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Some of us are coming up with an idea for a Singles Thread. So furs can post their likes, dislikes, and so on, to make new friends and mates, and possibly find mates.

If any of you are interested in this sort of thread, to help themselves find new friends in their own area, or who share the same interests, we'd like to hear what you think!

Singles does not mean people without partners, Singles means individual people.

*~*~*~*~Please Note that this is not a dating thread, this is a friend-making thread that can have unexpected possibilities!!!~*~*~*~*

totally support this ^^

i am in support of this, but it depends on what others think as well.

That's why we have this lovely Poll ^_^

That's comparable to the Introductions board, but not quite the same, so I haven't completely dismissed the idea.

: RainRat  April 19, 2009, 12:29:30 -06:00
That's comparable to the Introductions board, but not quite the same, so I haven't completely dismissed the idea.

though i agree with rat, this can open up doors for people, moreso a written bio only available to official BCFCB Members to see.

~Ravkamon

: Ravkamon [Rino]  April 19, 2009, 12:30:55 -06:00

: RainRat  April 19, 2009, 12:29:30 -06:00
That's comparable to the Introductions board, but not quite the same, so I haven't completely dismissed the idea.

though i agree with rat, this can open up doors for people, moreso a written bio only available to official BCFCB Members to see.

~Ravkamon

That was what I personally was hoping for, and within this community it is much safer, and easier to make friends. Introductions board I feel more or less, just lets you say hi. I don't see a lot of people posting all status, but this also helps to post what others look for when finding friends, and thins out questions like no tomorrow. Well, that's what I'm hoping for anyway. It's not just a "Hi I exist", it's a "Hi, I want to meet others, I want to know others exist."  Or something like that. I think I'm ranting. Working a lot and little sleep does that. XD *flails and goes to shower and goes to bed because she has to be up in less than 6 hours for workies*

I'm not totally against the idea of a 'dating' section.  And by that I don;t just mean people that are lookign for dates, but more toward people that are willing to post (PG at MOST) experiences with dates, or ideas on where to go for a date.  Including resturants and so on.

Sounds like a good idea, I support it.

I would agree this is not really needed. www.Pounced.org (http://www.pounced.org) is basically what you want for this sort of thing. And if anyone wants to explain themselves in more detail or say they want to meet other locals they can just do so on their introduction or profile page within the forums.

Pounced (http://www.pounced.org) is a furry dating and meeting site. Look for and meet local singles and/or friends.

: Kaji  April 19, 2009, 05:30:21 -06:00
I would agree this is not really needed. www.Pounced.org (http://www.pounced.org) is basically what you want for this sort of thing. And if anyone wants to explain themselves in more detail or say they want to meet other locals they can just do so on their introduction or profile page within the forums.

Pounced (http://www.pounced.org) is a furry dating and meeting site. Look for and meet local singles and/or friends.

but we dont want the entire world, this is more of a personal thing for members here only Kaji , we dont want to broadcast it into open area's maybe?

~Ravkamon

: Ravkamon [Rino]  April 19, 2009, 06:24:23 -06:00
but we dont want the entire world, this is more of a personal thing for members here only Kaji , we dont want to broadcast it into open area's maybe?
~Ravkamon

Well you can use the search function to narrow your finds to only locals. I use it all the time. Works like a charm ^^

This just makes it easier for local furs, because going through searches, and not knowing what you're looking for is hard. You may find locals but not what they are into. This is for friends and what not in our area. I quit going to pounced because people from china and what not messaged me and that's not what I wanted.

Kaji actually found me on Pounced and directed me here (even though I had registered and had posts... it's okay. XD)

I think it would be a cool idea to have a thread like that but I won't cry over it if it's a no. :P

^_^ Pounced is nice but too wide spread, this works for the local community. It is just an idea and this poll will tell us who really does want it or not, that's the point of this poll. Since it's a community board, we will see what EVERYONE thinks.

 I know I don't comment much but I'd have to agree with Kaji on this.  I don't feel there is a need for a dating/singles section, Pounced is fulfilling that void. Besides, you should be able to tell a bit about someone by reading their posts... If anything have a thread focused on local/city things to see and do, where we could post the location a great restaurant or nice park.

This is a board to get communities together to make plans, rather than randomly posting and expecting people to show up. this is a better way to determine who will actually show for all things like gaming and such, this is for individual people to find a common ground on and to socilize with. Star meant this not as a Dating thread but a gathering thread as "Single meaning Indivual" .

~Ravkamon

Haha sorry thats where jumping in halfway gets me... still couldn't you just pm people?

You can't PM people you have no idea are into. Would you PM all 116 other members to find that stuff out? I couldn't do that.

~~ this is not a vote poll for dating!!! Read the Description

I don't really have anything to add to this except this.

Coming from my (admittedly limited) experience with singles websites, I've found that the very way that they work is flawed - the only people who you're going to be able to contact are people who are actively looking.
Sounds good in principle, but in general I find people who are looking are often _desperately_ looking, either for predatorial reasons or to fill a gap left by someone else...which always ends up shitty.
I think singles websites leaves out a much more attractive demographic, the people who are single and _not_ actively looking.  These tend to be people who are more secure, well-adjusted, and "normal".

So I guess my advice to you is, singles websites suck.  It's really just much easier and better to just go out and meet people.

: Unition  April 20, 2009, 01:05:01 -06:00
I don't really have anything to add to this except this.

