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#81
Help and Advice / May need help getting out of a...
Last post by GamerFex9 - February 20, 2020, 05:17:50 PMSo, this is a very long story, but basically this is a cry for help.
I've been on this forum for a very long time, even though I lost my old login details after around 8-10 years of inactivity.
You might remember me as an extremely edgey teenager with Aspergers Syndrome who would act out and blame their actions on their disabilities. That was about a decade ago.
It never really came out back then, but I was raised in a very abusive household, and was struggling with depression. I was lashing out at people because I had been taught to think that was normal behavior, and because I was venting my aggression in a very unhealthy way, because I didn't know how to take responsibility for my own emotions.
I grew up with a physically abusive father, and a psychologically abusive mother, and was basically raised in a state of neglect where I didn't even have good food to eat usually. I became depressed at about 12-13 years old, and ended up having a very poor self image. I was basically told I was worthless, not worth taking care of, and was never taught how to be independent. My mother hit a point where she would intentionally feed me unhealthy food to keep me unattractive, so I'd never leave.
My father got over his alcoholism, and took anger management, and we're on good terms now.
The result of this messed up situation is that I'm a 25 year old dealing with depression, panic attacks, possible PTSD, and definite gender dysphoria. I am missing many key life skills, and I don't even know how to start learning them. I've found that I have no access to mental health help in my small town, and I'm unable to commute to the city to get help.
I'm trying my hardest to basically pick up all the pieces and learn to be a functioning adult, I'm learning how to drive, learning about banking, and budgeting. I'm learning how to tell when I'm falling back into a mindset I used as a coping mechanism I was using to survive being in an abusive, sometimes broken home.
The issue is that I may not be able to live where I do much longer. There's a possibility that I may get kicked out of my current home because of all the tension this situation is creating with my mother. My becoming independent, learning useful techniques for dealing with narcissism (Look up Theramin Trees on YouTube, he opened my eyes to who in my life had toxic bahaviors), combined with a large amount of grief over losing a best friend, are causing my mother to slowly resent me.
This isn't a healthy environment, and my only current alternative is renting a single room in my area that can cost 800$, which is more than my disability pension allows for rent.
I don't know if I can live alone given my depression, and the fact I can't afford rent, or effectively work to get more money.
That's why I'm here.
I'm looking for any alternatives, any furry houses that'd be willing to take someone who is trying their hardest to put their life back together, and to be a responsible adult. I can cook, I have a steady guaranteed income, and I'm hoping to learn how to be a more productive person.
I realize it's somewhat selfish to ask strangers for kindness, nobody should have to help me be the normal adult I should already be, but I'm in a situation where I'm not sure what else I can do.
Offers, and even advice on services I can use, or emotional support are all appreciated. I'm owed nothing, so literally anything is a gesture of kindness.
I've been on this forum for a very long time, even though I lost my old login details after around 8-10 years of inactivity.
You might remember me as an extremely edgey teenager with Aspergers Syndrome who would act out and blame their actions on their disabilities. That was about a decade ago.
It never really came out back then, but I was raised in a very abusive household, and was struggling with depression. I was lashing out at people because I had been taught to think that was normal behavior, and because I was venting my aggression in a very unhealthy way, because I didn't know how to take responsibility for my own emotions.
I grew up with a physically abusive father, and a psychologically abusive mother, and was basically raised in a state of neglect where I didn't even have good food to eat usually. I became depressed at about 12-13 years old, and ended up having a very poor self image. I was basically told I was worthless, not worth taking care of, and was never taught how to be independent. My mother hit a point where she would intentionally feed me unhealthy food to keep me unattractive, so I'd never leave.
My father got over his alcoholism, and took anger management, and we're on good terms now.
The result of this messed up situation is that I'm a 25 year old dealing with depression, panic attacks, possible PTSD, and definite gender dysphoria. I am missing many key life skills, and I don't even know how to start learning them. I've found that I have no access to mental health help in my small town, and I'm unable to commute to the city to get help.
I'm trying my hardest to basically pick up all the pieces and learn to be a functioning adult, I'm learning how to drive, learning about banking, and budgeting. I'm learning how to tell when I'm falling back into a mindset I used as a coping mechanism I was using to survive being in an abusive, sometimes broken home.
The issue is that I may not be able to live where I do much longer. There's a possibility that I may get kicked out of my current home because of all the tension this situation is creating with my mother. My becoming independent, learning useful techniques for dealing with narcissism (Look up Theramin Trees on YouTube, he opened my eyes to who in my life had toxic bahaviors), combined with a large amount of grief over losing a best friend, are causing my mother to slowly resent me.
This isn't a healthy environment, and my only current alternative is renting a single room in my area that can cost 800$, which is more than my disability pension allows for rent.
