say that the fear of not being "good enough" or able to satisfy your partner when they might have other needs you cannot provide, is definitely justified.

I am as you though, Neox. Finding what you need in your partner, regardless of what sex they are. :3 So i commend you for that!

[Choco]

I am the same as Neox except with a mate part *high fives*

   as if my icon here gives my sexual orientation away (herm) gender doesn't actually mean anything to me in bed it's more on the person that I'm with more then what Gender they are. obviously with me being Bi with no male or female preference that doesn't mean that I'll go and sleep with anyone I do have my own boundaries too and of course my own personal needs as well.

    I do agree with you Neox that as long as you can provide the needs for your partner to satisfy both you and him then it is a good thing to have in a relationship regardless of gender. While yes obviously many people do get uncomfortable around the topic or fail to understand why same sex relationships happen or due to their personal beliefs think that it is wrong to do so. Believe it or not other animals too have same sex relationships it's actually quite common so it's not just a human thing as many people seem to believe that it is.

[Silvermink]

Neox though, if recalling correctly you have a mate. Always have been wondering how one's mate reacts if you tell him/her that you can be attracted to the opposite gender as well. Your mate then becomes aware he/she lacks the capabilities to "please" you the other way.

My partner's bi as well, and we're poly. So, no real problem there.

[Fuzzum]

ok first question what's Poly? seconed is it just me or did this get realy sexual all of a sudden but i guess that is a big consern for partners not to get bored or frustrated with them. But in the great words of someone i dont even know "What ever floats your boat"

[Drake Wingfire]

When relationships are getting layed out on the table its bound to happen hehe. I do find it interesting how the poll here is highlighting a majority of gays amongst us, but posters are mostly pointing to the Bi label.
Guess we got more lurkers than posters in this poll haha.

That is true though Fuzzum, any relationship, gay, straight or those with one or both partys being Bi, nothing ever just falls together perfectly. Sadly on that same note the most common relationships to fall to pieces in this world are the "omg we are a match made in heaven!" types when I was younger (17-18ish) I fell for that one, but I suppose who doesn't with their first as love is a new thing for all of us at one point or another? We get so wrapped up in the lovey dovey notions to the degree that we cannot see how not really compatible some of us are. Every relationship will reach a point where some effort has to be put in, that's where the real test lies to see how well people go together. I have been through more than my fair share of relationships with bi and gay guys and every single one of them taught me new things about what really separates a relationship from "puppy love" I still am learning to this day.

[Neox]

ok first question what's Poly? seconed is it just me or did this get realy sexual all of a sudden but i guess that is a big consern for partners not to get bored or frustrated with them. But in the great words of someone i dont even know "What ever floats your boat"

Fuzzum: "Poly" = Polyamorous, which often refers to two or more people in a relationship that like to "share" their partners, put in simple terms.  Such a thing can be quite fragile and difficult to facilitate, but if a couple possess vast amounts of trust for each other and keep communication between one another foremost, it can work quite well.

[Tef]

Hm...I just took a look at the poll and there's nothing regarding Bis - oh wait, Drake beat me to it. ^w^;

[Fuzzum]

(Neox)
delicate balence indeed, learn some new everyday.
(Hole shibang)
Sum the hole thing up is Relationships are complicated in there own way and no other way to put it.

[Lusiphur]

Relationships are complicated

This... 1000x this... In the end whether you're gay, straight, bi, or anywhere along the sexual spectrum, relationships are complex beasts that require care and attention at every turn.

Personally, I could care less what someone's orientation is. Me, I'm gay, I've yet to meet (and likely never will meet) a woman that made me feel that I wanted to have sex with them. At least one of my (small handful) of partners over the years has identified as bi. I don't feel any sense of "I can't meet their needs" because, honestly... I give 100% to every relationship I'm in and if that's not enough for them, that's their issue not mine.

[Neox]

Really?  I've never found any relationship to be complicated.  It's PEOPLE who are complicated.  If you're in a relationship, and each party knows exactly what he/she wants and what his/her partner wants out of it, relationships can be very very simple, even the breakups.  It's only when people choose to be cryptic, enigmatic, and are afraid to show their true colours and communicate things to one another that it becomes complicated. 

[Temrin]

@Neox Some people dont know what they want. or havent enough experience to really understand themsevles and their own needs. So. And i mean its not really their fault. You cant really learn about yourself until you get yourself out there and try to figure it out. That really can only happen by getting into relationships. One can just hope that the person wont be an asshole about it if they decide you arent where they want to be, etc. But it takes time for people to figure out what they want.

I do agree though, it -is- people who are complicated. a relationship is a simple thing. Its people who complicate it. People who listen to other people instead of their own hearts, people who cannot communicate, etc.