Fuck it all

[Carthage]

god i love my health.
</sarcasm>

Grand-mal seizures in professional kitchens are great for job security. You should see how impressed they are with my performance when I regain consciousness. :D

I've found that learning to take myself a little less seriously made my life a lot simpler. I still have a lot of the same concerns I've had since I was a teenager, but I don't let them affect my day-to-day life nearly as much as I used to.

Similarly, in my own job hunt I'm worried about my health and the problems that it can cause in a kitchen, but I choose to let it be a problem when it becomes one, and not before. There's no need to give away a potential career-maker because I'm afraid of something that might never happen.

[zenia]

Took me six months without a single interview before I landed my job. I was lucky that a seamstress job opened up an d the owner of the shop didn't judge people based on appearance. He hired me on the spot to work a few shifts to try me out. I've been there a little more than 5 years now. I was definitely qualified. I learned to sew 21 years ago. XD

[MurphyErasmus]

Grand-mal seizures in professional kitchens are great for job security. You should see how impressed they are with my performance when I regain consciousness. :D

I've found that learning to take myself a little less seriously made my life a lot simpler. I still have a lot of the same concerns I've had since I was a teenager, but I don't let them affect my day-to-day life nearly as much as I used to.

Similarly, in my own job hunt I'm worried about my health and the problems that it can cause in a kitchen, but I choose to let it be a problem when it becomes one, and not before. There's no need to give away a potential career-maker because I'm afraid of something that might never happen.

Sounds really fun! D:

Are they at least sympathetic about your condition once you're hired? It's not like your seizing on purpose to get out of washing dishes or anything.

I've found a LOT of employers aren't sympathetic when it comes to my hallucinations. Every so often I'll have auditory hallucinations at work, or become absolutely convinced I'm living in a shadow world, and it usually gets me fired almost immediately. Whoop!

[Selkit]

Fuck the lot of you. I lose an entire maternal half of my family, I'm hated for having a trust consisting of what's willed from the death of my mother, my grandmother and others, I come asking for any perspective at all, and after having lost my marriage to the situation, all I get is spat on. I'm really getting some perspective on why people think this community has gone to hell. So go ahead. Kick at me a bit more while I'm down. Trivialize the time spent looking; Look for any excuse to get your daily dose of schadenfreude or martyr act in, in a pointless fit of one-upmanship. Thanks.

[Renwaldo]

I'm sorry Selkit, I just can't think of what to write. I don't feel that way about you.  :-\ I don't know what to say, I spent 4 weeks 'seriously' looking for a job, and I was offered one right away.
I don't have a college education - I mean I failed my last highschool class the first time. I don't know what to tell you.

Don't give up. Brown nosing is the way to do it of course, even if it feels demeaning.

edit: Out of curiousity, what's your specialty? What income level are you hoping for?

[H u nn Y]

Fuck the lot of you. I lose an entire maternal half of my family, I'm hated for having a trust consisting of what's willed from the death of my mother, my grandmother and others, I come asking for any perspective at all, and after having lost my marriage to the situation, all I get is spat on. I'm really getting some perspective on why people think this community has gone to hell. So go ahead. Kick at me a bit more while I'm down. Trivialize the time spent looking; Look for any excuse to get your daily dose of schadenfreude or martyr act in, in a pointless fit of one-upmanship. Thanks.

I'm sorry Selkit, I hope this had nothing to do with my post.. I was only trying to lighten up the situation, I wasn't trying to push you down or anything.. I'm really sorry......  :-[

[Unition]

Fuck the lot of you. I lose an entire maternal half of my family, I'm hated for having a trust consisting of what's willed from the death of my mother, my grandmother and others, I come asking for any perspective at all, and after having lost my marriage to the situation, all I get is spat on. I'm really getting some perspective on why people think this community has gone to hell. So go ahead. Kick at me a bit more while I'm down. Trivialize the time spent looking; Look for any excuse to get your daily dose of schadenfreude or martyr act in, in a pointless fit of one-upmanship. Thanks.

Here's the problem as I see it; a lot of what you are saying is scattered.  How is the money related to your job woes?  If you want to talk about your job problems, do so - but some people may see bringing up the money as an attempt at bragging...or even entitlement.
This is not just one person noticing this in what you've put down, but several people.  If you'd like sympathy or perspective maybe pare your post down to just the basics.

[Sevrin]

Fuck the lot of you. I lose an entire maternal half of my family, I'm hated for having a trust consisting of what's willed from the death of my mother, my grandmother and others, I come asking for any perspective at all, and after having lost my marriage to the situation, all I get is spat on. I'm really getting some perspective on why people think this community has gone to hell. So go ahead. Kick at me a bit more while I'm down. Trivialize the time spent looking; Look for any excuse to get your daily dose of schadenfreude or martyr act in, in a pointless fit of one-upmanship. Thanks.

Look, Selkit, you've been through some shit, its terrible whats happened to you, but that's not what you made this thread about, all people can see is that you have lots of money and you're complaining about it, and you're saying you're better than people, and you're saying you want the world to burn, its not that nobody cares, its that you chose your words poorly, and that's probably not what you wanted to hear but I think its important that you know.

you're a furry, that makes you family to me, and sometimes family doesn't always get along, but I really do care, and again I'm sorry.

[Unition]

Here's some 100% honest advice on your situation.

1. From now on, don't talk to ANYONE about your money.  This includes mates/GFs/wives.  Telling people about windfalls NEVER works out.  From now on it doesn't exist!

2. Craft a specific resume for each job you are applying for.  The shotgun approach does not work with job applications.  It may take more time but an obviously copypasted resume gets thrown in the trash right away by the hiring supervisor/interviewer.

