Furmeets - WE NEED YOU!

[Renwaldo]

Can anyone give me a good reason as to WHY the community should all be one big happy family?

We're Canadian.

[Silvermink]

For meets to be a reality again, they really must be an RSVP type arrangement; There's only so much room in most people's houses, and I'm not aware of any local furries holed up in a mansion. Personally, I might entertain the idea of renting the common room in my building, but even still, the event would need to be restricted to approximately two dozen or less. There simply is no space for more, even in the largest space readily available to me. I suspect for most, it's a similar scenario.

Yeah, with dinnermeets back in the day we always had problems with people not RSVPing and showing up anyway, because apparently they're special and should be on the guest list automatically and RSVPing is something other people do? I don't know. We had a dinnermeet at Amorosa once and way more people showed up than had RSVPed and it was an embarrassing disaster, frankly. I seem to recall some of us tipped very heavily that night because of the crap we put the restaurant through.

You sound like you wouldn't tolerate that, though, which is a good thing. People will never learn otherwise.

[Vanilla Skunk]

I have yet to host anything furrywise, but outside the community I have hosted a couple parties and gettogethers, and had uninvited people show up that nobody knew, because they saw the party from the street and decided to check it out.

Said people got violent when told to leave, and we had to get the police involved. 

I know what it's like, and it sucks, but control over your space is still very important if you're going to have any sort of group in your home or temporary arrangement. 

It may also be an idea to simply not give the where and when to the public, but only the rsvp'ed.

[Gizmo]

I have yet to host anything furrywise, but outside the community I have hosted a couple parties and gettogethers, and had uninvited people show up that nobody knew, because they saw the party from the street and decided to check it out.

Said people got violent when told to leave, and we had to get the police involved. 

I know what it's like, and it sucks, but control over your space is still very important if you're going to have any sort of group in your home or temporary arrangement. 

It may also be an idea to simply not give the where and when to the public, but only the rsvp'ed.

Agreed! That's what I did for the New Years Fur-Eve event ... you MUST RSVP to get the address ... no uninvited people can come unless they tag along with another fur ... but even still, I am in an apartment ... the space served us well at our last fur-meet, but thankfully, there were only a dozen or so people ... It was nice - I got to meet almost everyone and spend time with most - to get to know everyone.

[Mikau Seafox]

It is a rather interesting, if not also, a very good idea for hosts to do RSVP-only meets, since it'll also give far better control on the host's part, such as setting up the rules, giving the address to the place, and to limit those who can actually come, on a first-come-first-serve basis. I'm all for this idea, and if those who are uninvited going to cause a lot of drama because they didn't RSVP versus those who did, well, haters gonna hate, I suppose. Besides, to cause a major stink about it is just one more reason for us to laugh at them because they're acting like children in an adult world.

[Brittany-shadowwolf]

Hopfully my friends and I will start up a furhouse next year and get furmeets up and running again. c:
Ive been hosting mall meets, I plan to make another mall meet next month.

I agree that RVSP'ing is good. Get a more controlled crowd.

~~Shadowowlf

[Sairys]

Hopfully my friends and I will start up a furhouse next year and get furmeets up and running again. c:
Ive been hosting mall meets, I plan to make another mall meet next month.

I agree that RVSP'ing is good. Get a more controlled crowd.

~~Shadowowlf

will warn you inadvance, make sure when you have this place to have alot of rules in place before hosting a furmeet. dont want problems of can we do this etc tec.

[fireblaze]

hello, all, i'm just curious on this subject because i've not been to a furmeet in  awhile now,  and just curious as too when or if there will be a meeting anywhere? i'm willing to help out money wise if you need or  just in anyway possible even if i do live on the island :P let puppeh know so he can help and come to vancouver again ^^

[Aphinity]

As soon as someone finds a decent location and organizes it, we will have a meet.

Anyone?

[Daryll]

With what I have been reading, a lot of meets don't get done because of a "would if I could" mentality, from those that want to attend one. And some that have ample space in their house either do not have the time, and/or the ability to put up with a large number of people (some of which have proven themselves to be unruly). So far, Gizmo has proven that the RVSP method has proven worthy of working; it helps give people a chance, and if they throw the chance away, then their RVSP gets ignored.

But, as much as I am saying this, I too cannot host anything, at least not until work picks up and stuff happens.

Ah well.

As Aph has asked: will anyone host a meet?

[Arlene.]

Every time we have these threads I always notice two types of people; type one who encourages and ushers the community to get together, and the other type which causes the drama..

I'm still underage and I can't contribute to the 'let's host a furmeet at my place' idea since I live with my parents.  I'm not exactly desperate to go to a furmeet either..   It would be nice yes, but if there's no one to host it, what can you do?  I think with such a large community there's so many people, and when furs invite others to their house, it's all comes down to trust.  Knowing some people's behaviour, even if I had a house I wouldn't want to hold a furmeet, simply because my stuff is my stuff, can't/won't/don't want to trust people with it.

You can't host a general monthly furmeet when it's for the whole community, but you hate _____ so you don't want them to come.  Which is fine.  I know some people are stubborn and don't like to, or can't settle their differences because the other doesn't want to, you don't want to, or the problem is just too 'big' to settle.  So it's all about settling our differences, and trust.  Which is hard.  and we can't just push a bunch of people together and tell them they should settle things.  It's their own choice. 

If these 'differences' are solved, and we're only left with the problem of trust..  I suggest maybe a pre-monthly fur meet?  Maybe have an afternoon or evening where the person that can hold a meet invite other furries, and see if it will work out?  This will take a lot of pre-planning, like making a guest list of who is going, etc.  Then invite those people over for about one or two hours for just a pleasant tea time or something.  If their behaviour is okay, then put them on a guest list.  This is just an idea, and I actually think it might be a bit complicated to do this..  Sorry about the bad idea.

anyways, my point in teh above paragraph is that if people can't behave themselves, they don't go.  It should be easy.   Sorry for the bad english and stupid novice words that could be seen as scolding..

[wolfyy]

Hey if someone could host at there place, maybe i can set one up and get locals furr to come. Tons of fun
Get back to me. This seems fun.



<3Wolfyy<3

[Selkit]

Hey if someone could host at there place, maybe i can set one up and get locals furr to come. Tons of fun
Get back to me. This seems fun.



<3Wolfyy<3

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[RainRat]

I don't have any rule against posting to old threads. Of course, sometimes it makes more sense to start a new thread. Discussing hosting furmeets in general is probably one of those topics that can always be added to.

[sniffum]

If I can rent the community room in my building. I will host a fur meet... I remember I loved hosting way back when... How ever there are a few furs that are not welcome and they know or should know whom they are... I hope we can get back into having regular fur meets and I guess it will depend on how the first meet will go for me again if I rent the room as it's not cheap. We shall see ^_^