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[lunar_prodigy]

i changed what i had to say here after some more thought, i will repost

[Charmy]

Hey Lunar,

I'm really sorry to hear that this has happened...  :'(
I've never lost someone I was really close to through death, so I can't imagine how difficult that is. Maybe I can assist in a small way.

My last serious relationship with someone lasted more than seven years before it dissolved, so... I know a little about how it feels to have someone complete you and whom you believe will always be a part of your life, and then the confusion and sense of loss that comes when its gone. It is very hard to cope with.

What helped me was realizing that whatever I loved in the other person, and whatever I believed they were giving me, is never really lost - it is timeless. Even if they're gone, through death or distance, they're still with us in our memories and in our hearts. The strength you gained from their presence, the confidence to continue your work and realize your talents, their love and their acceptance - all of that survives and always will. You can tap into it and keep their legacy alive in you. That is truly honoring them.

You say you have proof that you can relate to another person on a deep level because of her. Well, there will be others in your life's journey with whom you will be able to do the same. I'm sure of it.
I don't believe there is any single soul that is our one chance at happiness. We are all intertwined. You will touch many more lives and they will touch yours before your time here is through. It may be different, yes, but it will still be precious.

You don't have to grieve privately. I tend to as well, but I think its brave of you to share this. You not only get the support of others, but you also give them the gift of being able to help another.
I think I remember you saying something about this happening at the games night on Thursday.. but there was a lot going on and it didn't really sink in. I apologize for that.

I can relate some to how you feel around people. I too am a private person and don't open up easily. I get a little overwhelmed in group situations, so very few people get to know me more than very superficially. I think you just hide this aspect of you better.

You seem very outgoing to me! I don't think you have terrible communication skills or come across as disinterested or selfish either. I've actually found you quite easy to talk to, more so than most people and have quite a few similar interests. And you're funny!!

Oh, I also want to apologize for the two times you asked me to do stuff and I didn't follow through. First with helping you move after Howloween I think it was, and the second was when you were having a get together a few months ago. I said I'd think about going but never did. The day of the move I was just up too late the previous night. And the second was a time I was reaaallly depressed ._. so I wasn't really up for doing anything.

But if you give me an opportunity to make it up to you, I'd be happy to. I've always enjoyed hanging with you, so feel free to drop me a line if you want to talk, need help or just want to do stuff. You have my number. XD

Hang in there wolfy! *snug*