This game of posting "stole your comment virginity" to new accounts should be banned.
This gets posted to pretty much every single account that makes their first post on this forums. It is a horrendous introduction to our community and it should be stopped.
We have many new furs and for many of them this forum is their first contact with the community at whole. Some intellectually challenged individual posting this to their account is pretty much the worst representation our community can have.
In case some of you idiots don't get it, you're essentially posting "I raped you!" to almost every single person that joins here; many of these people are children for fucks sake.
Moderators: do something about it.
If this is an open discussion, I'd like to openly discuss.
I had such a comment levied at me during the first few days that I signed up here. I thought it was rather comical and a good-natured joke. I would have found it offensive, to be sure, had the user said "I've stolen your virginity" but instead he added the word "comment" and I was able to see it as it was: a perfectly harmless jest. Technically, what he was saying was "I've raped your comment section" which has no literal or physical implications for me, someone behind a computer screen. ;)
Hi 24 year old male that presumably wasn't a virgin when the post was made for you.
Wanna bet that a kid feels differently?
Yeah, if I was underage, or if the person posted something like "I raped your comments!" I would be quite upset.
I'm worried we're jumping to some conclusions here by the use of "what if" scenarios. If people are saying "I raped you!" and/or "I raped your comments!" then certainly, I'd agree it would be more than disconcerting; however, if what most of them are saying is actually little more than "I stole your comment virginity" then the issue has just as much potential to be entirely benign. Let us not forget what sorts of times we live in, where sexual activity is known to our children long before they reach my age.
It's not a "what if." It happens with every single new account on this forum.
It's also not just a matter of the kids joining the forum. It's a piss poor first introduction to us.
It is not funny, it serves no purpose and it's detrimental to the community. It needs to stop.
: JaNathun March 29, 2012, 11:44:39 -06:00
If people are saying "I raped you!" and/or "I raped your comments!" then certainly, I'd agree it would be more than disconcerting; however, if what most of them are saying is actually little more than "I stole your comment virginity"
I have to ask what the fuck you think "I stole your virginity" means.
: Ember March 29, 2012, 11:46:19 -06:00
It's not a "what if." It happens with every single new account on this forum.
It's also not just a matter of the kids joining the forum. It's a piss poor first introduction to us.
It is not funny, it serves no purpose and it's detrimental to the community. It needs to stop.
I believe it is a "what if" scenario we're talking about here. The accusation you've made in your opening post, that these sorts of individuals are posting the equivalent to the words "I raped you" requires a certain amount of evidence to show that this is indeed what is happening. Such evidence would take the form of users reporting they felt "I raped you" was an adequate analysis of the words said to them in that post, or that there are visible cases here where users posted exactly the words "I raped you." Without any such evidence to substantiate your claims, your accusations could easily be dismissed on several grounds, not the least of which being that you were making an entirely unfounded claim.
A lawyer, or an impartial judge of this situation would think just these things.
: Ember March 29, 2012, 11:49:05 -06:00
I have to ask what the fuck you think "I stole your virginity" means.
I'd be happy to tell you outside of the context of this discussion, but my views are not on trial here, and if they are I don't believe we're having an open discussion anymore.
Awwh. .. no one stole my virginity, and I've been active on these forums for several months. . . . :(
: Crassadon March 30, 2012, 12:24:28 -06:00
Awwh. .. no one stole my virginity, and I've been active on these forums for several months. . . . :(
You sound disappointed. I can help find you someone to help with that if you like :P
Gosh, I'm sorry. I hadn't realized some felt so strongly about it. :-X
I am kinda on the fence here, all i can really say was the "first post" comment virginity thing seems just pointless and silly to me. Its not like you are even saying "hey welcome!" just in essence "haha got first post on your page, byee!" Just can come across as ditzy.
While I don't mind the joking nature that the comments have been made in, I do agree that it isn't really an activity that's very welcoming.
Also: Ember. While I agree that this can be a bit of a touchy subject, your attitude is coming across as rather antagonistic.
If you would like to keep this discussion friendly, please be careful.
I was "devirginized" before officially introducing myself to the furry community. It did, initially, give me a "what have I gotten myself into?" sort of feeling. In retrospect, I attribute this partially to shyness, and partially to my naiveté on forums in general. But then, I'm 24, and "coming out of the furry closet" was not a decision I made lightly. I didn't join this forum to lurk, or because it seemed like a cool thing to do. I joined because I wanted to meet furries. And now that I've actually met a lot of you in person (including said "devirginizer") and found you all be to more-or-less friendly, that first comment on my profile page seems like an insignificant issue.
My experience with the furry community has been overwhelmingly positive. Just look at all the responses to introduction threads. I'm so glad that newcomers receive such a warm welcome here. I don't think I would have started attending events if not for all the welcomes I received when I first started posting. And that includes the ones that seemed a little odd at first.
I dunno, I think it's pretty easy to tell what's being meant. No real rape is implied.
