Break ups. How do you deal with?

Started by KoutaKun, October 09, 2010, 03:26:50 PM

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KoutaKun

 hi there every one. The question here today is how do you deal with breaking up with someone. I just broke up with the love of my life. Even though we both left on good terms it still hurts a lot. I am not asking how to get over this person. Im just wondering whats a good healthy way to deal with this pain?
There are two types of ppl in this world, those who do what there told, and those who are true to them selves. Most people think your suppose to follow a predetermend path, keep your head down, obay the rules, do what evers popular, but some prefer to find there own path in life.

Vanilla Skunk

Easy. Don't do it in the first place.

KoutaKun

ouch way to kick a man while hes down. I cant change the past. I just need help dealing with it.
There are two types of ppl in this world, those who do what there told, and those who are true to them selves. Most people think your suppose to follow a predetermend path, keep your head down, obay the rules, do what evers popular, but some prefer to find there own path in life.

Purplexity

Everyone deal with it in different ways.   My best suggestion is surround yourself with good friends and go have some fun.

These things are never easy even if on mutual terms.


good luck

zenia

I've never been in a relationship... so I can't help. ^_^;;

Zetta

Dont do it in anything but reality.
dont get someone else to do it.
don't LET someone else do it, thats what i did wrong with my last girlfriend.

KoutaKun

ya thats what im doin now just hanging with friends. would anyone be interested in getting coffee down town tonight?
There are two types of ppl in this world, those who do what there told, and those who are true to them selves. Most people think your suppose to follow a predetermend path, keep your head down, obay the rules, do what evers popular, but some prefer to find there own path in life.

Van_Fox


mediar

Keep your mind busy, and like time heal the wounds.
There are 10 types of people in the world, those who understand binary and those that don't.

Arooo!

AMZinthos

I'm always looking for someone to hang out with around downtown :x

Vanilla Skunk

I'm not kicking anyone.

I just have a very low expectation of the way the world works.

I also don't handle harsh emotions very well, so I naturally develop morals and rules to make things more smooth for the next time I encounter the same situation.

My parents were together right until the end.  They were married, never divorced, stable, happy, and then they both got sick and died while I was a teenager.

Since then, all of the rest of my family has been in multiple relationships, marriages, has kids with different parents, and all kinds of bullshit that are very against the morals I grew up with.  This caused me to be very cautious about what I do as far as relationships are concerned.

I was born and raised Roman Catholic.  Marriage is a sacrament.  The more sacraments you can achieve and keep, the better off your rank is when your life is done; the less chance you have to spend time in purgatory, and the less chance you have to go to hell.

Nowadays, since I see how the religious world works, I have blacklisted marriage out of my life.  I have also blacklisted relationships out of my life because I absolutely hate the way human nature is.  Once you are committed, you are manipulated, and I simply won't have that.

I like the friends with benefits style.  Your friend isn't a true friend if they get jealous.  You're not stuck with the same person.  You're not stuck with one person.  You're not burning non-existent sacraments that I just can't get out of my head because it was taught to me at such a young age.

And don't date your friends.  Or at least don't label it a date, because then it becomes a stepping stone for relationships. :P

Don't set yourself up for failure.  Do your research, and be responsible for yourself.  You are number one in your own world, keep it that way.  The moment you put yourself at number two or higher, you will be miserable, guarenteed.

KoutaKun

thanks i never looked at it that way before. but i would never be able to do it that way. My mates happyness will always be before my own. my mate was #1 in my world and i was happy. and if ever givin the chance to get my mate back i would take it. I love my mate. and you know what? whats life without risking a little bit to be happy.
There are two types of ppl in this world, those who do what there told, and those who are true to them selves. Most people think your suppose to follow a predetermend path, keep your head down, obay the rules, do what evers popular, but some prefer to find there own path in life.

Zetta

Life's a gamble, Just gotta know when to hold out.

KoutaKun

true true. but none the less i was happy.
There are two types of ppl in this world, those who do what there told, and those who are true to them selves. Most people think your suppose to follow a predetermend path, keep your head down, obay the rules, do what evers popular, but some prefer to find there own path in life.

Xen Garden

I'm sorry you 2 had to go your separate ways *Hugs* Call me, text me, or talk to me on MSN if you need someone to talk to <3 (Since we went to art class together in high school lol)