My boyfriend Riley just broke up with me, im posting here just because i need some hugs. its not a matter of "How do i keep on going?" or any need of advice, i just need the help of my peers to comfort me.
My boyfriend and i met for the first time behind the Ladysmith pool where everyone smokes and talks, and when i saw him i thought he was the hottest boy my age around. he was friends with my friend Kush so he came over to play some XBox360 and hang, but i soon found out from him he was a furry and Bi-sexual. he asked me out that night and i said yes after some flirting. after three wonderful dates he moved to Vanderhoof, i didn't hear from him for a while but when i finally did i found out he was into some demonic things. rituals and satanic cultist practices, i tried to get him to stop and i managed to for about a week but the power lured him back in. there is a war going on inside him between the good and the darkness he has brought into his life, and i care for him. i don't want to see him waste his soul for power in this life, i want to be there with him through the next life. he is at war with himself and i wish i could help him. he...
there are no words to the way he broke up with me.
he... broke... me.
he simply broke me.
i still love him and he seem to be lashing out at everyone in his life.
i don't want to see him getting into these dark things.
if anyone has something to say to support me or a helpful opinion then go ahead, just don't make fun of these dark things that are taking over his life, demons are very real and seek to destroy our souls through deceit, i've seen it myself, it takes over the lives of many people.
If that's how he wants to live his life then let him go. sounds to me like he didn't feel the same for you if he just up and left, without a word. I would move on, i know its hard, but you'll find your soul mate someday. *hugs* sadly Vanderhoof will bring out the demons in the best of ppl :P sorry i had to
Look, as a man who has talked to many people on this subject, It's only when you go about unsafely( Such as not ensuring a good seal and not closing the connection when you are done, like leaving an unlocked front door in a crime ridden area) in dealing with entities like that.
Besides, most rituals are bullshit. Besides, you sound a little holier-than-thou, I'm sure there's more to the story than what you have told us.
There is more to this story than you have let on, as Oryx stated, Rei. Demons are not real, rituals are no different than any other religious expression, and the sole cause of a breakup is not imaginary entities; I see that unfortunate excuse applied throughout the religious world, on all tiers. Perhaps in this case, the Christ-like approach of unconditional love that you Christians are generally urged towards, may have served you better, rather than the righteousness you may have applied? I have seen it many times, theological differences very frequently disrupt relationships. To my understanding, you are a practised Christian, who has chosen to date someone who later turned out to operate outside of your accepted theology. Perhaps the lesson to be learned is acceptance over dogmatic judgement?
A demon fur? O.O never seen one of those.
this is true stuff and selkit i proterbs me that you ignored my request to not post your doubts about what im saying, demonic things are very real. i surrounded by good Christians who are god-loving not god-fearing, they are all wonderful people who accept my sexuality and don't see anything wrong with it, and they all have seen what demonic things do, they come into your life if you open the door for them and they ruin it. i don't care if you don't believe in demons or not, but this is a real problem here with his soul.
"I would rather give up that kingdom for power after i die"
"Its to great a thing for me to ignore, these demons are part of my life, and i like that"
Riley is going through a hard time and i spent a whole two hours trying to get him to stop, and he pulled the MIGHTYER-THAN-THOU statement with First Corinthians where it supposedly said homosexuality is wrong. im a deep believer in all of this,
so for once selkit im going to say it.
SHUT YOUR ANNOYING FACE UNLESS YOU HAVE SOMETHING SUPPORTIVE TO SAY, YOU ARE AN EXTREME PESSIMIST, AND I FIND YOUR WAY OF STATING THINGS TO BE RUDE. now kindly go away.
: Lt ReiStark May 04, 2011, 12:30:59 -06:00
so for once selkit im going to say it.
SHUT YOUR ANNOYING FACE UNLESS YOU HAVE SOMETHING SUPPORTIVE TO SAY, YOU ARE AN EXTREME PESSIMIST, AND I FIND YOUR WAY OF STATING THINGS TO BE RUDE. now kindly go away.
[gmod]Warning #1: Personal attacks. If you disagree, you can do it without personal attacks.[/gmod]
Six posts into the thread and already a religous debate. I would have never thought.
Rei, to be perfectly honest, you post openly on a public forum, hanging out personal facts in an open venue. You honestly do not get to pick and choose the kind of commentary you receive in a venue like this. It's fairly clear to me now that it's exactly as it seemed; You were dating someone of a different faith, could not accept the fact, and selfishly attempted to attack another person's core belief. I don't have a whole lot of sympathy for you here. I'll reiterate it once more, however; If you don't want public commentary, don't post in public on personal matters, then tantrum when someone happens to say something you disagree with.
Relevant to the topic at hand, he's absolutely right in accusing you of hypocrisy for judging him about his faith, while you yourself are in violation of your own creed. It is not right, that you're now asking for pure, unadulterated sympathy while you've told only half the story and are essentially libelous through omission against him. What entitles you to attack him on a matter of faith, of equal importance to him as your own is to you, rather than giving him the same courtesy you have been quite lucky to receive yourself; Acceptance as a human being, rather than ostracism for a dissonant fringe point. This request for sympathy while you've omitted key facts, named an individual and heaped blame wholly on them with none for yourself, undeservedly, is crass and inappropriate. The community does not need to be dragged into your desire to have a group of people "on your side".
I am disappointed that once again you've fallen into the insular attitude, Rei, that you are entitled to only hear what you want to hear. However, when you post in public, you will receive public commentary, particularly when you are not factual, and emotionally manipulative.
Damn it, why does Selkit always beat me to the good threads :(
I'm not really going to post in length, as Selkit beat me to it and posted much of what I would like to say to you. So here's just a couple quick and dirty points.