Though a "Hey, what's up?" is SO MUCH better. Something that promotes actual conversation is way more welcoming.
I simply ask: who is directly being harmed out of all this? Someone posted the whole "comment virginity stolen," thing when I first joined, I've since completely forgotten who it was, and quite frankly, there are articles in the Province about albino people getting mad at Earls restaurants for serving "albino chicken wings" that I gave more of a shit about.
"Comment virginity stolen." Hey, my ass hasn't actually physically been penetrated and I don't have the HIV. Life is good.
: Naetholix March 30, 2012, 05:01:21 -06:00
"Comment virginity stolen." Hey, my ass hasn't actually physically been penetrated and I don't have the HIV. Life is good.
Word. :birdy:
Its not a harm thing in my eyes, its an annoyance thing. Kind of like receiving an e-mail about penis enlargement. you see you got a message and think it might be something important till you find out what it actually is and just think "Why?.. what is the point?"
I didn't really care when it was done on my page, but I can see how some people would just be annoyed the the "first!" type comments.
: Naetholix March 30, 2012, 05:01:21 -06:00
"Comment virginity stolen." Hey, my ass hasn't actually physically been penetrated and I don't have the HIV. Life is good.
Second Word. I can't put it better myself.
I find it hilarious that people immediately jump ten metres into the air over the "virginity" aspect of comment virginity.. If I follow your logic, then we should all start a riot on products made of extra virgin olive oil or Virgin Airlines or something.
Annoyance? Fuck, there are a THOUSAND things I could be annoyed about right now. I'm annoyed that it's raining. I'm annoyed that I don't have cream for my coffee. I'm annoyed that I'm not getting a blowjob right now...
This is where the shrug-it-off and say "Meh," thing comes into play. Man, if you're gonna let all the little things in life annoy you, you've gotta be one seriously miserable guy. (Not directed at anyone in particular.)
I feel like my point was missed in favor of pick at semantics :P
: Drake Wingfire March 30, 2012, 06:50:36 -06:00
I feel like my point was missed in favor of pick at semantics :P
Don't worry.
I got your point. *hugs* :hug:
I did get one of these comments recently, and to be honest... I didn't like it. I can understand the playful nature with it, and that's cool... but...
It felt more like 'I'm only talking to you because of this game' going on. And that didn't feel welcoming, dood.
It seems to me that OP is just making threads with the intention of causing problems.
: Mikomi April 02, 2012, 11:43:27 -06:00
It seems to me that OP is just making threads with the intention of causing problems.
Oh no, Ember's really a very nice guy. He just wants us to think him an asshole, but it's all a ruse. He's actually quite decent.
I suppose he's just what you would call outspoken.
Yes I Like Ember. he is just a Little outspoken some days, and Likes to pull strings. I know if I happened to post after reading only a few posts I would have been In a different Mind set then a nice post but a ( Cencored Cencored ) post :P Love ya ember
I understand the whole point of the topic and Yes its kind of Hard to know where you draw the line. I know im not an Angel as I have played the game myself and taged a Number of people in the past. though I dont say I Stole your Virginity Least Not Here. I have said "Yay I got first post" then I follow by a Hello ^.^ and a wave.
I was tagged the first day I joined here, and on FA & DA and FJ. so its really just a play thing. and happens everywhere its not going to stop and its not really a problem. and if you word it nicely and Not say I RAPED your comments or the such I really dont see a Problem here and I dont think calling someone a "intellectually challenged individual" is the right course of Action o.O Im just sayin ^.^
anyways I just wanted to put in my two cents seeing as the penny will be no more soon.
I would kind of have to agree that that sort of comment doesn't exactly give a great vibe to kids joining the forums, but for the most part, everyone (even the kids who MIGHT take it the wrong way...) know it's just a joke and it doesn't mean anything.
I just wish it wasn't some sort of game to comment on a new users page like that.
I think it'd be a better game to see who can befriend them first. :highfive:
I'm with ember.
I think it's tacky at best.
Interesting thread, but i've only seen one person post that it actually affected them negatively in any way. Annoying? Maybe, but i've seen a few responses here that state that they thought it was humorous for them. It may be personal preference. Like the annoying :birdy: Im sure it will die out in time without involvement from above.
I'd like to point out that if you have an issue or are offended by something someone says you have multiple options, such as:
- Reporting that person and what offended you to a moderator. If it's against forum rules they will deal with it.
- Hit the phrase "delete comment" and *poof* it disappears.
: Zythren April 02, 2012, 08:42:52 -06:00
I would kind of have to agree that that sort of comment doesn't exactly give a great vibe to kids joining the forums, but for the most part, everyone (even the kids who MIGHT take it the wrong way...) know it's just a joke and it doesn't mean anything.
^ This. As a 'kid' (relatively speaking :P) it didn't really bother me all that much... sure it can be interpreted the wrong way, but
anything can.