Here i would like to be proactive in telling people what aspergers syndrom is actualy like. i've read books and met real people with this condition in their lives, i also have aspergers so i KNOW what i am talking about, im not a mental heath doctor but this is one thing i know i have a firm grasp on.
let's all be mature about it so no swearing even if you bleep out the word like this **** (that word was cake). no offencive words, even if its not a swear it can offend people. No telling me "You're wrong about it and I know more by other means" live with it for years and have a bunch of child and youth mental health workers explaining it to you for years and then we can talk on equal ground, or get a degree in this subject specialising in autism and i will respect you as knowing more than me, however that would take 6 years to do.
SO :D blow post one of the following.
A) What you've heard about aspergers.
B) What you think are the main facts of the condition .
C) A question about aspergers.
D) What you think we are like.
Or
E) ask how its been for me, all aspies are different.
(http://www.orkutscrap4u.com/app/webroot/scrap/hugs/001_hugs_hg_wht.gif)
Also Selkit or however you spell it i forgot, is not welcome to complain here as he has trouble understanding that all people with this syndrom are different and the effects of it can hit lightly or hard, also generaly our upbringing changes how we deal with it. i grew up with an abusive father and a mother who ignored me, im depressive and have on a few occations been deemed a threat to myself. im medicating and trying to work through it, so those who don't understand that being hit with so much in your life and not finding out you have aspergers untill you were 13 can hit you hard. that being said i congratulate him on being a success story, i however am not one of those operah guest stories, im more of the Dr.Phill story... for now.
Im getting my life together now, im looking for a job, im learning how to drive, im getting into shape, and im working towards being a productive member of the community, and those are better than this time last year when i would sit in my room all day drinking and not showering for weeks at a time. I HAVE FAULTS! THEY ARE MANY! THEY ARE NOT ALL ASPERGERS! and i need to work through them, i know a young man named Alan who is my guiding light to get through it, so saying i use this as an umbrella is just mean, im trying to better myself so putting me down does not help at all.
Still i think that its great that Sel found the will and skills to get to where he is, and if i ever meet him i will ask him how he did it because i would like to try those things :D
I think that you very clearly go out of your way to be a dick and an idiot and use your aspergers (real or not) as an excuse to behave this way.
If you really do have this condition, it's not an excuse to give up on life and just be an asshole. People have far worse things and still contribute to society. Look at Stephen Hawking, do you really think you have a worse lot in life than he does?
In any case, people don't dislike you because you may have Aspergers. They dislike you because of your behavior.
I agree with Ember. One of my best friend's boyfriend has this syndrome, and it is a much more insidious disorder than simply something that makes you act like an immature kid and try to pass the blame off as something you can't control. It makes him have periods of extreme introversion, causes him to think that all his friends actually hate him, and severely impacts social functions when it hits. He is also an exceptionally smart individual. Granted, there are scales of severity as with any disorder, but the one thing I've never heard of it doing is making people act like loud, rude little kids who can't handle people not thinking their antics are amusing.
I worked with someone, for around two years, who had Aspergers. It was an interesting experience, especially since I was the senior programmer on the same project as them, but had literally half their programming experience.
I know that aspergers is very hard to diagnose, and there are many kids who are diagnosed with this syndrome who are not properly diagnosed or cleared of aspergers till adulthood, and are permanently stigmatize in their development. I've also learned of the percentage of children with Anti Personality Disorder being diagnosed with aspergers, which I find kind of horrifying.
I am not saying that you have Anti Personality Disorder or have been misdiagnosed, just answering A)
For E) I'd like to ask how this condition has affected your few on the sincerity of the relationships you've been in.
I agree with Ember.
Asperger's Syndrome or not, if you followed the same courtesy you've asked of other people in this thread, people wouldn't dislike you so much.
As for what I know about Asperger's, I know that it's on the autistic spectrum, and as such,"aspies" generally have one thing that they're amazing at, have an IQ that's borderline genius or higher, but have problems interacting socially, including reading facial expression and other forms of body language.
