A Thought

[terutt]

How much I love hiding that fact that I am a furry with my family and parents. Its right under their noses and they can't catch the hint. My mom even mentioned furries to me at a time. Its like a game where hiding every ounce of evidence becomes crucial. Than again, I am very open about who I am.

I'm probably talking out of my ass, but it sounds like they know, stumbled on it by accident, but they respect your privacy enough not to breech the subject.

Unless your mom said it in reference to a newspaper article or something.

[Luna]

I'm probably talking out of my ass, but it sounds like they know, stumbled on it by accident, but they respect your privacy enough not to breech the subject.

Unless your mom said it in reference to a newspaper article or something.

Yeah, given the statement Roffo made to go off of, that's a pretty good assertion. *Giggles*

[Icey Dominus]

there is no such thing as a left handed wrench!
if anyone asks you to get a (sky hook) dont bother is a helicopter seriously they are messing with you.
ummm live life to the fullest dont smoke, you will have more fun at parties if you dont drink.
Do sports lol yunno the basic stuff. Dont try to do something you dont know just ask for help when you need it.
join a self defense class
that is my info not much sorry  :-[

[DrakedaSheep]

Life is subjective - don't trust everything you hear or read, and certainly don't trust every piece of advice you're given without a little skepticism.

Drama will exist everywhere you go, no matter what you do, not just in this fandom - take a step back, try not to propagate it and let it be unless absolutely necessary

[Silvermink]

Learn to cook before you leave home. Even just a little bit. This can't be stressed enough. Nothing will be worse on your body than living on sidekicks and KD. Even something as simple as learning to make good veggie stirfries or casseroles will be a lifesaver.

^ This! This, this, this. One of the best strategies I've found is to seek out recipes which are quick and easy but still healthy - it helps you eliminate your own excuses for not cooking and not eating well.

• Don't go to university or college unless you want to. It's a waste of time, money, and effort.

My experience on this one is quite the opposite. Going to university - and, moreover, finishing it - was probably one of the best things I ever did and gave me a really solid grounding in my field (computing science). I learned to program, which is something which is infinitely adaptable and I think is a lot better than just learning a programming language.

I think if you're trying to learn something on your own it's good to seek out opportunities to test that knowledge. It's hard to make something stick unless you can make those connections.

• For all things good and holy DO NOT tell your parents you are furry. They have a right not to know this. (Unless you want to ruin their lives or not have them speak to you again, then go for it.)

Depends on your parents. Mine decided it was kind of cute and then went about their business, and my partner's did much the same after learning she was a furry. I regret neither having told them that nor having come out to them as bi, because I really don't like having to try to hide things; cognitive dissonance is a painful experience.

Maybe it's a generational thing, I dunno.

[Zetta]

Eugh lol
my mom used to be hooked on CSI, and told me about that infamous furry episode a few years ago.
I laughed for a while and realized that it was probably one thing she wouldn't accept if i told her :c

[FuriousPanda]

"Life isn't about avoiding the storm, it's about learning to dance in the rain"
This applies to my entire life, xD

[Brittany-shadowwolf]

Dear younger version of Brittany Shadowwolf,

Life goes on. Stop holding grudges, it wont help.
LEARN TO FIGHT, so that you can protect yourself when you are beaten up multiple times in the future.
Stop putting on so much emo eye liner. Learn to eat your veggies. Try Going out in the sunlight for once?
Try taking down your walls once in a while? Take better care of yourself. Learn to be a troll.
Destroy everyone who ever got in your way. ;3

Never lose your Ballsy attitude.

Love yours truly
~~Future Brittany Shadowwolf

[EmoFox]

Most of my more solid beliefs and wisdoms I absorbed from a song. I will now list them here, for your convenience, :D

-Don't go to bed angry. You don't sleep well, and a lot of the time you won't remember being angry in the morning anyway. just very tired.
-A big thing with my parents is "you choose to be grumpy" and I've heard this echoed everywhere. Personally, I don't believe this. I believe that for every action, there is an opposite and equal reaction. So if you spend the day with people telling you you're an idiot who doesn't know what you're doing, it's going to get to you. Same goes for other people. Not so much treat others how you want them to treat you, as it is be considerate of other people's emotions. You never know when something you say is going to push some one over the edge, or completely make their day. sixbillionsecrets and givesmehope are both wonderful examples of this sort of thing. ESPECIALLY for teenagers.
-Nobody's perfect, not even your parents. Especially not your parents. :p But they did the best they could with what they knew, and what they had. If you can understand and respect that, it'll make it MUCH easier on yourself. Especially if dealing with step-parent situations, so I've found.
-Don't get caught up so much in how you look, as how you feel. If you're healthy, then fine. Some one loves you the way you are anyway, so don't screw it up, or they might not recognize you when they see you.
-You don't need a mate to justify yourself. I still struggle with this one in some ways. Life isn't about who you're with; it's about who you are. So be the person you like spending time with.
-Karma bites. Hard.
-You will experience heartache, and heartbreak. But how can you appreciate how wonderful love is, if you've never been hurt before? You gotta know pain to feel pleasure, so take it all with a grain of salt.


You know what, just go listen to the song, lol. Affirmation, by savage garden, XD love it. Awesome song. and it helps center me when I'm feeling angry/anxious/depressed in general. :p

[Faen Faith]

If there was one thing I could tell my sixteen year old self it would probably be "get involved with this forum earlier."

Secondarily to that I feel I must protest on the side of telling your parents that you're a furry. I told mine at about sixteen and a half and they were completely alright with it. But then my parents always knew I was a little 'different.'  :-3 <-Like that

[Coal Silvermuzzle]

   There is a lot of good advice in this thread and some I would take with more then a grain of salt. Silver was right when he said in effect that hindsight is 20/20, I understand now a lot of the things my parents told me, the ones I told them to cram sideways. I think one of the best things I could say is be yourself, don't give up on your goals and dreams for loved ones even though it means extra hardship at the time, you will wind up feeling it later. I will not use the word regret, instead look at it as a life experience. If you make a mistake admit it and if you can't make up for it move on.

  Don't grab 40 pounder of CC, a bag of thai-stick and a barrel of chicken for your weekend entertainment. If you do drink and take someone home or visa versa, make sure you don't do something and wake up say oh my god! I know your only 16, but I was at one time also  :P

  Go for your goals, but don't trample others to get there, earn it on your own merit, not underhandedly. Try to trust others, but do so with caution, don't follow with just your heart, head or intuition, but with all three. You will always screw up more then once on more then one thing, don't let it crush you, but use it as a leaning experience, it is called wisdom.

  And always remember this "Life throws curve balls, some will knock you down and out, pick your self up, brush off and be ready for the next one, because it might be that game winning home run." If you have any questions about what I said or just need to or want to talk send me a PM.

Coal
(silver muzzle)
   

[Lt ReiStark]

never care what people think about you, as long as you like you, you're awesome.