Break up help TT___TT

PrincessFox · February 24, 2011, 05:06:35 AM

Hey guys, I need help. TT___TT *sniffles*
My Boyfriend broke up with me Three weeks ago! I still can't get over it.
What should I do? How can I get over this horrific breakup? Any advice?
I don't know if I can ever love again. ='(
:'( Ouch my achy breaky heart. <///3

mediar · February 24, 2011, 07:08:40 AM

Time hun, all it takes is time. In the meanwhile hang out with friends, busy your self with projects, have some fun. *offers hugs*

Van_Fox · February 24, 2011, 10:32:25 AM

I know how that feels =( We can msn chat so i can help cheer you up =3

Neox · February 24, 2011, 10:32:51 AM

Well, first off: what kind of terms did you guys break-up on? Was it specifically because of something that happened between you two? Did he leave you for another person right away? Or was it simply because he felt you weren't the right person for him? That's usually the first and best way to help yourself begin to feel better about it: understanding exactly what happened and why. After that, it's all about keeping yourself busy and trying to make yourself think of other things until it can store itself away in the past. It's been two years since my breakup with a girl I spent seven years with and it still pops up in my head every now and again, making me ask more questions that will never be answered. It's a lot better than it first was, though, and I can deal with it without feeling like garbage for the next few hours.

PrincessFox · February 27, 2011, 05:14:00 AM

He left me for another person. We dated for about 8 months. He was a really sweet guy. Always cheered me up when I was sad. Ya know? He just got bored of me I guess. He said he was sick and never took me out on Valentines day. I didnt question it. I later found out later he was cheating on me for a month with another girl. I found them in the mall together while I was shopping for some new clothes with my Girl friends. He told me right to my face that we were over. That bitch just stood there and smirked. Her smile haunts me till this day. TT__TT My world ended. Everything just slowed down. </3

Maybe he cheated on me because i'm labeled as a Scene kid?

Elias.Ringtail · February 27, 2011, 07:09:02 AM

Quote from: PrincessFox on February 27, 2011, 05:14:00 AM
Maybe he cheated on me because i'm labeled as a Scene kid?

Well, if my two bits are worth anything in this situation, I'd have to say that he didn't really end up being such a sweet guy after all. :\ If he cheated on you at all, then - and this is just my opinion, maybe - he didn't treat you as well as you deserve to be treated. End of story. He didn't cheat on you because of the way you dress or wear your makeup (mighty low, if that -is- the case), and I don't think it would do you much good to try to figure out "the why", much less beat -yourself- up because of it. Unfortunately, Mediar is right; in a situation like this, time is the only thing that's going to make it better, but I hope having some friends to talk to will make it easier. After eight months of a relationship, I know it would take me a few months to get myself sorted out, again. I've found the best things, for me, are keeping busy, and my friends. Do like to draw, play music, take walks, or read books? If you have a hobby that uses some of your concentration, they're great for getting your old rhythm of life back. If you have a job, they rock for that, too. Your best friends are your best tool, here; when you're ready(everyone will have days when they just need alone time), surround yourself by them as much as you can. They'll remind you just how many -other- people care about you and value your company. Remember that you deserve someone who respects you enough to be honest and faithful with you, and just give it time.

PS: Here's the dancing parrot who's been distracting me all evening, I hope he cheers you up, like he did for me. :birdy:
I also feel I should mention that, albeit the right thing to do, if you've moved on to someone else, breaking someone's heart is always hard to do. :(

Ravenwood · February 27, 2011, 03:49:41 PM

It sounds like he was a real douchebag.

Good riddance, says I.

To make such a public scene, it was because he wanted to show off for his new GF, and show how much of an "alpha" he was. Instead of trying to be civil about it and actually treat you like an adult.

8 months may seem like a long time now, but when you get older, it'll seem more like an "extended fling".

You'll meet other, better guys. Guys that will treat you with respect and act with maturity.

What to do? You enjoy doing things before you met him, do those. Get out, socialize. Spend time with friends. Go to the park. Take up a new hobby.

PurpleVeggie · February 27, 2011, 10:19:12 PM

Quote from: Ravenwood on February 27, 2011, 03:49:41 PM
It sounds like he was a real douchebag.

Good riddance, says I.

To make such a public scene, it was because he wanted to show off for his new GF, and show how much of an "alpha" he was. Instead of trying to be civil about it and actually treat you like an adult.

8 months may seem like a long time now, but when you get older, it'll seem more like an "extended fling".

You'll meet other, better guys. Guys that will treat you with respect and act with maturity.

What to do? You enjoy doing things before you met him, do those. Get out, socialize. Spend time with friends. Go to the park. Take up a new hobby.

Ditto on what Ravenwood says about doing the same things you did before you went out. But like you said last night, another guy or year will come along to make you forget about the absence of this jerk. And then you get to decide how you want to remember his presence.

We'll talk on MSN again soon, sorry I'm never on. (tonight maybe?)

whitewolfy88 · April 07, 2011, 03:37:40 AM

Totally feel for ya but really try not to dwell on it and look to the future ...it won't be the last time someone great comes along ...that guy is a total dick anyways and neither of 'em are worth getting upset over

southpaw · April 07, 2011, 04:32:52 PM

Erm ... im sure its been over a month since she posted this and she was last on 6 days ago so umm that comment along with this one is unneeded anyways also to offer any kind of advice give yourself time to heal as much as it hurts dont fill the gap with another guy or when he leaves youll be left with a bigger hole and it will be an endless cycle of pain i know the feeling

Sevrin · April 07, 2011, 04:52:01 PM

Quote from: southpaw on April 07, 2011, 04:32:52 PM
Erm ... im sure its been over a month since she posted this and she was last on 6 days ago so umm that comment along with this one is unneeded anyways also to offer any kind of advice give yourself time to heal as much as it hurts dont fill the gap with another guy or when he leaves youll be left with a bigger hole and it will be an endless cycle of pain i know the feeling

it would have been easier to just say "bad wolfy! no necroposting!"

whitewolfy88 · April 07, 2011, 05:28:00 PM

I don't read petty little details like that :P