End of the line?

[Fargo]

talk about a self-fulfilled prophecy, guy.

No kidding... And I thought/have been told I'm a stubborn S.O.B. :(

Seriously Van, if nothing is gonna work, go see a doctor ASAP, otherwise you'll end up doing something that not only will you regret big time (from the sounds of it, could result in actual prison time), but will haunt you for the rest of your days.

If you're to start healing, the first step is to let go. It's gonna hurt, and for quite a while, but letting go is the most important bit. You have friends, as well as forum members who are more than willing to help you along.

[Roffo]

I had to see my doctor for depression. Even though you may not be able to fix the problem for awhile, at least try to find ways of coping.

[Xen Garden]

I love how someone asks for advice and then rejects all of it without even trying. What's the point of asking for help and advice when you won't even try anything? Attitudes like this won't get anyone anywhere in life. I'm sorry if this comes off as sounding angry, but stupidity like this really brings out the "Wrath" in me.

People here are trying to help you, shouldn't that make you feel special that people care about you? Do something before you push everyone away and eventually end up as alone as you feel in your time of sadness.

[Fargo]

I love how someone asks for advice and then rejects all of it without even trying. What's the point of asking for help and advice when you won't even try anything? Attitudes like this won't get anyone anywhere in life. I'm sorry if this comes off as sounding angry, but stupidity like this really brings out the "Wrath" in me.

Agreed Wrath. I can speak from experience too, having pulled what Van is pulling now.

[Van_Fox]

To be honest, eating does help, but only till the food is gone lol

[Vanilla Skunk]

I love how someone asks for advice and then rejects all of it without even trying. What's the point of asking for help and advice when you won't even try anything? Attitudes like this won't get anyone anywhere in life. I'm sorry if this comes off as sounding angry, but stupidity like this really brings out the "Wrath" in me.

Agreed Wrath. I can speak from experience too, having pulled what Van is pulling now.

Been there done that too, would rather not disrespect people like that.

[Selkit]

Van, may I make a suggestion? I personally suffer from seasonal-affective disorder, a form of depression linked to light levels and overall activity. I am *not* suggesting you get medicated (Very rarely is medication more than a crutch to get you through the worst times, and it's almost never a fix). What I am suggesting is the following:

- Get outside, and failing that, get a sunlamp, then spend some time in its presence each day, to give your glandular state a bit of a kickstart. Even for non-seasonal depression cases, sunlight is beneficial, helps you feel more awake, and can be had free, unlike the lamp. Simply open the window shades.

- Exercise. Seriously. Minimum of 20 minutes a day. What I do is 20 minutes of light exercise per day (Tabata style, throughout the day in short but intense bursts), and every third day, 45 minutes of balanced, sustained exercise. Not only will your state of fitness thank you, you will feel significantly better.

- Sleep *LESS*. If you are sleeping nine hours, and feeling badly rested, you are sleeping too much. At most, you only need 8 hours, and even then, 7 is considered a healthy adult figure, for good uninterrupted rest. If you have difficulty falling asleep, melatonin may be of use, but take the smallest dose you can find. Do be aware though, that melatonin does tend to cause some pretty vivid, lucid dreams from time to time, and should *NOT* be taken for more than four weeks; It is only a short term solution, and should not be relied on.

- Nap more. If you need it, take a half hour in the afternoon, but no more, just to settle in for some quiet time, if you can. It's quite rejuvenating.

- Drink your milk. Vitamin D deficiency and calcium deficiency will aggravate most forms of depression further, suppress your immune system, and drop your energy level into the crapper. Two glasses a day, and I'm fine.

- When you find yourself in a rut, make yourself do something. Anything. No matter how trivial it is. Do dishes. Play a game. Read a book. Anything but just crawling into bed outside of normal sleeping hours. It's quite hard to reset your circadian cycle once you've monkey-wrenched it, and you probably will want to sleep a lot. Don't. Sleep in a regular pattern.

Depression, regardless of the specific cause, is a symptom of unresolved issues in your life or biochemistry. In your case, it sounds like you may have a social issue that you can't resolve; what you can do, is immunize yourself against the symptoms bit by bit, through lifestyle changes. In my case it's a seasonal disorder, treatable with supplements, UV exposure, and regimented behavior. Costs me nothing but time, and the gained energy, the reclaimed time is worth far more than that. Work on one small thing at a time, add it to a routine (and absolutely, totally -hold- yourself to a routine! It's hard, I know, but it has to be done!), and add more as you can. Nobody here has a magic button to just make things better for you, but we can at least offer you some practical advice.

[Taiga]

Couldn't help but notice the title to this and thought maybe someone was suicidal.  Thankfully not. :o  Hopefully things have gotten better, just be careful of the advice some people give you, because it can do more damage than not.

I love how someone asks for advice and then rejects all of it without even trying. What's the point of asking for help and advice when you won't even try anything? Attitudes like this won't get anyone anywhere in life. I'm sorry if this comes off as sounding angry, but stupidity like this really brings out the "Wrath" in me.

Agreed Wrath. I can speak from experience too, having pulled what Van is pulling now.

Well, I'll agree that you ARE stubborn, and really this is one of these times where you should take your own advice.  Just sayin.'  You can't help someone if you don't follow the advice you just gave here. :o

[Runix]

Keep calm, keep control of yourself, many things work but for short periods of time, you need to be true to who you are as a person and look within, hope can never be lost, after a day ends a new one begins, take life one step at a time and try and think positively, there is always a way through life, you just need to shape your own path.

i would suggest hanging out with friends, try and smile and keep an up-beat attitude, iv been in your situation many times, but i always shake my head and try and keep calm and positive.

[southpaw]

Honestly I can tell you its more work to be in a relationship than you think, especially (no offence meant) if your with a woman. The amount of drama and bullshit will seem like nothing at first but over time things build up and if she ever ends the relationship judging by your current state over just finding someone gonna be worse than me with losing someone.. but now im  :gay: and happy (no i am not saying you must be gay to be happy) in the end please apreciate bachelorhood there is no worry about are they going to cheat or hurt you not saying they all will there are some magical ones out there  ;) and also..  depression is not a chick magnet when your depressed your body actually releases a chemical that subconsiously makes other people not want to be around you and we dun want that </3

[MurphyErasmus]

Not to mention that hinging all of your wellbeing on a relationship is guaranteed to have disastrous results.

You need to fix yourself before ANYONE will want to be with you.

[Van_Fox]

Holy crap, I havent been on in a while i didnt think people would still be posting on this XD Either you car or just love to pick at people XD
Every things kay now =3