Moving on \co dependency help

[Tiyu]

Cause we just keep moving along, moving along without you-

Tiyu here, and again looking with assistance with moving on and away from past hurts.w., and this is a peer learning board, for the sake of all, so advice for breakups of all kinds- family, friends, love, would be appreciated, especially from the viewpoint or one who has experience having and or dealing with co-dependency.

What is co-dependancy? Well,click that below!
http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/co-dependency


Co -dependency originates from childhood,especially in dysfunctional\abusive family environments can make for an impaired sense of self, usually a sort of assumed martyr\parent role, and thus pave ground for abusive\unhealthy relationships. Please also keep in mind abusive personalities and or responses in part of the co-dependant's partner that aggravates it. As such, I implore you, if you know of any co-dependency 12-step groups (Sorta like an AA), please share it here, and of your own experiences too!

Tied in to that, any experiences in finding and becoming who you really are, or the best you that you can be are welcomed too!

[Tiyu]

Some tips
1. Love yourself!
For me , it means taking care of my body with exercise sleep and good nutitrition. It also means to love and appreciate who I am, appreciating my own successes and psssions
2. Set your own boundaries and respect others'!
Vocalize when you arent comfortable with something, or refuse when you arent able to help! Nothing wrong with refusing at all! Realize that you cant control people, and care can turn into caretaking, which unconsciously turns into taking control. However, control is NOT the intent, it usually is care gone extreme!
3. Find yourself!
Often , co dependent people have low self esteem and confidence, which makes for an unstable sense of self. This is why co deps often sacrifice so much or love their partner beyond what is needed. In which case, find out who you are. This can be done by looking at your interests, deceloping new ines, honing your skills and boosting your self confidence through mindfulness and other exercises.w.

[Doink]

Instead of me acting like I can solve your problem you can educate me about this which puts you in the drivers seat and gives a feeling of authority for your self. I'm not playing along with a made up plan I actually want this knowledge you have that might dust describe what I'm going through.

[Tiyu]

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[Doink]

Whatever, I over elaborated asking you for advice. Feel free to pm about it