I don't know if I can live alone given my depression, and the fact I can't afford rent, or effectively work to get more money.
That's why I'm here.
I'm looking for any alternatives, any furry houses that'd be willing to take someone who is trying their hardest to put their life back together, and to be a responsible adult. I can cook, I have a steady guaranteed income, and I'm hoping to learn how to be a more productive person.
I realize it's somewhat selfish to ask strangers for kindness, nobody should have to help me be the normal adult I should already be, but I'm in a situation where I'm not sure what else I can do.
Offers, and even advice on services I can use, or emotional support are all appreciated. I'm owed nothing, so literally anything is a gesture of kindness.
#82
Rest of BC Chat / Re: Rest of BC - People Finder...
Last post by serkillalot - January 23, 2020, 07:39:31 AMHey I'm from Prince George
#83
Rest of BC Chat / Re: Living in Prince George
Last post by serkillalot - January 23, 2020, 07:37:22 AMCool I'm from Prince George to there isn't too many of us around Prince George
#84
Lower Mainland Chat / Maple Ridge & Pitt Meadows Fur...
Last post by Samurai Kai - December 29, 2019, 05:58:31 PMI've created a Telegram channel for those who live in the Maple Ridge/Pitt Meadows area! Or even for those who have no problem traveling out this way for events! Feel free to join us, even if you are new to the community... the more the merrier! All I ask is that you be respectful towards other members, respect personal boundaries, and should you have any issues or questions then please come talk to me. We want this to be a place where everyone feels they can be who they truly are, without fear of judgement. We would love nothing more than for everyone to have a blast and make awesome memories! After a long time I noticed that nothing was really being planned for around this area and so I figured, "Why not start a group?" So here it is!
Thank you for reading, we hope to hear from you soon. Any ideas for events are greatly appreciated. =^.^=!
https://t.me/MapleRidgeFurs
Thank you for reading, we hope to hear from you soon. Any ideas for events are greatly appreciated. =^.^=!
https://t.me/MapleRidgeFurs
#85
Forum Help / E-Mail Notifications Not Worki...
Last post by Kithop - December 15, 2019, 01:39:35 PMHi - just an FYI, it doesn't look like I'm receiving e-mail notifications for new PMs, posts, etc. despite having the option enabled in my profile. Even PMing myself as a test, I don't see anything in my mailserver's log being rejected or anything like that.
Is there potentially something broken with outbound mail? Thanks!
Is there potentially something broken with outbound mail? Thanks!
#86
Rental / Housing / Looking for a place for me and...
Last post by Michy - December 15, 2019, 09:34:04 AMHey, I am looking for a place to rent preferably within the $750-900 range that allows cats hopefully with access to the skytrain.
-I'm 36
-Male
-Student at the Vancouver career college (Surrey location)
-I am a PWD with the ministry so rent will never be an issue.
-I am generally quiet, keep to myself.
-Clean (Will sometimes leave something for a bit but I get back to it later on)
Now the unfortunate part I have to be out of where I am by the end of this month so I am placing feelers out.
If anyone has the room and doesn't mind me having my cat (He is my support animal and I am working on getting the proper documentation)
Please leave me a message and I will get back to you asap...
-I'm 36
-Male
-Student at the Vancouver career college (Surrey location)
-I am a PWD with the ministry so rent will never be an issue.
-I am generally quiet, keep to myself.
-Clean (Will sometimes leave something for a bit but I get back to it later on)
Now the unfortunate part I have to be out of where I am by the end of this month so I am placing feelers out.
If anyone has the room and doesn't mind me having my cat (He is my support animal and I am working on getting the proper documentation)
Please leave me a message and I will get back to you asap...
#87
Lower Mainland Chat / Re: An Open Invitation to Vanc...
Last post by Zadon Mew - November 29, 2019, 10:17:27 PMThe message must've lagged the first time; I've put the rest of it back, haha ???
#88
Rest of BC Chat / Re: An Open Invitation to Quad...
Last post by Zadon Mew - November 29, 2019, 10:16:23 PMSorry the whole message didn't send the first time ???
#89
Vancouver Island Chat / Re: An Open Invitation to Vanc...
Last post by Zadon Mew - November 29, 2019, 10:15:38 PMSorry the whole message didn't send the first time ???
#90
Rest of BC Chat / An Open Invitation to Quadra I...
Last post by Zadon Mew - November 29, 2019, 03:41:24 PMHello all newcomers to the forums and to the fandom. As well as those who aren't new to the fandom. I would like to openly invite you to join a server for residents of Vancouver Island, Quadra Island, the Fraser Valley, and the Vancouver Area. The Link is located here: discord.gg/TesReqa . Hope to see you all soon.