Nowhere in here did i say i act this way BECAUSE i have aspergers syndrom.
Yes i was diagnosed with it at age twelve and every one of the workers i've had agree i have it, so i aint trollin.
That being said i will say im sorry i was suck a jerk on the forums, i was rude and belegerant.
i will also say this I HAVE LOTS OF FLAWS THAT DON"T HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH ASPERGERS!
1) My ego is huge, i think myself over everyone else at time, and i always thing im right and that i know everything.
2) I honestly have a hard time shuting the heck up, every part of my brain is saying "NOOOO SHUT UP! THE ISSUE IS OVER SO DON"T OPEN YOUR BIG MOUTH!!" but nooooooo i have to add another snarky comment.
3) I forget things that i know people i love care about, birthdays, meetings, and many more.
4) i get very confronational when im angry, i just can't let stuff go.
5) I don't care about myself as much as i should despite my ego, i sometimes wear dirty clothes and don't shower for weeks.
that being said im trying to work through those issues, so being told about these things is annoying. i pride myself on keeping all the dirt in my life on the outside where i can clean it, i let myself say that i have problems in my life that i need to work out. if you can't write out the 5 things about yourself that you need to work on with honesty then i will be ignoring all your posts on this matter :)
The things that i need to improve on or stop doing are as follows:
1) My ego is huge, i think myself over everyone else at time, and i always thing im right and that i know everything.
2) I honestly have a hard time shuting the heck up, every part of my brain is saying "NOOOO SHUT UP! THE ISSUE IS OVER SO DON"T OPEN YOUR BIG MOUTH!!" but nooooooo i have to add another snarky comment.
3) I forget things that i know people i love care about, birthdays, meetings, and many more.
4) i get very confronational when im angry, i just can't let stuff go.
5) I don't care about myself as much as i should despite my ego, i sometimes wear dirty clothes and don't shower for weeks.
Any who can't fill this out are going to ignored on this matter <3
posting this was brave of you.
I only know one person with this and I don't know much about it. I know its a type of autism. I myself have to be in a good mood to be around my friend with this because it's a lot of excitement and sometimes I just can't coop with people who are buzz buzz buzz.
It's just another difference in a person. in my eyes. And I feel badly when I hear someone else trash talking people who have this. It's not their fault after all.
It's good to communicate what your limitations are.
:)
Um... I'm sorry. But I'm not going to post the top 5 things I dislike about myself on a forum that I've only been part of for little over a month. :\ Not even my mate knows the top 5 things I feel I need to change about myself, though I'm sure he could guess :roll: lol
Clearly you have no problem reining yourself in when absolutely necessary, because you've been at least civil in this thread. I would suggest, in future, when you offend some one unintentionally, perhaps apologizing instead of calling them names? Or take a break until you've calmed down?
: EmoFox February 12, 2011, 11:51:36 -07:00
Um... I'm sorry. But I'm not going to post the top 5 things I dislike about myself on a forum that I've only been part of for little over a month. :\ Not even my mate knows the top 5 things I feel I need to change about myself, though I'm sure he could guess :roll: lol
Clearly you have no problem reining yourself in when absolutely necessary, because you've been at least civil in this thread. I would suggest, in future, when you offend some one unintentionally, perhaps apologizing instead of calling them names? Or take a break until you've calmed down?
Thank you for your VERY proactive comments, its good to see somebody who can talk about this with propper logic. I will try to SHUT MYSELF UP! in future, and your suggestions were very nice.
you've given me a good reason not to ignore you for not posting your 5 because you gave me a good expination about why you don't want to, i respect that because you didn't just yammer on about thinking it was dumb, same with Kytten.
Um... thanks? Haha I had to read that over a couple of times 'cause I wasn't sure if you were yelling at me or not. Oh how I love the internet. I would imagine it makes it harder to read social cues, since you don't really have any, except for the little emoticons.
Which leads to overuse!