1) After three dates, you are not in 'love.' You barely know the person, and applying that label to it indicates an inexperience with what the term means.
2) After three dates, he is not your 'boyfriend.' He is someone you are starting to get to know. Jumping to applying the love/boyfriend labels in the the starting stages of a relationship leads to expectations that are very difficult to hold up to. By doing such you're inviting resentment.
3) That he left without saying anything to you should indicate that he was neither in love with you, nor your boyfriend. If you thought that either of these two things was true, you should be more careful about applying these labels in the future.
Also, you seem to have a casual relationship with the truth that makes what you say hard to take with any merit.
Finally, your quote: "i want to be there with him through the next life" induced first disbelief and then light laughter. You talk about people being so willing to throw their life away to 'demons' and then right after speak to committing your very soul to this man.
you guys really don't need to be such dicks. He's 16 ffs. cut the kid some slack. infatuation and puppy love still hurts when it leaves. as for what makes a boyfriend in a relationship, that's all relative to the point of view. Dating in high school, or at that age, is much different than dating in your 20s. In high school, the kid says "will you be my bf/gf?" or "will you go out with me?" and that's a relationship. In your 20s, you ask "wanna go for dinner?" And it's a date, but not yet a relationship.
But back to my point, he asked for support. Not judgement.
Hi Emo,
Give the below a read through again. In case that the reason for you not getting his point was either a lack of reading comprehension or attention span, here's the summary:
This is a public forum, if you post here you don't get to pick and choose what people say in reply. So if people want to give him judgement, that's what he's going to get.
If you want unquestioning support, that is what friends and family is for. This is the Internet.
: Selkit May 04, 2011, 03:25:45 -06:00
Rei, to be perfectly honest, you post openly on a public forum, hanging out personal facts in an open venue. You honestly do not get to pick and choose the kind of commentary you receive in a venue like this. It's fairly clear to me now that it's exactly as it seemed; You were dating someone of a different faith, could not accept the fact, and selfishly attempted to attack another person's core belief. I don't have a whole lot of sympathy for you here. I'll reiterate it once more, however; If you don't want public commentary, don't post in public on personal matters, then tantrum when someone happens to say something you disagree with.
Relevant to the topic at hand, he's absolutely right in accusing you of hypocrisy for judging him about his faith, while you yourself are in violation of your own creed. It is not right, that you're now asking for pure, unadulterated sympathy while you've told only half the story and are essentially libelous through omission against him. What entitles you to attack him on a matter of faith, of equal importance to him as your own is to you, rather than giving him the same courtesy you have been quite lucky to receive yourself; Acceptance as a human being, rather than ostracism for a dissonant fringe point. This request for sympathy while you've omitted key facts, named an individual and heaped blame wholly on them with none for yourself, undeservedly, is crass and inappropriate. The community does not need to be dragged into your desire to have a group of people "on your side".
I am disappointed that once again you've fallen into the insular attitude, Rei, that you are entitled to only hear what you want to hear. However, when you post in public, you will receive public commentary, particularly when you are not factual, and emotionally manipulative.
[gmod]All: Yes, it's a public forum, but keep it within the topic "Help and Advice". Now, that doesn't mean you can't give "tough love" advice, but keep it within the forum topic. Thanks.[/gmod]
What rainrat said. Also, it seems like you guys just jump on the chance to knock him down. There is such thing as compassion on the internet.
As for advice, Rei, you're 16. I assume that Riley isn't too far from your age. As much as it hurts, the only thing you can do is let him be; to make his own mistakes or not. If you love something, let it go, if it comes back it's yours, if not it was never meant to be. :p yes I'm cheesy. in fact, I'm cheesetastic!
On this forum he threatened to kill members of my family.
He was temp banned for it.
I will treat him any way I feel like.
: Ember May 04, 2011, 06:50:33 -06:00On this forum he threatened to kill members of my family.
O___O He did?
ReiStark - I know people have said this before but I guess it might do you some good to hear this from someone your own age. If this sounds a bit harsh, sorry in advance.
You have to just get over this.
Three dates (no matter how great they were) does NOT make a relationship, and even if for some reason it did .. Most high school relationships DON'T last. Three dates is also NOT love. It's not worth freaking out about, and insulting someone is definitely not going to help your cause. You're sixteen years old, you have YEARS to find 'love' - but I can pretty much guarantee that this isn't it.
Like others have said, you posted on a public forum looking for 'help and advice.' You can't expect people to just give you whatever YOU want to hear. If you're going to get so offended that you have to call someone who was just giving their own opinion an 'extreme pessimist' and tell them to 'shut their annoying face' .. Then you probably shouldn't have posted here.
: Roffo May 04, 2011, 01:44:39 -06:00
Six posts into the thread and already a religous debate. I would have never thought.
Welcome to the Internet.
: Ember May 04, 2011, 03:43:07 -06:00
Damn it, why does Selkit always beat me to the good threads :(
Two thumbs up to Ember!
I've heard; Just believe in what you like and you'll be sent to a plane of heaven. Just because somthing may include some "dark forces" does not mean it cannot be used for good. I don't support sacrifices but sometimes a belief in a ritual may make one stronger. Rituals will always have a point where someone goes "WTF" but they're still commonly used today. If you like him, you like him. If not, then don't.
: Ember May 04, 2011, 06:50:33 -06:00
On this forum he threatened to kill members of my family.
He was temp banned for it.
I will treat him any way I feel like.
you do have to admit you were being a queef cake.
This is going totally astray from what's appropriate on the board, so I am locking it.