Alone time ranting

[Ember]

No longer a teen. I'm 20.

:roll:

[FurryJackman]

I just realized I may be a milder form of Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory... What can that mean?

[H u nn Y]

I just realized I may be a milder form of Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory.

In exactly what way? ō_Ô

[FurryJackman]

Not gonna say in public. All I'll say is I'm starting to see similarities to some of the stuff I do, except his case is much stronger for the same things.

[Unition]

One of the things I've noticed from your posts is you tend to quantize or add a numeric quantity to things that are mostly intangible, like emotions and friendship.

I get the feeling from your posts that you feel that you are deficient in some way and you are trying to improve yourself, which is fine and even admirable.
But don't go about it by analyzing your behavior and try and externalize your jealousy emotion to reduce it by 10% or worry about your sine wave of confidence, because it won't work and you'll drive yourself nuts trying to figure out why the other dude with a $50 camera is having way more fun even though his camera is clearly a couple levels below yours.

Keep it simple and ask yourself what you want to improve in much broader terms.  Then go and develop that skill by throwing yourself into the fire.
Do you want to be more confident?  Then go do something that requires an extreme amount of confidence like going to a certain mentioned dance.  Don't take baby steps because you'll analyze each one.  Just go and don't worry about the consequences.

[Sairys]

One of the things I've noticed from your posts is you tend to quantize or add a numeric quantity to things that are mostly intangible, like emotions and friendship.

I get the feeling from your posts that you feel that you are deficient in some way and you are trying to improve yourself, which is fine and even admirable.
But don't go about it by analyzing your behavior and try and externalize your jealousy emotion to reduce it by 10% or worry about your sine wave of confidence, because it won't work and you'll drive yourself nuts trying to figure out why the other dude with a $50 camera is having way more fun even though his camera is clearly a couple levels below yours.

Keep it simple and ask yourself what you want to improve in much broader terms.  Then go and develop that skill by throwing yourself into the fire.
Do you want to be more confident?  Then go do something that requires an extreme amount of confidence like going to a certain mentioned dance.  Don't take baby steps because you'll analyze each one.  Just go and don't worry about the consequences.

unition put it better than what I could ever write. I always give advice to my friends & furs to 'run before you learn to walk.

[FurryJackman]

Bumping this thread because I wanted to do another tiny post-mortem. Apologies in advance if this is once again me spilling personal stuff on a public forum, but that's one of the only ways I currently know of communicating my problems when it's hard for me to reach close friends.

Being as vague as possible, in the moment, I did live my life to the fullest and enjoyed every second of the experience I had.

However, now I'm filled with regret over my mistakes that I committed before and that has now landed me in a situation which would most likely end in a conflict.

Worst part is, an apology just won't do for this situation. I've tried it once and received no forgiveness, so I shouldn't bother with it this time.

Some things will become cursed if there's no way to rectify the situation. At the moment, there really isn't a solution and the glass is half-empty. (Even though the weather is supposed to clear up later today, it will remain a storm in my mind)

[Mattfolx]

We all make mistakes in our lives, the best thing is to learn from those mistakes...and build yourself a new foundation to base yourself on. So if an situational earthquake streams in, your foundation won't fail you.

[Coal Silvermuzzle]

  I don't usually respond with advice in a public forum, to personal problems. I like to do that in private and face to face in most cases. But in this case I will make an exception, Mattfolx is right in what he posted. We all make mistakes, that is part of life and growing, take it from one who has made more then his fare share. I am now halfway thru my life and still make mistakes, the one thing that I have learnt is to learn from them and try not to make the same ones again (you will make the same one again sometimes).

But regret, one should never regret making mistakes (it will eat you from the inside), you can be sorry for, apologize for, kick yourself in the ass for, then you need to get over it, never regret. Every mistake you make has some good in it, either you learn, gain wisdom or have something you can treasure (PM me if you want an explanation). Life is to dear to dwell on ones mistakes, dwelling on ones mistakes hinders ones life and stops you from experiencing it to it's fullest.