:D:D:D:D:D:D :P:P:P:P:P:P:P :):):):):) AHAHAHAhAHA!
Ok, i'm done. have a good night everyone!
: EmoFox February 13, 2011, 12:32:59 -07:00
Um... thanks? Haha I had to read that over a couple of times 'cause I wasn't sure if you were yelling at me or not. Oh how I love the internet. I would imagine it makes it harder to read social cues, since you don't really have any, except for the little emoticons.
Which leads to overuse!
:D:D:D:D:D:D :P:P:P:P:P:P:P :):):):):) AHAHAHAhAHA!
Ok, i'm done. have a good night everyone!
oh im generaly nice :hug:
What was the point in posting this thread?
I know you meant well, but I really don't think anyone cares. At all.
It's only turning into a pitiful hate-fest now.
: Zythren February 13, 2011, 06:59:13 -07:00
What was the point in posting this thread?
I know you meant well, but I really don't think anyone cares. At all.
It's only turning into a pitiful hate-fest now.
What was the point of that post? there hasn't been a lot of hateful comments. There was the initial "We think you're a dick because of how you behave, and that you're hiding behind aspergers" but other than that its been fine. Did you even read it? Mostly, i believe there's been support and a general "good for you for trying to help people understand".
Normally I'm the one to stir the shit pot, but really? come on.
: EmoFox February 13, 2011, 07:45:32 -07:00
: Zythren February 13, 2011, 06:59:13 -07:00
What was the point in posting this thread?
I know you meant well, but I really don't think anyone cares. At all.
It's only turning into a pitiful hate-fest now.
What was the point of that post? there hasn't been a lot of hateful comments. There was the initial "We think you're a dick because of how you behave, and that you're hiding behind aspergers" but other than that its been fine. Did you even read it? Mostly, i believe there's been support and a general "good for you for trying to help people understand".
Normally I'm the one to stir the shit pot, but really? come on.
*high fives*
: Rue February 12, 2011, 09:04:53 -07:00
It makes him have periods of extreme introversion, causes him to think that all his friends actually hate him, and severely impacts social functions when it hits. He is also an exceptionally smart individual. Granted, there are scales of severity as with any disorder, but the one thing I've never heard of it doing is making people act like loud, rude little kids who can't handle people not thinking their antics are amusing.
Agreed. I am very close to someone who was clinically diagnosed with aspergers and had all of these symptoms (spent a month in the hospital for depression due to it).
Actually, through diet and lifestyle he has managed to reverse it completely.
: EmoFox February 13, 2011, 07:45:32 -07:00
What was the point of that post? there hasn't been a lot of hateful comments. There was the initial "We think you're a dick because of how you behave, and that you're hiding behind aspergers" but other than that its been fine. Did you even read it? Mostly, i believe there's been support and a general "good for you for trying to help people understand".
Normally I'm the one to stir the shit pot, but really? come on.
Except that he opened by shooting down any and all responses from another forum member
right off the bat. The pot had been stirred before you even stepped up to it, sir.
: Lt ReiStark February 12, 2011, 07:34:41 -07:00
Also Selkit or however you spell it i forgot, is not welcome to complain here as he has trouble understanding that all people with this syndrom are different and the effects of it can hit lightly or hard, also generaly our upbringing changes how we deal with it.
Is this not trolling a particular forum member? Did you not say no trolls in this thread? Why are you posting this? :birdy: *head explodes* On an aside, asking trolls to ignore this thread in the subject is going to get you trolled. Do you know what would happen if you posted this thread on FurAffinity? There would be nothing left of you. I'm absolutely stunned. I take no issue with anyone or their challenges, and would never call the legitimacy of something I'm not familliar with myself, but this really does seem to be something that could have been resolved in PM or other methods without staking a moat in the sand. This is the kind of shit that made me leave this forum last time.
: drewdle February 13, 2011, 10:16:15 -07:00
Except that he opened by shooting down any and all responses from another forum member right off the bat. The pot had been stirred before you even stepped up to it, sir.
