May need help getting out of an abusive household

Started by GamerFex9, February 20, 2020, 05:17:50 PM

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GamerFex9

So, this is a very long story, but basically this is a cry for help.

I've been on this forum for a very long time, even though I lost my old login details after around 8-10 years of inactivity.
You might remember me as an extremely edgey teenager with Aspergers Syndrome who would act out and blame their actions on their disabilities. That was about a decade ago.

It never really came out back then, but I was raised in a very abusive household, and was struggling with depression. I was lashing out at people because I had been taught to think that was normal behavior, and because I was venting my aggression in a very unhealthy way, because I didn't know how to take responsibility for my own emotions.
I grew up with a physically abusive father, and a psychologically abusive mother, and was basically raised in a state of neglect where I didn't even have good food to eat usually. I became depressed at about 12-13 years old, and ended up having a very poor self image. I was basically told I was worthless, not worth taking care of, and was never taught how to be independent. My mother hit a point where she would intentionally feed me unhealthy food to keep me unattractive, so I'd never leave.
My father got over his alcoholism, and took anger management, and we're on good terms now.

The result of this messed up situation is that I'm a 25 year old dealing with depression, panic attacks, possible PTSD, and definite gender dysphoria. I am missing many key life skills, and I don't even know how to start learning them. I've found that I have no access to mental health help in my small town, and I'm unable to commute to the city to get help.
I'm trying my hardest to basically pick up all the pieces and learn to be a functioning adult, I'm learning how to drive, learning about banking, and budgeting. I'm learning how to tell when I'm falling back into a mindset I used as a coping mechanism I was using to survive being in an abusive, sometimes broken home.

The issue is that I may not be able to live where I do much longer. There's a possibility that I may get kicked out of my current home because of all the tension this situation is creating with my mother. My becoming independent, learning useful techniques for dealing with narcissism (Look up Theramin Trees on YouTube, he opened my eyes to who in my life had toxic bahaviors), combined with a large amount of grief over losing a best friend, are causing my mother to slowly resent me.

This isn't a healthy environment, and my only current alternative is renting a single room in my area that can cost 800$, which is more than my disability pension allows for rent.

I don't know if I can live alone given my depression, and the fact I can't afford rent, or effectively work to get more money.

That's why I'm here.
I'm looking for any alternatives, any furry houses that'd be willing to take someone who is trying their hardest to put their life back together, and to be a responsible adult. I can cook, I have a steady guaranteed income, and I'm hoping to learn how to be a more productive person.

I realize it's somewhat selfish to ask strangers for kindness, nobody should have to help me be the normal adult I should already be, but I'm in a situation where I'm not sure what else I can do.

Offers, and even advice on services I can use, or emotional support are all appreciated. I'm owed nothing, so literally anything is a gesture of kindness.