Dating section?

[Acco]

Yes. I still think it's worth a shot. I think just blasting it down before it's even had a chance to be tested is, frankly, retarded. We can eliminate the legality/underage liability issue by allowing only verified users (either through having them hold up some official ID + their face, or in person) use said subforum - it's doable with SMF. And again, it's much harder to figure relation stuff out online. Much easier to make connections IRL, face to face, at events.

As far as I'm concerned, vfur has lost a lot of what it was, and, people just shooting ideas down like this makes the state of our group even worse. I think that the established community needs to let up a bit and see what the new people can bring as far as ideas go, cause let's face it... vfur isn't nearly as hot as it was 1 year ago.

[Vanilla Skunk]

True, but at the same time, this mostly encourages the smaller groups crap again.  Especially if you wind up dating someone antisocial.

The group needs some more options.  Individuals, couples, and singles have millions of options, but right now our group doesn't have much at all.  Where should we be focusing?

[Raikon]

I completely agree with Ember on this, except I feel there's one extra step.

Meets these days are pretty inconsistent, so people are going to have to find a way to make the first moment of contact happen, whether it's trying to make a random trip to a mall or maybe an adventurous walk through a park/forest or whatever you feel would be enjoyable.  If finding a date is so important to you then stop sitting around waiting for someone to host something for you to go to and make something yourself.  Who knows, you might even get bonus points for stepping up and running something.  I'm not saying it's easy to run something even if it's just getting people together to go for a walk, but you can't rely on other people hosting stuff for you.

Should there be a dating section?  That's up to you guys.  I personally don't like the idea of talking to people with the sole purpose of finding a date.  If someone was talking to me and I knew they only came to talk to me hoping to get a date it would feel pretty awkward.  I'm more the type that prefers making friends and establishing good connections first though, and I know not everyone is like that.

I don't think it's a bad idea.  As long as it's kept safe (people being honest about themselves and not saying they're 10-20 years younger then they are) it should be ok.  My biggest worry is dating someone without being positive you want to date that person.  Getting asked out is a lot of pressure and if you feel desperate you'll probably say yes right away before really thinking about it.  More often then not those relationships end in a bad break up.

As long as people are smart, careful, and don't rush into anything past meeting up for coffee/etc, the section might be good for some people.

[Van_Fox]

There are alot of ways it could go wrong >_>

[Sabretoothed Ermine]

Maybe instead of making the section specifically for "dating" it could just be "personals", like in the paper? I'm with Raikon in that I believe in at least some sort of friendship before full-on dating; but I can also see that without regular furmeets it's hard to even meet furs to become friends with. It'd be nice if most of the ads were along the lines of "looking for furs in my area to meet for coffee or a movie", just keep it casual. You'd definitely want some warnings and a disclaimer just in case though, so there's no way this site could be held responsible if something did go wrong. Hopefully people are smart about it.

Just wanted to comment on what Lt ReiStark said earlier...

and well im not deperate for a date i can get one at school tomorow if i ask somone, but is it realy a good idea to date somone if they cant understand our fandom..... no it is not, as i have said.

Don't give up! Firstly, it's a mistake to assume that no-one else you know is secretly a furry. I've been surprised many times by finding hidden furryness in people I knew - often they don't even know what furry is, and even the ones that do aren't necessarily into the online social aspect. I've found that furries tend to just find one another... though the fact that I wore a tail for my last two years of high school probably helped :P
Secondly, you had some pretty poor dates if they can't accept a totally harmless aspect of what makes you "you". Most of my current friends aren't remotely furry, but they all know about my furriness to some extent, and they accept it as just being one of those funny quirks that makes us all unique. Even my fiance isn't furry, but he's totally cool with it and has even joined some furry sites to find out what it's all about and try to get involved. There are good people out there who aren't furries too!
The bottom line is, people are people, and whether or not someone's a furry doesn't mean their personality is any more or less likely to mesh with yours.

Just some reassurance :3

[Vanilla Skunk]

There's a better approach.

I would probably use a personals board.  Because it doesn't have to do with actual dating, I can use it to go kill time with some people who are in our fandom, and might be available at a certain time of the day...

Kinda like a "My plans fell through for Sunday, anyone wanna grab a coffee around noon?"

[AMZinthos]

You know what.. those interested in dating should just post on their profiles "Single and looking <sexuality>" and if someone is interested just Message em privately. I mean if wanna post enough info to find a date on the forums why not just put it on your profile? I'm pretty sure people interested in dating looks at profiles randomly >.>

[Van_Fox]

Thats....actually a good idea o.o

[whitewolfy88]

...might just do that :birdy:

[Acco]

The personals section sounds like a good compromise between dating and not having any section.

That being said, I still have no problems with the idea of somebody hosting a vfur singles night. *shrug*

[mediar]

I smell a whole ton of legal/BS/drama coming from a dating forum... Personals might be a better idea... I dunno going out and talking to ppl is the best option IMO. If you're on an island or up north well, please don't get offended but,.. unfortunately it sucks to be you. If you see someone on the forum that is close to you and you might like to get to know, PM them, suggest coffee and go from there... /shrug

[Van_Fox]

What if, there was a section in your profile like the about me section, but you use it for what your looking for if your single?

[Xen Garden]

I'm single, but I don't look for my lovers online. I prefer to meet people in person so I have an idea what they are like in person. And there's a 99.9% that the person will get rejected. But only because I seem to attract creepy people that aren't worth my time normally. And they are from the Anime community. >_<;;

Also I think the dating section (No offense) will make us look desperate. There's nothing that irks me more than being in a fandom, and the impression the local people give to the outside world is a bad one.

[whitewolfy88]

Also I think the dating section (No offense) will make us look desperate. There's nothing that irks me more than being in a fandom, and the impression the local people give to the outside world is a bad one.

I think the lady has a point there.

[Van_Fox]

Personally, I think it would be good cause I rather date someone who is a furry =/