Okay, 2 things. Firstly, i'm not a sir damnit, >< if you're going to use gender specific reference words, at least get the gender right. Especially when it's right. There.
<---- See? "Emofox needs cuddles
she does." Right there.
Secondly, I'm pretty sure that he did that to avoid a flame war between the two, which in my experience happens EVERY TIME the two interact. Immature and childish, perhaps, but the kid's 16. That's not exactly the most mature age of anyone. I'm sure if Selkit was really offended or bothered by this he would have either reported the thread to an admin or something.
Honestly, this thread was ACTUALLY pretty decent all things considered, until people decided to personally attack him for posting the thread in the first place. How does that make you any better than he is?
I am gone for a day from BCF and a forum war happens, again. The first confrontation starting with the Google and Illiteracy thread.
When can things just be about furry for a change? I wouldn't be surprised if people begin to get banned on the forum. But by all means, continue the flame-war.
I think the point of this thread was the discuss what Aspergers is, and how it affects people. Also, the point was to dispel myths. Lt ReiStark has made a clear post explaining, quite boldly, his personal faults that are not related to Aspergers.
But that is not the point, understanding Aspergers is. How about we all get back on topic now? Kthx <3
: EmoFox February 14, 2011, 12:09:25 -07:00
: drewdle February 13, 2011, 10:16:15 -07:00
Except that he opened by shooting down any and all responses from another forum member right off the bat. The pot had been stirred before you even stepped up to it, sir.
Okay, 2 things. Firstly, i'm not a sir damnit, >< if you're going to use gender specific reference words, at least get the gender right. Especially when it's right. There.
<---- See? "Emofox needs cuddles she does." Right there.
Secondly, I'm pretty sure that he did that to avoid a flame war between the two, which in my experience happens EVERY TIME the two interact. Immature and childish, perhaps, but the kid's 16. That's not exactly the most mature age of anyone. I'm sure if Selkit was really offended or bothered by this he would have either reported the thread to an admin or something.
Honestly, this thread was ACTUALLY pretty decent all things considered, until people decided to personally attack him for posting the thread in the first place. How does that make you any better than he is?
I like you EmoFox :3 its refreashing to hear your statments, and if i liked girls you would be one i would so like :D. i like how you think and to be frank in don't realy care what these people say about this, but thank you for trying to defend me :)
: Zen February 14, 2011, 12:17:49 -07:00
I think the point of this thread was the discuss what Aspergers is, and how it affects people. Also, the point was to dispel myths. Lt ReiStark has made a clear post explaining, quite boldly, his personal faults that are not related to Aspergers.
But that is not the point, understanding Aspergers is. How about we all get back on topic now? Kthx <3
ALL RIGHT! A HIGH FIVE!
lets get onto topic :)
[admin]There will be no flame war here. You guys can disagree with each other but there is to be no personal attacks or "flames".
No one is getting banned yet but if it the problem continues further action may need to be taken.[/admin]
: RainRat February 14, 2011, 12:20:22 -07:00
There will be no flame war here. You guys can disagree with each other but there is to be no personal attacks or "flames".
No one is getting banned yet but if it the problem continues further action may need to be taken.
thank you :3
we will be getting to topic now, feel free to remove any off topic posts from this point on, or rather PLEASE I BEG OF YOU TO REMOVE ALL FLAME WAR POSTS FROM HERE ON!! :,(
I am curious to see where this thread goes.
Might as well light light the flame w-... I mean conversation.
I've known a few people with Aspergers. Nothing serious for them, just minor.
: Roffo February 14, 2011, 12:26:37 -07:00
I am curious to see where this thread goes.
Might as well light light the flame w-... I mean conversation.
I've known a few people with Aspergers. Nothing serious for them, just minor.
