The future of Furmeets: A discussion

[Runix]

I live downtown... Now I don't want to sound snobby but if I arranged a fur-movie night in my building (yes, they have  a big Blu-Ray projection screen and 30 theatre seats - with cup holders!) I would REQUIRE a divided "accident deposit" because I am liable for any accidents that happen in the theatre that I rent out. I'd be paying $150 for that, so a 30 person invite would involve a $5 RETURNABLE deposit. Thats means at the end if there are no spills or anything damaged, everyone would get there $5 back. This of course would change if everyone agreed to use the $5 deposit for some sort of prize for some games that went on before/after the movie. I believe my building has a party room as well. They also have a huge (half a block in length) 2nd level foyer for sitting down and chatting in 2 different locations. It is a good place for small events but I assure you, I could not possibly trust every single person to act responsibly or without insidence - hence my reason for a required returnable damage deposit.

We all are in different stages in our lives - and differ in age. This is a simple fact. These different stages in our lives all affect how we behave and interact with others. I have a 45 year old brother that I wouldn't trust with anything, and yet I have a 19 year old nephew that I'd let him borrow my $1000 ipad. These are just 2 examples showing you that its not age that defines maturity, its our personal standards that we uphold.  This subject is especially important regarding hosts arranging a meet.

im in for helping with this plan and good idea, when im back before new years we can start planning, im not gonna be cheap about this because this community needs a good boost of social gatherings. i will message you.

at least this is progress, i dont want to sound rude tho.

[Gizmo]

I'm going to start off by saying that I will not let this degenerate into name-calling, accusations and other asshole-ish behaviour.

With that out of the way, I want to begin an honest, reasonably intelligent discussion about the future of furmeets in the Vancouver Furry Community.

It's clear that we've outgrown almost any house that might be available to us, and a consequense of that is that those houses are becoming unwilling to host. It is also becoming a problem that a few people are either going beyond their limits, not following the rules, or just being stupid, further prompting potential hosts to simply stop hosting.

At this point we shouldn't discount any option for future furmeets, and this thread will be meant to discuss any and all possibilities. And for the moment, even some of the stupid ones should be thrown in for consideration. This needs to be an open discussion, and everyone needs to have an opportunity to have a say.

Even allowing for stupid ideas, I won't tolerate acting like an idiot or an asshole.

Lets talk.

First of all, I am NEW ... love the community so far (from my limited perspective). I have an apartment that I would love to host in. Having said that, and being new, I am unsure of the issues people are talking about. If we are talking about drunks ... I can handle that. Being in an apartment, loudness would be an issue. If a get together is having some people over for a few glasses of wine / beer or whatever, I have no problem with that ... but living in an apartment environment, there are limits.
I know that I am new ... and really don't know the 'community' yet. I am a bit confused about this talk of 'banning' certain members to social events. Is their behavior that unacceptable that you would want to openly discuss excluding hand picked members of the community - precluding them from being a part of such a great group of furs? Remember, these forums are open for ALL to read. New members included. You don't wanna come across as a group that has become a 'clique'. I have 'some' experience with groups similar in structure to this one so I am not so jaded. I can handle the idiosyncrasies of groups. Just would hate to see any newbie 'turned off' because of the issues of the day/week/month ...
Just my two cents ...

[Runix]

whoever wants to host the event, we will all take turns, i will contribute gamers delight for any of the events since i run a lan division.

[Lance]

I'm a new furry and member living in Burnaby. Now I can't host because I live in a small basement suite with an oblivious roommate (imagine his face seeing a fursuit in the place LOL). However I'm willing to help plan/set up an event. If anyone wants to meet so we can start laying some concrete plans I'm up for it. Let's get something going :)

[Sairys]

I'm a new furry and member living in Burnaby. Now I can't host because I live in a small basement suite with an oblivious roommate (imagine his face seeing a fursuit in the place LOL). However I'm willing to help plan/set up an event. If anyone wants to meet so we can start laying some concrete plans I'm up for it. Let's get something going :)

*grins* Can I be that first fursuit??

[Gizmo]

I'm a new furry and member living in Burnaby. Now I can't host because I live in a small basement suite with an oblivious roommate (imagine his face seeing a fursuit in the place LOL). However I'm willing to help plan/set up an event. If anyone wants to meet so we can start laying some concrete plans I'm up for it. Let's get something going :)

*grins* Can I be that first fursuit??

If I planned a 'Meet',
1) it would be at my apartment in Surrey.
2) not sure how many people usually come to these things, but I would  probably have to limit the number of people
3) you ALL would have to go gentle on me since I don't know most of you but really wanna meet you all!
4) there would need to be a time limit as there is a quiet time in the building (we can stay late, but there needs to be a certain amount of quiet goin on)
5) is it unheard of to bring your fur suits and change into them here? I would love to see a lot of you in your fur!!!
6) what does everyone think of Saturday, December 18th - 7 pm until ... ??? BYOB
7) what about a secret Santa thing? Limit it to a $2 gift? or $5? Fur related? I think it would be fun! What do you all think?
is the 18th too soon? Everyone busy with their Christmas plans? I dunno ... what do people think?

[Lance]

That sounds good to me. Hehe and I'm shy so no worries about being gentle ;)

I think there are some other tentative furry plans on the 18th but I'm not sure how solid those are

I'm game for the meet though!

[Gizmo]

That sounds good to me. Hehe and I'm shy so no worries about being gentle ;)

I think there are some other tentative furry plans on the 18th but I'm not sure how solid those are

I'm game for the meet though!

Any suggestions on my ideas?

[Silvermink]

I live downtown... Now I don't want to sound snobby but if I arranged a fur-movie night in my building (yes, they have  a big Blu-Ray projection screen and 30 theatre seats - with cup holders!) I would REQUIRE a divided "accident deposit" because I am liable for any accidents that happen in the theatre that I rent out. I'd be paying $150 for that, so a 30 person invite would involve a $5 RETURNABLE deposit. Thats means at the end if there are no spills or anything damaged, everyone would get there $5 back.

I think that's eminently reasonable and would do the same in your situation.

[Gizmo]

I live downtown... Now I don't want to sound snobby but if I arranged a fur-movie night in my building (yes, they have  a big Blu-Ray projection screen and 30 theatre seats - with cup holders!) I would REQUIRE a divided "accident deposit" because I am liable for any accidents that happen in the theatre that I rent out. I'd be paying $150 for that, so a 30 person invite would involve a $5 RETURNABLE deposit. Thats means at the end if there are no spills or anything damaged, everyone would get there $5 back.

I think that's eminently reasonable and would do the same in your situation.

I would be totally down for that!!! Sounds VERY reasonable!

[Lance]

Both ideas sounds good to me. And if I'm needed for anything just let me know :)

[Runix]

people should be planning for after december now into January and Feb.

i can do those if they are during those months and later

[Kaji]

I know that I am new ... and really don't know the 'community' yet. I am a bit confused about this talk of 'banning' certain members to social events. Is their behavior that unacceptable that you would want to openly discuss excluding hand picked members of the community - precluding them from being a part of such a great group of furs?

Unfortunately, there are some rare cases.

Also I wish you the best of luck with hosting your first furmeet if you still plan to go through with it. You'll become a hero to us all if it works out, hehe.

[Ember]

Due to length and partial off topical nature I have moved this post to it's own topic: http://www.bcfurries.com/forum/index.php?topic=2872.0

Please give it a read, thanks :)