3. When it comes, don't expect to use your inheritance to pay bills, support you, etc.  Call your bank and get a financial advisor, or get a private one.  Invest the money, save the money, buy property, just don't fritter it away.  If I ever have kids and they used my inheritance unwisely I'd come back from the dead and beat sense into them.

[MurphyErasmus]

Selkit, some people have been a bit snappy, but others have offered solutions, myself included.

I know it's hard to see past the negative. I, too, am one of those "lucky" people with a trust fund thanks to the death of a family member, and I really understand how that feels. I'd rather have my father back anyday.

Anyway, please remember that there are people here who want to help you.

[Selkit]

Let me clarify, Uni; The release can happen at 25, on discretion weighing heavily in favor of hardship relief, educational planning or child-rearing. I'll be hitting 28 in a few months. That's one crucial fact which was inadvertently omitted, which would have clarified why it was even mentioned. If it wasn't for the mismanagement of an inheritance I lost two family members for, I'd be in university, right now, investing in a better future for myself, with the balance sitting in a GIA or equivalent account for retirement. That's the sole reason it was even mentioned, is that these issues could end with the stroke of a pen. Still, it should not have been mentioned. As far as job applications run (Save for the spray and pray mall-chaff; Yes, even the fast food joints have a copy of my generic resume sitting around, for what it's worth) has been tailored based on research into the target company, with a non-form cover letter affixed. I can't pare my resume down any further without putting a five year deep, curiously empty timespan onto it. Point three? Please don't assume I'm going to stupidly fritter away what's left. It's a disturbingly common assumption, that casts subconsciously suggestive aspersions that the recipient is a wastrel or spendthrift until proven otherwise.

That said, given the caliber of attitude shown through the community today, my own included, I believe I need to back out of any further BCF events or communications. I apologize for the tone of my original posting. Those of you who know where to contact me outside the forums, feel free to do so.

[EmoFox]

EmoFox, hearing all that makes me want to come up to you and give you a big hug as well. I'm really sorry to hear that you went through all that before.. nobody should have to go through something like that, and yet it still happens.. and the best we can do is keep our chins up and move on. There's still more to come in the future, so let's make the best of it right now. It isn't the end of the world, and it doesn't have to be. Working together as a team helps out more than fighting the battle alone. You've got Jester and Rain supporting you all the way, they are there with you when you need them. And that's the best thing about having a sibling, is having someone there to help you up when you fall. I personally don't have any siblings of my own, but I've always got my friends to go to when I need them the most.

Sorry, I really should have clarified, I didn't go through all of that. But I have friends who have, family who have, etc. I was just pointing out that some one will always have it worse. My current situation does suck, I'm not going to share it here because I'm not comfortable with that sort of thing, but it's not as bad as some of the ones I've listed. And while my financial situation may be worse than Selkit's in my eyes, I can certainly appreciate the stress and frustration he is feeling.

Selkit, I hope it works out for you. try an employment councellor, really, they'll help you with your resume problems. Clearly i don't know all the details surrounding the trust, but I'm sure there's a way to force the institution's hand, whether they think you're lying or not. Also apply for EI if you haven't already; the longer you take to apply the more hoops they make you jump through, and it'll help keep you fed and sheltered.

[Sevrin]

no, selkit, don't let a little forum drama chase you away
people are different online, also due to the fact that theres no body language or voice tone, people tend to use their own emotions in place of the ones you had meant to convey
this isnt a reason to leave

[Unition]

Some of us had to save up for school all on our own, but then again, your problem right now is a lack of job to earn those funds.
If you're one of those people stuck in the middle, where you are broke but your parents make enough to disqualify you for a student loan, then I apologize.  If not, why not apply?
The way tuition is increasing you'd actually save money by going now and paying it all back 2 years down the road...

[Selkit]

Some of us had to save up for school all on our own, but then again, your problem right now is a lack of job to earn those funds.
If you're one of those people stuck in the middle, where you are broke but your parents make enough to disqualify you for a student loan, then I apologize.  If not, why not apply?
The way tuition is increasing you'd actually save money by going now and paying it all back 2 years down the road...

Can't get a student loan. Combination of my father's income and absolutely trashed personal credit (Six month dead-end project + defaulting employer + 3 months joblessness). You've said it yourself why I'm extremely frustrated I can't hit university now, Unition. It's only going to get worse, and the time being frittered away now is far more precious than any sum of coin. I'm not getting any younger, and at best, I'll be 34 when I get out of the degree I'm eying.

Also apply for EI if you haven't already; the longer you take to apply the more hoops they make you jump through, and it'll help keep you fed and sheltered.

Can't get EI. No formal employer, contractual employment on an infrequent basis. Tried that avenue already. Best I can generally hope for at the moment is disability, which I find the idea of distressing; I am not disabled, I am not suffering from severe psychiatric issues, I am autistic and clinically depressed. The funding would be better spent on someone who genuinely needs disability. I have likewise tried employment counseling services. They chiefly provide access to things I already have (Telephone, fax, internet, and the same GC job-list accessible by web), and when asked for tailored help, have either been unable to provide or they have pushed me in the general direction of a social assistance office for various forms of disability support. I want a meaningful job or degree, and a measure of progress, not a tax burdening stipend from a system already groaning under its own weight.

And Sevrin, the people in question are individuals I'm likely to encounter at an event. Individuals who ostensibly are here because of a common local connection. A "little drama" does not excuse ignorant, bludgeoning attacks over an error in communication about a fund I lost family members for. Given the choice, I'd forsake every dime of it to have my mother back. Money will never buy family, and it will never replace lost time.