Well all autism is different between cases, even if the people have the same type of autism, but im SOOOOO glad im not in a wheel chair in my own little world for 15 hours every day. i know somebody with realy bad autism and she needs a care worker every day to help her because otherwise she sits in bed and wont eat. Aspergers is in ways a blessing for me, my verbal comunication skills are past collage level, i've been told by workers that the way i talk (Not post on forums) is like talking to a fifty year old man in a boys body.
Aspergers hit me hard when i was young though, but some good helpers and some tight friends have realy helped me.
: Lt ReiStark February 14, 2011, 12:18:44 -07:00
I like you EmoFox :3 its refreashing to hear your statments, and if i liked girls you would be one i would so like :D. i like how you think and to be frank in don't realy care what these people say about this, but thank you for trying to defend me :)
I'm flattered, :p but happily engaged, ;)
As for people with Aspergers, it does effect people differently, and I think a large part of that is how it's dealt with by the people around you. My best friend had/has aspergers, and I can't post all of it up here, because it's mostly from my own observations, so its pretty biased. But suffice to say that if his mom hadn't treated it the way she had, I believe he would've had a much easier time of it than he did.
: EmoFox February 14, 2011, 12:52:27 -07:00
: Lt ReiStark February 14, 2011, 12:18:44 -07:00
I like you EmoFox :3 its refreashing to hear your statments, and if i liked girls you would be one i would so like :D. i like how you think and to be frank in don't realy care what these people say about this, but thank you for trying to defend me :)
I'm flattered, :p but happily engaged, ;)
As for people with Aspergers, it does effect people differently, and I think a large part of that is how it's dealt with by the people around you. My best friend had/has aspergers, and I can't post all of it up here, because it's mostly from my own observations, so its pretty biased. But suffice to say that if his mom hadn't treated it the way she had, I believe he would've had a much easier time of it than he did.
My mum was great after the workers i had gave her a kick in the butt LOL. i can understand, my mom's way of dealing with it for years was to go out with her friends and leave me at home either alone or with my older sister. some people just don't understand aspergers syndrom :(
Rei, I am going to choose cautiously, to ignore your statement that I am "a troll", and that I am unwelcome from posting here. I am going to be neutral, and I am going to play devil's advocate on both sides of the fence, starting with answers to your original questions, based on my personal experiences as a high-functioning autistic individual, diagnosed in my pre-teenage years. And yes, there will even be helpful advice you can glean out of it, but there will likewise be comments you may not want to hear.
A) What you've heard about aspergers.
I've heard many things about it; It's been something of a blanket label in psychiatry, evolving over the years into more precise definitions. Most psychiatrists are somewhat reluctant to apply 'Aspergers' itself as a label (Usually it means they haven't found an appropriate point on the autism spectrum to assign, as a more precise diagnosis). There are many misconceptions about what Aspergers actually is (Places like 4Chan use the unflattering label 'asspies' as a blanket term). What I've experienced, under that umbrella, is disconnection from strong emotional understanding. I do not quite grasp emotional states the way that others tend to innately, and often find myself relying on rote learning to determine what others are feeling, or even what I myself am subconsciously feeling. The perception I've seen is that Aspergers sufferers are socially awkward, high-intelligence individuals with severe difficulties fitting into society, owing to difficulties in understanding others. I would say that for the most part, the popular perception based on personal experience, is mostly true.
Unfortunately, as mentioned (The example of 4Chan), there are individuals who have been soured by the stereotypes, or those who they've encountered who have genuinely used an autism spectrum disorder as an excuse. These are people that you will need to understand. More importantly, you will need to avoid playing into the stereotype they believe you fall into, and it will not be easy to do so. It is absolutely crucial that you maintain an open mind, an open ear, and if necessary, rather than aggravation, sufficient willpower to be detached but observant.
B) What you think are the main facts of the condition .
