I need advice on chatting.

[Fuzzum]

as said i need advice on chatting with these furs i cant seem to keep a convo going just dies after a wile, i cant see what im doing wrong, id like to learn how to keep it going. advice/help

[Zen]

Do you mean in person or online?

[zenia]

lol This is why I am mostly never on Skype... I just don't have anything to say. XDD That and some people share WAY too much info.

[Nibi]

You may have the same problem I do, that I can't keep up a conversation unless it's IRL. xD I'm only good at talking on forums because you can reply whenever you want and there's no pressure but when it comes to me talking online over Skype or anything else the conversations usually die. Sometimes it helps to share interesting things you may have found online I've noticed and that can help keep the conversation alive a little longer. :D

[Tef]

Hm, I'd presume it would be texting. Methinks perhaps it depends on how you text or somewhat in relation to the chat community, and vice versa. Just a hunch, really.

[Tony Greyfox]

Sometimes conversations do reach a point where they're not going anywhere else and die down on their own. That's not necessarily bad.

Having said that, you can always look around for lists of conversation topics or suggestions for making small talk - it can be a way to get to know people and find interesting things to chat about. Sharing fun stuff you find online, as mentioned above, works too as long as the other person is into the things you find...

[zedigalis]

Be fun, and change the subject often! I love chatting online, I can be random and fun.
a good icebreaker for a stalled covo online (with other furs) Is to do something like

zedigalis flies up to the ceiling and hangs upside down
zedigalis comes back with lemonade and cookies
zedigalis: Refreshments have arrived!

I find adding actions to a chat makes it soo much more interesting!

[tokar]

COOKIES!!  someone has cookies??  and lemonaid    i'm in.

[Nibi]

COOKIES!!  someone has cookies??  and lemonaid    i'm in.

Me too. :|

[zedigalis]

COOKIES!!  someone has cookies??  and lemonaid    i'm in.

Me too. :|

zedigalis sets up a table and sets out cookies and lemonaid

zedigalis: COOKIES! COOKIES FOR EVERY ONE! (/Sheogorath reference)

[Dervacor]

I think we've all been there, having a conversation with someone you like and want to be friends with, but don't know quite well enough to hold meaningful dialogue with!  Or maybe you do know them, but have no new things to talk about.

Nowadays I just hermit up for a few weeks, do something awesome, come out, bask in conversation, and hermit up again.

NO I DO NOT HAVE AN ANSWER TO THIS THREAD. :<

But yeah, I find I can talk to almost anyone for serious, it just takes being interested in learning who they are and trying to have them teach you something about the world we live in.

The most important advice I can give anyone in holding a good conversation is to actually listen and care about what the other person is saying.  Give them the opportunity to respond about something they care about, try to figure out what drives them, and learn to enjoy sharing that moment.  We are social beings by nature, people love having fun conversations but often just don't know how.  Not every conversation can be awesome, don't make it a chore, keep it fun.  Sometimes you need a break to assimilate and grow even if it's just an evening.

Also, I highly suggest being interesting yourself so the chat partner doesn't get bored. ;)

[Fuzzum]

got ya ya i got a bunch of random facts to add but they have to be triggured by the topic in order for me to remember them.

me be more interesting i can at least try, random stuff/actions hmm.

mybe others can use this to so keep the advice commin. my brains kinda died right now so nothing to ass

[kohl]

Just do what ever. Practise. Talk to lots and lots of different people. I rarely ever know what I'm responding to in personal messages, but just bring something up that you're interested in. Mention something that you've remembered in the past, something that happened during the day, ask a question that may lead to another response. Don't always expect a response either. Soemtimes people just arn't interested in a certain thing. Doesn't mean they can't like you. Just try again. Try different situations too. Open Group, private rooms, one on one. A good practise for breaking ice and trying to keep a convo going with new people is Omegle.com. Any help? hit me back. I like messaging you.

[Dervacor]

Oh, cool Kohl, omegle is actually a really creative and useful suggestion! :)

Definitely could sharpen your skills of conversation there.

[Neox]

Be fun, and change the subject often! I love chatting online, I can be random and fun.
a good icebreaker for a stalled covo online (with other furs) Is to do something like

zedigalis flies up to the ceiling and hangs upside down
zedigalis comes back with lemonade and cookies
zedigalis: Refreshments have arrived!

I find adding actions to a chat makes it soo much more interesting!

That might work for some people; but for myself, I find it extremely annoying. Depends on who you're chatting with, I guess.

You're not going to be able to talk to EVERYONE like they're your best friend. Some people will simply be boring to you, and others may find you boring.  Find people who like what you like. It's the same rule of thumb as making friends in real life. If a conversation keeps dying after a few lines, kick it and move to the next person. You're not going to be able to entertain everyone, and similarly, you won't find everyone entertaining.