Female? ...Single? ...Furry?

Selkit · April 11, 2011, 12:14:33 PM

I may or may not have a different outlook on things. I lost my marriage in February, and it has given me something of a new perspective on dating and relationships in general. I was involved with my wife for four years, after a history speckled with the odd casual relationship prior. I realized that they all had one specific thing in common: A single fulcrum. Some sole point within the relation that matters pivoted upon, collapsing every time once the lever left the fulcrum. I suppose the cautionary point here, is this: If your goal is an actual relationship, as I've said before, broaden your friendship first. I do not make a habit of approaching others with the intent to seek a relationship. I'm really quite bad at forming even so much as a friendship, and unfortunately that's part of having my mind firmly rooted in autistic genetics. As ethan said, there are times in your life when it is simply best to take comfort in a solitary stretch, knowing that your peace is yours alone. I am learning to adapt. Sooner or later, I'll find stability in that state, or I'll begin dating once again, and so will most of you; Barring chance, it's a long life you're likely to lead, and age is no barrier to someone joining you later on the walk.

whitewolfy88 · April 11, 2011, 02:51:49 PM

QuoteWell it's furry. . . and it's somewhat female. . . and it is single. . .
DX
Don't you like it?

I'd tap that ....but again .....wtf is it?

Renwaldo · April 11, 2011, 05:32:15 PM

Quote from: whitewolfy88 on April 11, 2011, 02:51:49 PM
I'd tap that ....but again .....wtf is it?

It's me in a dress and a string of mink carcasses! :D

Brittany-shadowwolf · April 11, 2011, 05:44:48 PM

I'm ok with being single. I don't chase after things that will find to me first.
I'm pretty weird since personally I like the feeling of being alone for long periods of time.
My art and I have had some pretty romantic dinners of one. Ive also been really busy lately.

Not saying I hate relationship or that I dislike them.
There fun while they last. c:

~~shadowwolf

Brittany-shadowwolf · April 11, 2011, 05:45:26 PM

Quote from: Renwaldo on April 11, 2011, 05:32:15 PM
It's me in a dress and a string of mink carcasses! :D

That's hot.

~~Shadowwolf

Zetta · April 11, 2011, 06:35:58 PM

Quote from: Brittany-shadowwolf on April 11, 2011, 05:45:26 PM
That's hot.

~~Shadowwolf

That's morbid.

zenia · April 11, 2011, 07:27:12 PM

Quote from: Van_Fox on April 11, 2011, 11:46:08 AM
But then again you cant just wait around for something that might or might not happen. If you want something then you pursue it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. We all want those story book movie romances, but the sad truth is it doesnt always come to that.

Yeeeeah, but then there are people that put a list of things they are looking for in a mate in their profiles... and people like me don't like seeing things like "-Skinny" ... 'cause that rules us out right there. ;)

Renwaldo · April 11, 2011, 08:03:39 PM

Britt: Thanks. :gay:

Zetta: . . . Thanks. :gay:

Van_Fox · April 11, 2011, 08:21:03 PM

Quote from: zenia on April 11, 2011, 07:27:12 PM
Yeeeeah, but then there are people that put a list of things they are looking for in a mate in their profiles... and people like me don't like seeing things like "-Skinny" ... 'cause that rules us out right there. ;)

People change man, people change.

Brittany-shadowwolf · April 11, 2011, 08:23:13 PM

It's hilarious how after you read what Zenia posted you changed your profile.
Change is good for alot of people. It gives you alot more options.

~~Shadowwolf

Brittany-shadowwolf · April 11, 2011, 08:29:11 PM

I also like the idea of girls asking guys out. Just thought I would bring this up.
I mean it's 2011. We do as we please. we are equal to guys. I don't see it happen very often.
It's cute, But girls are discouraged when guys make lists.
Don't get me wrong, I still like the old fashion guys asking the girls.

Also I thought this was cool.
http://www.bcfurries.com/forum/index.php?topic=3529.msg48559#new
Check out the second vid posted.

~~shadowwolf

zenia · April 11, 2011, 08:35:06 PM

Quote from: Brittany-shadowwolf on April 11, 2011, 08:29:11 PMCheck out the second vid posted.

Yeah, saw that one this morning. I really liked it and I thought about it all day!

Brittany-shadowwolf · April 11, 2011, 08:38:13 PM

Quote from: zenia on April 11, 2011, 08:35:06 PM
Yeah, saw that one this morning. I really liked it and I thought about it all day!

His words kind of stick with you don't they?
He's a great writer and a speaker. c:

~~shadowwolf

FurryJackman · April 11, 2011, 10:52:03 PM

Quote from: Selkit on April 11, 2011, 12:14:33 PMI'm really quite bad at forming even so much as a friendship, and unfortunately that's part of having my mind firmly rooted in autistic genetics. As ethan said, there are times in your life when it is simply best to take comfort in a solitary stretch, knowing that your peace is yours alone. I am learning to adapt. Sooner or later, I'll find stability in that state, or I'll begin dating once again, and so will most of you; Barring chance, it's a long life you're likely to lead, and age is no barrier to someone joining you later on the walk.

I respectfully agree with everything here, since I also have trouble keeping friendships. (same autistic roots) In my young days, bridges crumbled nearly non-stop. Nowadays, they weaken, but don't completely crumble. (AKA, after an incident, we'll be down to colleagues instead of friends)

I find apologies are a band-aid to bridges, but never the full fix. As proved recently with someone I cannot divulge.

I am thankful work in the TV Diploma keeps me diverted from soul searching, but it's going to take a lot to gain a true friend that I can keep for a VERY long time. Oh well... I guess my work is my savior for now.

whitewolfy88 · April 13, 2011, 02:40:54 PM

QuoteNot saying I hate relationship or that I dislike them.
There fun while they last. c:

~~shadowwolf

..never quite thought of it that way but you are absolutely right ...BRILLIANT!