Relationship help? Pwease?

[Fiskette]

Hiya. So not to long ago I got dumped by the guy I'm totally inlove with. I miss him like crazy. When he dumped me he said that he still wants to be friends. And I can stand not having him in my life because he is like the only person who makes me truly happy but whenever we hang out its like getting dumped all over again. It breaks my heart. I don't know what to do anymore. I would love to be with him again but I don't think that will happen because I know I'm not good enough. How do I either get him back or get over him without killing my heart in the process? I really need some advice as to what to do. Mew... :/

[Kitten]

If you still want to be friends then the best advice I can give is to take a break, and stay away for a while(AKA DO STUFF WITH OUT HIM). Meet new people, have some fun for yourself. Also remember he isn't the only one out there. Whether he takes you back or not, there are plenty of other guys, or girls depending on what you're into, out there.

TL;DR Spend time on yourself right now!

[Fiskette]

Thanks. I'll try to do stuff without him. I would do things with other friends but I don't have many so I'll just do stuff on my own.

[ravewoif]

Ooh hanging out with an ex that you still have feeling for is a big no-no. Get away from him and enjoy life without him and realize that he wasn't that big a part of your life as he is, but one person in the world. Yes I know that is very hard, but unless you are sure that you will never be with him again then that is all you can do.

[J.R.Bear]

This is going to sounds mean but I really mean it with care. You're 16, honestly this boy is irrelevant in the long run. None of the men you are going to date at this age are going to last. Neither you nor the men your age are mature enough to know what you really want out of a relationship. Now I know that it feels like he is the love of your life now, but he's not. If you ask the other adults here if they are still with partners from their teens I bet all of them would say no. Plus there is no such thing as not being good enough for a partner. A true loving adult relationship is based on equality and acceptance. If someone makes you feel like you are not good enough for them, that a giant red warning flag that there are serious problems.

[Nhyra]

No one should make you feel like you 'aren't good enough.' Someone that makes you feel like that isn't worth it.

Have fun, get out there. Make new friends. Do things you like. You are young and you will meet other partners! Trust me on that one.

[Pat The Fox]

A hobby is certainly a good distraction. Painting, writing, building things, martial arts or just something that can hold you interest and channel your focus in to can easily take the edge off missing someone and absorb your time.

[spuug]

It takes two to tango.  If he doesn't want to dance, there's no point in pursuing the matter.  Move on and leave him behind for now.  Maybe once your feelings have cooled down, and you've found somebody new, you can "just be friends".  Otherwise you're just asking for more heartache. 

[Fiskette]

Here an update for whoever might care. I have walked out of his life and have no intention to return to it. I wasn't inlove with him. I was only inlove with the idea of being inlove. Maybe one day I will find a mate that will love me as much as I love them but for now I'll stick to my original motto... F.L.I.R.T.
Thanks to everyone do making me relise that I didn't need him in my life.

[Kitten]

Congratz on discovering what you want!

Go have fun, be you, meet people.

[Søren]

Man, takes me back.  I lost my guy a little over a year ago, and still miss him like crazy, but, just gotta grin a bear it and keep going, and remember you have friends who care about you too.  (..okay I got that from a fortune cookie >_>)

[Spirit]

My only advice is this.  There are many people that you meet in life.  Realistically not all of them will remain in your life let alone be an important part of it.  The key is to identify who of them are worth it, who cares for you or looks out for you.  And who just wants something out of you.  Stick with the ones that care and that you feel are truely worth it, and drop the trash that want to use you.  Life is too short, and there are many good people out there in life.  Never forget who you are in life and what you want.  It's hope and faith in something that drives us forward.  Good friends and genuine people/furs are the ones that remind us of that, so those are the ones we want to stay around.