High inclination towards more introverted activities (A side-effect of being somewhat emotionally detached), difficulty in understanding the emotions of others (And frequently even oneself), impatience and attention-span deficit. Most of us tend to be inclined towards mathematics and science as a result, or creative pursuits outside of social contact. You can use this to your advantage, if you learn to harness it; I have yet to meet an autism-spectrum individual that did not possess greater than average analytical skills. From time to time, step back, evaluate your situation, the people around you, and spend some time quietly parsing the data. People are something you and I are at a disadvantage with, subtle emotional nuances and facial cues will go unnoticed. With time and observation, though, you can consciously understand these states, and find even deeper understanding of others.
The condition is not curable, but the symptoms can be managed. May I suggest strangely, that you pick up a light coffee habit? Small amounts of caffeine have been shown in studies, to be beneficial to low-level autism sufferers of all strokes. Nicotine has similar effects, though you do not want to start smoking, for fairly obvious reasons. It acts upon the brain in a similar fashion to Ritalin (Stimulating centers of the brain that in an autistic mind, are normally at a low level of function). Just don't overdo it; It's something of a bathtub effect. Sleep at more regular hours, and if possible, take a regular Omega complex supplement alongside slightly elevated B-vitamin levels in your diet. Regular exposure to sunlight will likewise help. Unrelated to your condition, if you have been chiefly spending time indoors, you will likely have low vitamin D levels, essential for calcium processing and by proxy, overall energy levels (Calcium is not only skeletally vital, it's vital to your cells ability to process glucose. No calcium, no calcium rotor function).
C) A question about aspergers.
Only related on a tangent; Have you tried activities that involve spatial relations and physics? Darts, archery, billiards, bowling and similar? You may find that complex focus-based games and sports will help you build your ability to focus and analyze further. They're also a perfect means to go out and be sociable.
D) What you think we are like.
Or
E) ask how its been for me, all aspies are different.
You've already summarized in short, how it's been for you. Someday, I may explain it in full to you how it's been for me, when there's a stronger basis of trust and interpersonal knowledge to operate on.
Please understand, Rei, that I do not have any reason to adopt any measure of hate for you. I disapprove of your social behavior, but believe that you still have growing and maturation to do. No mind remains sixteen forever. I am quite sure there are members of this forum who have known me long enough to point out changes in my own personality. Some of them have had nearly a decade to observe the shifts. With guidance and advice, you will do fine, provided you listen with an open mind. Work to intentionally cultivate a sense of calm and patience. Seek self-improvement and understanding; There are aspects of yourself that even you will not fully understand without spending time in research and self evaluation. And move to understand others. Do not seek to push something away solely because you dislike it, or do not understand it. Your reaction and theirs are something to learn from, valuable points of data on which to build a web of understanding. Should you have any further questions, please feel free to ask them.
: Selkit February 14, 2011, 03:10:20 -07:00
Rei, I am going to choose cautiously, to ignore your statement that I am "a troll", and that I am unwelcome from posting here. I am going to be neutral, and I am going to play devil's advocate on both sides of the fence, starting with answers to your original questions, based on my personal experiences as a high-functioning autistic individual, diagnosed in my pre-teenage years. And yes, there will even be helpful advice you can glean out of it, but there will likewise be comments you may not want to hear.
A) What you've heard about aspergers.
I've heard many things about it; It's been something of a blanket label in psychiatry, evolving over the years into more precise definitions. Most psychiatrists are somewhat reluctant to apply 'Aspergers' itself as a label (Usually it means they haven't found an appropriate point on the autism spectrum to assign, as a more precise diagnosis). There are many misconceptions about what Aspergers actually is (Places like 4Chan use the unflattering label 'asspies' as a blanket term). What I've experienced, under that umbrella, is disconnection from strong emotional understanding. I do not quite grasp emotional states the way that others tend to innately, and often find myself relying on rote learning to determine what others are feeling, or even what I myself am subconsciously feeling. The perception I've seen is that Aspergers sufferers are socially awkward, high-intelligence individuals with severe difficulties fitting into society, owing to difficulties in understanding others. I would say that for the most part, the popular perception based on personal experience, is mostly true.
