No longer feeling safe at home.

[MurphyErasmus]

My brother, who has been arrested more than once, stolen and sold things like my ipod touch, and prides himself on being argumentative and aggressive, recently moved back into my house.

At the moment, I'm living under my mother's roof. I've been doing my best to find employment, but the simple truth is, I just don't have the time to make the kind of money it would take to pay my tuition and live on my own. Add to that the necessity of paying for prescription medication every couple of weeks, and I have a situation where it's absolutely my only option to live at home, if I want to earn my degrees.

In a year or so I hope to tranfer to SFU and maybe get a dorm room there, but for the moment, I'm living with an EXTREMELY dangerous eighteen-year-old boy, who (I might add) I am absolutely terrified of. I have habits of constantly looking for escape routes and hiding/stashing anything valuable or even remotely desirable - including food, socks, and even hangers for clothing - because of his attitude of self-importance and entitlement.

So, what the hell do I do? I can spend time out of the house but that increases the likelihood of my pets being abused and tortured (he used to abuse my poor turtle), and my stuff being stolen. I can spend time at home, but that increases the likelihood of me being beaten up or emotionally crushed.

Fml.

[Renwaldo]

Call the cops and file for a restraining order.

What does your mother have to say about all this?

[MurphyErasmus]

He was actually kick out in January, but because he can't hold down a job and he likes living for free, he's moved back in. Whenever I talk about him, she gets upset and defends him, saying things like "he's my child too" and "why should I compromise his comfort because you're uncomfortable with him in the house?"

This comes across badly - my mother is absolutely fantastic, and I love her to bits; she's my best friend. She just can't see what he does to people, including and especially her.

[RainRat]

Start posting/reading in the Rental/Housing forum, to keep your options open. Or maybe some relative will take you in.

You might qualify for some emergency shelter/housing assistance. A service like Kids Help Phone might be able to hook you up with some assistance.

[Unition]

Find someone bigger than he is to scare him/rough him up a little.

Alternatively, crate up anything you care about/your pet turtle and move them to a local furry's place for a while, and spend as much time out of the house as you can.

[MurphyErasmus]

I'm definitely considering finding another place to live - if I can work out a deal with my mother that means I keep getting my tuition money and my medications, I *might* be able to rent a single room, or something.

Yay, time to trawl the housing board ...

[Ravenwood]

Find someone bigger than he is to scare him/rough him up a little.

Alternatively, crate up anything you care about/your pet turtle and move them to a local furry's place for a while, and spend as much time out of the house as you can.

This, both counts.

One guy that's bigger and a lot meaner than him, or at least can play the part to have a four-letter word with him and put him in his place.

[Sevrin]

if you absolutely need to get out right now my door is open to you, my building has some ridiculous rules but my door is open nonetheless.

you're a great person in a bad situation. I hate to see people suffer and I will do what I can to help.
furries are like family... at least that's what I think.

[OryxFox]

I'd like to offer my services, as I am big tall and scary when dealing with human slag.  Please see my PM for more info.

[MurphyErasmus]

You guys are all so supportive and amazing.

Sevrin, if I'm ever physically threatened by him again I may have to take you up on that offer. In the meantime, I'm speaking to a counselor and his probation officer.

[Foxxphyre]

Likewise... ninja skills at your disposal.  Unfortunately, I don't have a place for you to stay at the moment... but I got your back!

[Pat The Fox]

Find someone bigger than he is to scare him/rough him up a little.

Alternatively, crate up anything you care about/your pet turtle and move them to a local furry's place for a while, and spend as much time out of the house as you can.

This, both counts.

One guy that's bigger and a lot meaner than him, or at least can play the part to have a four-letter word with him and put him in his place.

To be a bit honest, the suggestion of using physical threats are not very good options in my opinion.

If you are dealing with someone who feels entitled or potentially has a very cocky and unstable personality this could easily end up with someone getting hurt.

Threatening to harm him and being larger than him may cause a weapon to be intoduced in to the situation. Add that with tempers and potentially pride being wounded, the weapon then could very well get used. The kicker is if you were actually threatening or suggesting that he might come to harm, he might have a valid case for self defence depending on how far he went.

If there is a suggestion of violence may be committed, use the avenue of his probation officer and the police.

[Foxxphyre]

To be a bit honest, the suggestion of using physical threats are not very good options in my opinion.

If you are dealing with someone who feels entitled or potentially has a very cocky and unstable personality this could easily end up with someone getting hurt.

Threatening to harm him and being larger than him may cause a weapon to be intoduced in to the situation. Add that with tempers and potentially pride being wounded, the weapon then could very well get used. The kicker is if you were actually threatening or suggesting that he might come to harm, he might have a valid case for self defence depending on how far he went.

If there is a suggestion of violence may be committed, use the avenue of his probation officer and the police.

Too right.  Also, public shaming/ridicule.