How to jam my door?

Sevrin · March 26, 2011, 03:41:06 AM

oh god that would be creepy

MurphyErasmus · March 26, 2011, 04:20:28 PM

I will never look at any of my dildos the same way again ...

kohl · March 29, 2011, 02:48:45 AM

Leave a sock on the door handle with some music playing in the room.

MurphyErasmus · March 29, 2011, 06:59:37 PM

That doesn't help with her taking my shit.

Fargo · March 30, 2011, 05:10:23 PM

You're gonna have to put a lock on your door, if you want to stop her from entering your room. Especially if moving out is NOT feasible.

kohl · March 31, 2011, 01:16:42 AM

Just finding ways to not make her to not want to go in. Also a solution that would not damge the knob or the door. Actually locking or blocking the door may piss her off. Then you might have to stay there without a door at all.
My solution would be to figure out what you would really like to keep, stuff it in a backpack, take it with you.

Sikkab · March 31, 2011, 05:46:40 AM

Just lube up the door handle. She won't want to go in after that.

Sevrin · March 31, 2011, 01:55:21 PM

Quote from: Sikkab on March 31, 2011, 05:46:40 AM
Just lube up the door handle. She won't want to go in after that.

this is a good idea

MurphyErasmus · March 31, 2011, 03:01:35 PM

Quote from: Sikkab on March 31, 2011, 05:46:40 AM
Just lube up the door handle. She won't want to go in after that.

I lost my shit. Lolololol.

SO doing this.

Neox · April 01, 2011, 09:12:23 PM

The fact that your mother would be willingly throwing away your sex-toys is somewhat baffling to me. If I were in the same scenario with my parents, my folks would probably be weirded-out so bad to the point that they wouldn't even make mention to anything remotely phallic:

Mum: "I'm going grocery-shopping, Steve, what would you like for fruit?"

Me: "Apples and bananas, plz."

Mum: "Okay! Apples it is!"

What I would do, though, is I'd specifically tell her that those things cost a great amount of money (I mean, hell... my BD toy cost me what... $120?), and that you'd greatly appreciate it if she could leave what is YOURS alone.

Don't do anything destructive or counterproductive. You ARE living in HER house and you technically have no right to be locking your door, I'm afraid. And if your parents are anything like mine are, you'd come back to find that the door has been kicked-in and completely removed. (I arrogantly played my xbox way late into the night a few times and I came home from school one day to find the TV completely gone but my xbox was still sitting there. I owned the xbox but it was my dad's TV, lol.)

Good luck in your situation. =P I'd be absolutely furious to find out that my parents were removing my owned items without my permission. Living alone does have its benefits.

Sevrin · April 01, 2011, 10:09:07 PM

Quote from: Naetholix on April 01, 2011, 09:12:23 PM
You ARE living in HER house and you technically have no right to be locking your door, I'm afraid.

I disagree, that's like saying, your landlord has the right to come into the room you are renting because its their house, everyone deserves privacy, and living in a place where you feel like you're constantly being watched or having people go through all your stuff is no way to live at all, when I lived with my parents I made it very clear to them that my room was MY ROOM and that they had no right to enter without my permission except in certain situations that could be compared to law enforcement entering your house with a warrant eg: removal of unowned objects due to failure to complete chores (repossession), room inspection due to suspicion of theft, etc.
the right to privacy is an essential one, and what murphys mother is doing enrages me because it violates that right.

EmoFox · April 01, 2011, 10:22:04 PM

Quote from: Naetholix on April 01, 2011, 09:12:23 PMYou ARE living in HER house and you technically have no right to be locking your door, I'm afraid.

I'm sorry, but if Murphy took her parents to court over it, demanding reimbursement for the items lost, especially since she is an adult, the defense "She lives in MY house, she has no right to privacy, personal belongings etc." Would not stand up in court, and her mother would lose. Why? Because it doesn't matter who's house you're living in, it doesn't matter if they're charging you rent, you ALWAYS have a basic right to privacy, ESPECIALLY after you've reached the age of majority. If murphy was under age, I could see perhaps a talking to if it really made her mother THAT uncomfortable, but nothing, -NOTHING- gives her the right to do what she is doing. And nothing gives her the right to remove murphy's door should she install a lock.

Although in retrospect, I can't help but wonder, Murphy, did you confront her about her actions? Tell her "hey, that's my stuff, wtf are you doing? I spent my hard earned cash on that. How about I go toss out your sex toys?" or anything like that?

Neox · April 02, 2011, 12:12:24 PM

Sorry, I think I should have worded that "You have no right to be modifying elements of the house that you don't own." If your door already had a lock on it, I don't see what the problem would be. Maybe ask them if you could do this. And if you pay rent, Murphy, then yes, I would agree that it's perfectly reasonable to install a lock on your door without having to ask. However, if you're living for free, I have to say that your level of authority over the situation is somewhat diminished.

EmoFox · April 02, 2011, 01:37:58 PM

aah the age old argument; which is greater, the rights of the individual or the rights of society?
How much privacy is too much? Either way you look at it, it's an invasion of Murphy's privacy. Whether she pays rent or not is irrelevant, it's still an invasion of her privacy. The logical step to protect one's privacy when it's being invaded is to install a lock. So now which is greater, Murphy's right to privacy (i almost typed piracy, lol) or her mother's right to her property?

That's what it comes down to. And again I point out that in a court of law, or even taken up to the residential tenancy branch, Murphy would win, because the privacy of an individual is generally considered greater than a landlord/homeowners right to invade said privacy. Why? Because no one has the right to invade the privacy of another human being, especially one's that are over the age of maturity. It's not a question of Murphy's authority over anything, it's a question of human rights regarding privacy. Just because Murphy is living in her mother's house, rent free or not, does not mean that she waives her right to privacy. If her mother can't respect her privacy, then murphy should protect it by installing a lock.

MurphyErasmus · April 02, 2011, 05:18:42 PM

I absolutely have confronted her about the loss of my personal property. Her response is usually along the lines of "Well, you're living under my roof and have to follow my rules!" The thing is, my brother smokes dope and steals and hocks our stuff, and gets away with it. I've been told that if my room isn't clean, I'll be out on the streets. And I really, really wish I was exaggerating.

Oh, I'm also permagrounded because I haven't found a job yet. Which means I can't go out and apply for one. Seriously? Occasionally I can get outside and go job hunting, but for the most part, I'm not allowed out.

The weirdest part is, these are only occasional outbursts of crazy. The rest of the time she's cool, and a great person to be around. At the moment I'm barricaded in my room, facing the very real possibility of finding a new place to sleep tonight and for the next little while, but just this morning she made me a latte and we talked about a play I just saw the other night.

I just bought an OhMiBod, which cost me over $80. Before I even had a chance to use it, it was gone. I had opened it ONCE to look at it, and it was still in it's box.

As for a lock, she's removed my door before and would not hesitate to do it again. At the moment I've jammed a stick and a leather strap against the handle, so she can't get in, but it only works when I'm in my room.

The last time this sort of craziness occurred, I was sixteen. She punched me in the head and I wound up with a concussion. TO THIS DAY I have a dent in my skull. I really don't want it to get to that point again, but I simply can't afford to leave, unless I sleep on the streets.