Unfortunately, as mentioned (The example of 4Chan), there are individuals who have been soured by the stereotypes, or those who they've encountered who have genuinely used an autism spectrum disorder as an excuse. These are people that you will need to understand. More importantly, you will need to avoid playing into the stereotype they believe you fall into, and it will not be easy to do so. It is absolutely crucial that you maintain an open mind, an open ear, and if necessary, rather than aggravation, sufficient willpower to be detached but observant.
B) What you think are the main facts of the condition .
High inclination towards more introverted activities (A side-effect of being somewhat emotionally detached), difficulty in understanding the emotions of others (And frequently even oneself), impatience and attention-span deficit. Most of us tend to be inclined towards mathematics and science as a result, or creative pursuits outside of social contact. You can use this to your advantage, if you learn to harness it; I have yet to meet an autism-spectrum individual that did not possess greater than average analytical skills. From time to time, step back, evaluate your situation, the people around you, and spend some time quietly parsing the data. People are something you and I are at a disadvantage with, subtle emotional nuances and facial cues will go unnoticed. With time and observation, though, you can consciously understand these states, and find even deeper understanding of others.
The condition is not curable, but the symptoms can be managed. May I suggest strangely, that you pick up a light coffee habit? Small amounts of caffeine have been shown in studies, to be beneficial to low-level autism sufferers of all strokes. Nicotine has similar effects, though you do not want to start smoking, for fairly obvious reasons. It acts upon the brain in a similar fashion to Ritalin (Stimulating centers of the brain that in an autistic mind, are normally at a low level of function). Just don't overdo it; It's something of a bathtub effect. Sleep at more regular hours, and if possible, take a regular Omega complex supplement alongside slightly elevated B-vitamin levels in your diet. Regular exposure to sunlight will likewise help. Unrelated to your condition, if you have been chiefly spending time indoors, you will likely have low vitamin D levels, essential for calcium processing and by proxy, overall energy levels (Calcium is not only skeletally vital, it's vital to your cells ability to process glucose. No calcium, no calcium rotor function).
C) A question about aspergers.
Only related on a tangent; Have you tried activities that involve spatial relations and physics? Darts, archery, billiards, bowling and similar? You may find that complex focus-based games and sports will help you build your ability to focus and analyze further. They're also a perfect means to go out and be sociable.
D) What you think we are like.
Or
E) ask how its been for me, all aspies are different.
You've already summarized in short, how it's been for you. Someday, I may explain it in full to you how it's been for me, when there's a stronger basis of trust and interpersonal knowledge to operate on.
Please understand, Rei, that I do not have any reason to adopt any measure of hate for you. I disapprove of your social behavior, but believe that you still have growing and maturation to do. No mind remains sixteen forever. I am quite sure there are members of this forum who have known me long enough to point out changes in my own personality. Some of them have had nearly a decade to observe the shifts. With guidance and advice, you will do fine, provided you listen with an open mind. Work to intentionally cultivate a sense of calm and patience. Seek self-improvement and understanding; There are aspects of yourself that even you will not fully understand without spending time in research and self evaluation. And move to understand others. Do not seek to push something away solely because you dislike it, or do not understand it. Your reaction and theirs are something to learn from, valuable points of data on which to build a web of understanding. Should you have any further questions, please feel free to ask them.
thats very nice of you :)
i do Kenjustsu and play piano to train my focus, my reading of facal expressions is much better and i worked through some huge anger issus so i've come a ways too, not to say im anywhere near done woking on my like or aspergers LOL. if i met you in real life i would so want to talk over a coffee, forums are so detatched from real conversations because all you see is text, no inflection, no emotion, no facial cues, and no tone of voice, so i don't realy see these bits of text as actual people at times, if you're ever in ladysmith let me know so i can get you a hot drink. and im sorry that i was such an arse about all that stuff ;D :hug: :hug: :hug: ;D
Quite alright, Rei. I'm afraid it's been well over a decade since I was last on Vancouver Island, but I will keep that in mind. Likewise, if you are ever on the mainland, do let me know, and we can see about arranging a sit-down over coffee.
