Moving out from parents. No clue what to do, where to start. HALP!!!

Rushlight · February 12, 2015, 05:20:34 PM

So, as some of you may no, my relationship with my parents is NOT a good one. Im fairly sure that if i stay there either they, or I, will end up dead. So, as it stands, I've been givin my thirty days notice essentially.

So, the question is, where do i begin?
I need resources; what should i look for? what should i look at first?
what are my main priorities? rent? food? transit? roommates?
what do i doo. im clueless here XD

anyone got any resources or sugestions, or books, panphlets, anything?
(fyi, im alergic to wheat, so food is always fucking expensive for me)

(and sorry to all the grammar nazi's for any spelling errors there may be)

~Iihyaresh

Atom · February 12, 2015, 05:39:22 PM

I don't know your exact situation but it sounds slightly similar to what I went through last year.

Priorities I would say are rent and food, roommates is a very good idea.
If you don't have a job, get one, no matter how much money you have saved you'll see it goes pretty quickly.
Look on Craigslist at rooms/shared accommodations, you can find lots of people looking to just rent out a room in their house for around $400. The upside to this is that sometimes it can include all your utilities and luxuries like cable and internet.

RainRat · February 12, 2015, 05:40:18 PM

Kids Help Phone. Seriously. They're for people 20 and under and can help with issues appropriate for that age range.

http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/

SharpCoyote · February 12, 2015, 05:54:21 PM

It is hella expensive living on your own. Roomie(s) are almost mandatory.
Being young, and moving out for the first time, you will get no love from any landlord I have ever heard of;
try to get in with peeps who are already established, and looking for help with their own rent.

Walking distance to a skytrain station is also a very good idea to maintain access to employment.

RainRat · February 12, 2015, 06:01:26 PM

Yep, that too. There's a Rental/Housing board here. You can start a new thread if you don't see one that meets your needs. http://www.bcfurries.com/forum/index.php?board=45.0

Rushlight · February 12, 2015, 06:09:05 PM

Well, i definetly have a sound job that payes rather well. (10.25/h + bonuses = 11-11.5/h (not to mention lotsa free shit))

Transit is a MUST (unless im close to the corner of willingdon and hastings)

My roommates MUST be tollerable, and CANNOT be messy in the kitchen area. the whole gluten free thing means cross-contamination can make me sick over long periods of time.

I don't have very much cassh saved up as it is right now, so im not sure what to do.

I don't have access to a phone, so the kids help phone is useless (that, ad i can download/copy anything on the internet)

Rushlight · February 12, 2015, 06:22:29 PM

I guess im kinda nervous/ afraid of whats going to happen. I know very well that i could be homeless and starve to death. Seeing as how i tend to fuck up everything that's a very real possibility...

RainRat · February 12, 2015, 07:00:59 PM

Don't be too scared about having a roommate. If you're trying to be a good roommate and making your rent payments on time, you're doing better than half the furries out there.

About the food thing, I used to have a roommate who had his own mini-fridge, microwave, and dishes in his room. He never used the kitchen. Maybe you'll find a roomie with similar diet, but there's always that option.

Mosesj · February 13, 2015, 12:59:25 AM

1, keep a list of what you need to do today. It is very important to remind yourself what your responsiblities are, it is very important.

2, establish clear rules and boundries with your roommates. Divy up responsiblities and make it clear who does what.

3, keep a weekly and monthly budget. When money's going to be tight, you need to keep track of what you're spending on. Giving yourself a weekly allowance will help make sure you're not going over and will help you from breaking your wallet.

4. Calm down, it's not as bad as you think it is. when I first moved out on my own, I was rather nervous and scared. But I found having my own place was much more preferable then living under someone else's rules.

5. Be a respectful tenant, be considerate. However, if your landlord has utilities or something beneficial to you, make sure you're getting to use that. If there's something your landlord has to do, keep on top of telling them. They can often forget about your issue for weeks or months

tokar · February 13, 2015, 09:51:35 AM

Quote from: Rushlight on February 12, 2015, 06:22:29 PM
I guess im kinda nervous/ afraid of whats going to happen. I know very well that i could be homeless and starve to death. Seeing as how i tend to fuck up everything that's a very real possibility...

there are so many places around for free food, that there is no reason for anyone in greater vancouver to starve to death.

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before you do anything else go online and apply for income assistance (welfare). you may not need it now but who knows about tomorrow? gov.bc.ca or call 1 866 866 0800 (it is a free call) -- and follow the prompts to get info on how to apply and they can also refer you to places that can help.

unfortunately they are downtown, but you can contact Covenant House. they help youth with housing and i think job finding.

once you have a place and are in need of kitchen items, i have a bunch of things that may be useful such as basic kfs, cooking knives, some bake ware, flippers aka spatula, and more.

believe it or not, this will pass and it will get better.