End of the line?

[Van_Fox]

Im at the end of my rope here  :'(. I feel like ive given everything and gained nothing in return. that Ive been played for a fool only to have myself broken down once more.
How do you guys deal with this kind of depression?
How do you get over having nothing or no one to make you feel special in that special way?

[Zen]

Loud and angry music.  Music is my number one emotional regulator and de-stress mechanism.

Also, having people to talk to works too, even if they're just IM / net friends.  Sometimes you can work things out over text better than in person ... but that's my opinion.

[RainRat]

Call Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868

Seriously. It's available up to age 20.

[KoutaKun]

if you wanna be destructive then drink.... but i wouldnt recomend it. im at about the same place you are. all i can say is find something to take your mind off the pain. ive been goin to blues bars and walking around downtown with a coffee and window shopping. also walking the sea walk. its a great walk and the view is awsome. like i said just try and take your mind off it. if you like your more than welcome to join me on the weekend downtown.

[Tai]

I totally agree with RainRat. They will listen to you.

Call Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868

Seriously. It's available up to age 20.

[Tony Greyfox]

Thirding the 'give someone a call' here. Best thing to do when you're feeling that deeply into a depression is to find someone who knows what they're doing and talk it out some. Even if you can talk it through with someone who might not be a professional but still have some ability to empathize and work out the problems you're having, that's hugely valuable.
But no matter what, just don't let it get to you - do something before it can manage that.

[Pentara]

Cookies... do not doubt the power of comfort foods, in moderation of course. *nods* Talking to somebody is one of the best things you can do, sometimes all you need is to talk things out and have somebody listen. If you don't have somebody, then walls or stuffed animals work as well. It helps to get things out in the open, and out there so that you're not just going around in circles in your head. Also, sometimes having a good cry works as well, it's another way of just letting things out.

Also, do the little things that make you feel good about yourself. Getting all dressed up for no reason, other then because you want to feel good. Sometimes a nice long bath or hot shower to help you relax. Clean your room, or if it's clean, then re-arrange it. Draw something purely for yourself. Make new friends, or reconnect with old ones. I am certain that nearly all of us on here would be more then happy to be your friend.

But above all, talk about what's going on. If you don't feel as though you have somebody there that you can talk to, I'll always listen if you want. You can find me on msn at shadow_stalker99@hotmail.com

I do hoped that you found even a little bit of this helpful. *hugs* I know it can be hard, but it's something that you can work through.

[Wyrd-Hotd]

ShinigamiKitsune is dead right, and talking is so the way to go, she would know, i have talked to her a  few times now ^.=.^ but me? i drive, i take long drives down random highways, before i had a car? i rode my bike, for hours.... before that? well there really was no "before that" for me...

things get dark... things get to the point where it seems like its never going to get better, but it always does, sometimes, it takes a while, but the longer it takes, it just makes it that much better when it comes. Its hard not too, but dont loose faith, never loose faith. i would offer my msn, but anyone who knows me can attest that i am never on it anymore, but feel free to note me, i check this forum daily if not twice or three times daily.

[Vanilla Skunk]

One thing that I've always done when depression starts breathing down your neck, is to look for the positive things.  Look at what you have accomplished, and feel good about it.

If there isn't much to look back on, try revisiting some childhood dreams of where you want to be when you're old, and start planning it out. 

Generally planning for the positive, and carrying out said plans will give you a better sense of self esteem. 

Your depression might turn into frustration, as now you're trying to accomplish something, but it seems there's always something to slow you down.  At that point, you can remember how far you've come, and you're not going to stop now.

These are what I do on a nearly daily basis.  Stress still gets to me, but I don't let it drown my emotions, I focus on what needs to be done to get past it.  If I can't figure out what needs to be done, I talk to someone.

At the end of the day, do something for you that you enjoy.  Comfort food, inebriation, sex/masterbation, entertainment, whatever.  Don't go to bed depressed or upset.

[Van_Fox]

sex/

Ya that helps when what your depressed about is what you need to have sex >.>

[Vanilla Skunk]

I can count the number of times I had sex on one hand myself, and I'm nearly 30. I don't miss it.

I could get all depressed about the sudden lack of kink in my life, but that wouldn't get me anywhere.  Going and getting would, however.

[Lune]

Ah, welcome to my life.  This is the kind of depression I used to deal with on a daily basis and still occasionally have to confront.  Quick backstory for relvence, I am 'that guy' the one who has their life togather, has all the cards yet incapable of achieving much romantic success.

The key to overcoming thies depression is embracing solitude, not in an emo dark sense quite the oppisate in fact.  Being a solo act means you can do things! :monocle:.  One day every weekend I go on a date... with myself! (ok that sounded creepy), I get out and broaden the scope of my life, artistically, socially, culturally or intellectually and have a nice dinner too :3.  It takes the form of going to mueseums, art galleries, taking a scenic drive, visiting a park, photography, etc.  Heck this weekend I am enjoying a jaunt to Seattle alone (Picasso Exhibit at the Seattle Art Mueseum  :monocle:).  It feels wierd at first doing these things alone at first but then you start looking forward to those little dates with yourself.

Being a lonely shut in will make anyone depressed.  Get out experience life, and you may even find a mate in the process too.

[Xen Garden]

This is going to sound extremely emo, but to get over my depression, I play some Linkin Park. Their music has truely helped me get through tough situations. It doesn't have to be Linkin Park you have to listen to, but something comforting to you. And draw or write things that are bothering you. Write poems and songs, draw pictures of how you feel and it doesn't have to look pretty, it'll make you feel better. It's always worked for me. I did become a bit destructive with cutting myself 6 years ago, don't get that far. That's just taking things a bit far. Don't do drugs while you're in a bad mood either, it'll only make you feel worse when you're high.

[Blue]

I would suggest prayer/meditation - either go to your local church or Buddhist temple, or just practice solo.
I have found myself often in your situation, and I have found it to work. Do some breathing exercises  to start off, to rid your mind of too much thought (otherwise, meditation is pretty useless.) check out some meditations on youtube - this one I really like:
Self-Esteem: A Guided Relaxation Session

I don't find it helps to fill your head with negative thoughts - to me its backwards thinking. Find a happy place in your life and stick to it - even if its make believe for now. If it's someplace you feel is worth your while, then make it your goal to get there.

[Fargo]

Im at the end of my rope here  :'(. I feel like ive given everything and gained nothing in return. that Ive been played for a fool only to have myself broken down once more.
How do you guys deal with this kind of depression?
How do you get over having nothing or no one to make you feel special in that special way?

I know that feeling all too well, but there are a couple of things I do when I feel that depressed.
1: Talk to someone you trust. Let said person know that you have an issue you need to talk about and get it all off your chest. I find that in person, or on the phone works best. IM is OK if you can't actually talk to the person.

2: Play a good console/PC game that doesn't require a whole lot of thought, such as a driving/flying simulator. (German Truck Simulator for example) This helps to distract you for a bit.

3: If neither of the above work, then it would be best to consult a professional.