It's so beautiful when everyone gets along. :'(
: PurpleVeggie February 14, 2011, 05:48:05 -07:00
It's so beautiful when everyone gets along. :'(
Indeed :3
And now, we party. XD
: EmoFox February 13, 2011, 07:45:32 -07:00
: Zythren February 13, 2011, 06:59:13 -07:00
What was the point in posting this thread?
I know you meant well, but I really don't think anyone cares. At all.
It's only turning into a pitiful hate-fest now.
What was the point of that post? there hasn't been a lot of hateful comments. There was the initial "We think you're a dick because of how you behave, and that you're hiding behind aspergers" but other than that its been fine. Did you even read it? Mostly, i believe there's been support and a general "good for you for trying to help people understand".
Normally I'm the one to stir the shit pot, but really? come on.
I did read it, and I stand by my comment. Don't like it? Come at me bra. :roll:
Oh, and I'm sorry that I'm, you know, totally not entitled to my own opinion on a forum.
I'm not the one being an asshole to someone everyone is "claiming" to be an asshole. That's just hypocritical.
[admin]I said no personal attacks. Implying or saying other people are a**holes is a personal attack. Something that someone said earlier in the thread or a different thread is not a justification. It ends now.[/admin]
: RainRat February 15, 2011, 03:05:29 -07:00
I said no personal attacks. Implying or saying other people are a**holes is a personal attack. Something that someone said earlier in the thread or a different thread is not a justification. It ends now.
thank you Rain :) :hug:
I guess this is as good a time as any to come out of the closet on this matter. I was diagnosed early in my life with a high functioning varient of autism.
I'm not going to hide behind my diagnosis like so many others I have met, but it certainly makes communication outside the web and IRC rather difficult, for the very reasons Selkit mentioned.
I am paranoid in bursts, and afraid that every eyes is on me and is judging me, even if it's on a crowded bus or skytrain or even out in the sidewalk.
I stay in my room for days reading/playing/watching/lurking on the net because I feel sometimes there is no point to going outside, or that I'll forget what I was doing.
If you see me in public, say hi at least. I'm trying to move past this problem, but as much as I try to fix my problems myself, things don't always go according to how I thought they would.
Yes. Caffeine helps me, It's why I offer to meet someone for coffee everyso often. It hardens my focus into a single point and makes tasks involving rote and repetition easier.
So,
If I'm doing something wrong here on out, feel free to correct me, as I'm still learning how to act.
Well, now that more than one person has said it. I'll say it too.
I also have this condition. However, I always treat people the way I want to be treated. Sometimes it's loved, sometimes it's respected...
The fact I have gone out 3 times for bowling is an amazing feat for me. (all my family friends are also amazed that I was able to tackle it) But there are still mistakes to be made... the most recent example most people here should know about.
Passiveness keeps me in check. Routine keeps me in check. Confidence is like a potent jolt, if you have too much, it gets you to do crazy things you'll regret later. And the only way I can be creative: Lots and lots of caffeine.
I'm in the same boat as OryxFox for the "learn as you go" thing. My current problem is that my feeling for love is nearly instantaneous. I've given up on searching as I assume it will always end badly to keep myself in check with reality and with my Diploma still to be completed. And I'm willing to bet that my assumptions are all going to be correct when it comes to the search -> instant love equation.
Anyone willing to continue a discussion about me is more than free to PM me about it. I would love a mentor from within the community.
I would like to note that Oryx has earned the respect of a number of people for recognizing the problems he has and taking active steps at fixing them.
He had a rough entry into the local fandom, but I've heard from many people that he's gotten a lot better- my opinion as well.
: Mbukgaming August 25, 2018, 11:16:38 -06:00
I've always had Asperger's syndrome and it hasn't really effect me,
also hi I'm new.
Why bump a 7 year old thread the OP hasn't even signed in for 2 years.