Seeking Depressive Advice

[Tiyu]

I am Tiyu.w. Pleased to meet you.w.

I have come to realize that I have forgotten how to deal with life's weariness!
Due to certain events...(laugh if you will!) I have come to realize that I am livinghave forgotten
how I dealt with life's weary issues and problems.w.

I used to bottle them up and laugh it off, but this is the second time I've plummeted
down to the deepest of blues.w. What am I doing with my life!? Why am I stuck in a rut?!
SUre, others have much more serious issues thatn i do in terms of livelihood and all,
but they are themselves, as selfish as it may seem, I can't seem to go forward any more.w.

TL;DR: How do I deal wih intrusive, depressive episodes about my daily lives as I search for
an affordable counsellor? No, I won't and don't cut myself, you goddamn sadist trolls.w.  :-3Neither
do I want meds, alcohol or drugs, ya drug pushers.w. :-3 There's distraction by throwing oneself at work, but
the problem is these episodes come and go,.w. :-3

I tire of being on this plateau, of sadness and ineffectuality.

Constructive posts only- this thread may prove valuable to others with similiar issues, including yourself.w.!

[Samurai Kai]

Hey Tiyu! I've found surrounding myself with friends and going out to do fun stuff helps a lot. It also helps to have a close friend or family member to talk about certain things. Sometimes the reason we get depressed is because there is an issue that remains unresolved with ourselves. What also has helped me is how I look at life and things. The only thing I get is sometimes feeling lonely and conflicted but that's it. I use to have bad suicidal thoughts and use to get really down in the dumps often but I've changed since then. I don't really believe in drugs or pills either if you can help it, but some people really really need them for many reasons, mood swings perhaps ect. Do you think there's something that is causing you all this? That could help if you were to figure it out. Also, being emotionally aware of what you're feeling and recognizing it helps. I do that too sometimes. "I recognize what I am feeling but I will not let it affect me." Don't try to ignore it either. Embrace it, acknowledge what you feel but tell yourself you will not let it get you down. For me, sometimes I just let it dwell around and listen to Celtic music and let it "dance" itself away. Just earlier I was feeling down and I listened to some and it helped a lot! ;D here's the piece if you wish to listen~

Faun - Rhianna
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBDFrIwJy4Q

[Tegir]

if your family dr thinks it is a serious issue, they can refer you to a psychiatrist. since a psychiatrist is a dr, they are covered by MSP, unlike counsellors or psychologists. thats the only free thing there is. i wont say anything else since you seem to be quite against any other recommendation.

i will say though that some of us have been through it all and know what your going through, but you are giving yourself very limited options. it sounds like you dont acknowledge what is actually wrong, or like my friend who doesnt want to think he has any mental problems (maybe because it seems shameful?), instead he is tearing himself apart and doing dangerous things.

[Tiyu]

Katajikenai de gozaru, Kai dono!

Thank you for the advice! I do have some close friends, but I feel they might be weary .w.

The Celtic music is loverly.w. I do have work, and have to move house soon, but Iwould like to hang with friends (furry and non furry) and do fun stuff.w.
Indeed, you are right, there are many unresolved things I do have to do.w. it took a rupture to figure it out.w.

I am glad for the kindness of this community.w.
haha, some psych undergrad grad I am.w. Well, true enough, I don't and haven't seen a counsellor yet.w. And I do embrace it, but it floods me like some tidal wave.w. Perhaps I do have some undiagonosed mental health issues (Oh the stigma!But there shouldn't be.w.) I've never known I might have, like ADHD, bipolar- I mean, these blues they come and go in waves- and I've been distracting myself in my downtime with animu and mindless entertainment (non harmful) because I am overwhelmed with all that I want to do it leads to procratination and lack of motivation.w.!

Funny how that works.w. But very merci for the advice, Kai dono!


Tegir! Merci for the counsel too.w. Unfortunately, the family doctor I have is not someone I want to go to for health.w. They are too busy and overwhelmned here in Richmond, and I fear the culture gap (my more western Asian Canadian-ness against their most Asian Asian Canadian values- aiii, revealing too much about myself, whoops.w. ).w.

I do acknowledge what is wrong, but I am somehow afraid, unknowingly of confronting it- i do know I might have mental issues, undiagnosed things, as mention ed before, and very terrible lack of motivation.w. But I don't do dangerous things, (well except for ones which make me sedentary and very round.w.) It's maybe also frustration at myself for all these wasted years of youth, but not knowing how to get to the ideal self (see Maslow's hierarchies), and I'll admit (because I am mortal) unneeded jealousy (those disgusting twinges we all experience) at some others ' successes- which is in effect, a self defence mechanism against my own failures.w.

Ah, as creepy as it may sound, you two do seem quite interesting, let's have more of a chat.w.!


Merci,  katajikenaidegozaru , and kamshia (heartfelt gratitude in Southern Min dialect)! for the advice.w.!

[Tegir]

lol, i dont think you said too much. there are lots of asians in richmond, i wont figure out who you are if thats what your worried about. i am actually extremely familiar with the asian dr thing and the culture gap. i would be happy to talk to you any time about anything. i just find replying on the forum annoying since i mostly use my phone. feel free to email me if you want, its more instant for me. anyways, let me know. i have a lot of experience with your situation and have quite a broad range of things ive tried. im not just about the drs. teagirvaru@gmail.com

[ppakky]

Well what do you want in your life?

Most kids grow up doing what they're told, they don't have to think. They're dreams and aspirations in life are from the seniors around them. Then they get a shitty job, move out, and think what now? I don't know how to think on my own.

What do you want?
What will make you happy?

Not what will sustain you for money for the next month, not what people think you should do, not what you think people will immediately appreciate you for. Just, what will make you happy.

You don't have to immediately act on it. But just push everything in your mind aside, Family, Friends, Society. What will make you happy? give yourself a moment of thought on it. Your own world, secluded in time. What will make you happy?

Because really, if you just tell people you're sad, with no context, it's hard to help you.

People are sad all the time. Everyone is sad. Everyday people get sad for some reason or another. When you tell a sad person you're sad 'just because' they already got a lot of shit to work out.

You're the only person in your mind. Find something to represent on the table. If the thing you want to do, feels mundane or obscure to share publicly with people. Then that's most likely your problem. But I can guarantee you there's people with the same interests.

They're people like you and people that will appreciate you. You have to work for it though.

[Tegir]

that is a very white-centric answer. it diesnt apply to asians. and as universally sound as your answer is, and well thought out; it would seem like pure common sense. but, asian culture and society just doesnt think the same way on obvious answers. i have experienced this first hand many times. it is very hard to removes one's self from your innate cultural upbringing. it should be that easy, but its not. if they would listen to your words and BE ABLE to follow them, then yes, a lot of then would be a lot happier, but would also remove a big part of who they are.

[Tiyu]

DONE WITH THE DEPRESSION.w.

Sorry for the late reply.w.
Merci for teha dvice.w.

[Samurai Kai]

DONE WITH THE DEPRESSION.w.

Sorry for the late reply.w.
Merci for teha dvice.w.

YEAH!! VICTORY!

Remember you still have us to talk to if things go down again.  ;D

[Tiyu]

Katjikenai de gozaru- !

[Nibi]

DONE WITH THE DEPRESSION.w.

Sorry for the late reply.w.
Merci for teha dvice.w.

My Japanese is rusty but...Omedetou! (Hope that's the word I wanted. XD)

[tokar]

My Japanese is rusty but...Omedetou! (Hope that's the word I wanted. XD)

freetranslation.com might help