Coming from my (admittedly limited) experience with singles websites, I've found that the very way that they work is flawed - the only people who you're going to be able to contact are people who are actively looking.
Sounds good in principle, but in general I find people who are looking are often _desperately_ looking, either for predatorial reasons or to fill a gap left by someone else...which always ends up shitty.
I think singles websites leaves out a much more attractive demographic, the people who are single and _not_ actively looking.  These tend to be people who are more secure, well-adjusted, and "normal".

So I guess my advice to you is, singles websites suck.  It's really just much easier and better to just go out and meet people.

Please read -this is not for dating- ...

ok im going to say this now

THIS IS NOT ABOUT DATING!

thank you

This is not for dating, the mate part could be taken two ways, either British-English for friend, and I said POSSIBILITY to find a mate because when you meet friends by themselves that chance is rather large. I am in no way stating that this is for dating. In fact I have stated SEVERAL times that this is NOT A DATING THREAD!!! I have posted three times now in this same thread stating that singles = individual people, not single people without partners...

Mate still means dating/bf/gf throughout the furry fandom. 3 years and I've never heard that term used for any other term than that...just sayin. That is where the confusion lies. Simple mistake for furries.

: Kaji  April 20, 2009, 01:25:00 -06:00
Mate still means dating/bf/gf throughout the furry fandom. 3 years and I've never heard that term used for any other term than that...just sayin. That is where the confusion lies. Simple mistake for furries.

in a sense your right Kaji-san , but ... there are other definitions that i think people to recognise themselves with on these words.

: Star Wonder  April 19, 2009, 12:09:08 -06:00
Some of us are coming up with an idea for a Singles Thread. So furs can post their likes, dislikes, and so on, to make new friends and mates, and possibly find mates.

If any of you are interested in this sort of thread, to help themselves find new friends in their own area, or who share the same interests, we'd like to hear what you think!

Singles does not mean people without partners, Singles means individual people.

*~*~*~*~Please Note that this is not a dating thread, this is a friend-making thread that can have unexpected possibilities!!!~*~*~*~*

I do believe Star stated "Mates"  both senses   Which is probably why Unition and Kaji have spoken up on the matter.



The way I see it, you are stating that it is a dating thread(by means of organizing a social engagement); and at the same time, saying that it is not.  A date is defined as, "An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.





And I have to agree with Kaji, on the grounds that Pounced does not "just" Deal with those looking "Mates"(boyfriends/girlfriends).  They also aid those in search of friendships of many sorts.   
Coupled with the convenience of a geographical filter, of which Kaji had previously mentioned, Along with a Species and Gender filter, are made available, should you choose to go to such detail.

And as for foreign interests via Pounced(Of which was mentioned as counter against the effectiveness of said site)...  Well how you deal with such responses is your own business.  Though I do have my doubts, that dealing with such a response is all that taxing.



Personally speaking; getting involved within the community is the best way to meet singles of all sorts, for what ever your reasons may be.

: Haloth  April 20, 2009, 07:42:54 -06:00

: Star Wonder  April 19, 2009, 12:09:08 -06:00
Some of us are coming up with an idea for a Singles Thread. So furs can post their likes, dislikes, and so on, to make new friends and mates, and possibly find mates.

If any of you are interested in this sort of thread, to help themselves find new friends in their own area, or who share the same interests, we'd like to hear what you think!

Singles does not mean people without partners, Singles means individual people.

*~*~*~*~Please Note that this is not a dating thread, this is a friend-making thread that can have unexpected possibilities!!!~*~*~*~*

I do believe Star stated "Mates"  both senses   Which is probably why Unition and Kaji have spoken up on the matter.



The way I see it, you are stating that it is a dating thread(by means of organizing a social engagement); and at the same time, saying that it is not.  A date is defined as, "An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.





And I have to agree with Kaji, on the grounds that Pounced does not "just" Deal with those looking "Mates"(boyfriends/girlfriends).  They also aid those in search of friendships of many sorts.  
Coupled with the convenience of a geographical filter, of which Kaji had previously mentioned, Along with a Species and Gender filter, are made available, should you choose to go to such detail.

And as for foreign interests via Pounced(Of which was mentioned as counter against the effectiveness of said site)...  Well how you deal with such responses is your own business.  Though I do have my doubts, that dealing with such a response is all that taxing.



Personally speaking; getting involved within the community is the best way to meet singles of all sorts, for what ever your reasons may be.

I have been putting up that is is not for dating... It is for individuals to hang and meet... because I personally cannot find individuals at big gatherings to actually hang out with.

If everyone is going to be taking it as dating, I will state here and now it is not for dating for the last and final time, and for those that think it is I feel should reread all the posts that Rino and I have put up stating it's not... And explaining everything.

What about a smaller meet up like the art jam?   Or perhaps getting to know people on a personal basis through the larger fur meets.   It takes time(as it should), but as a result you do get dragged into smaller more personal events such as trips to the aquarium or dinner for four, etc.   So building off of large social events are an excellent way to worm your into the deeper workings of the inner social groups.    And perhaps even more so onto a personal basis with one another.


On a side note, if you would like to do something today (monday) drop me a line.   
I do believe we were to hang out after the meet.    But due to the I'll effects of excessive drinking.  I withdrew from social events of the day.

Agreed, besides it would be nice to know what the local options are like ^.^

I still think we've got Introductions board, we've got user profiles, so I think we've done what we can. There's Pounced and other sites if they want more.

But. I would have no objection to anyone creating a thread on the General board, if they felt it was needed.

i wont object either, it is free of choice for whoever wants to use it ^^

: Ravenwood  April 19, 2009, 01:35:53 -06:00
And by that I don;t just mean people that are lookign for dates, but more toward people that are willing to post (PG at MOST) experiences with dates...

I have no particular opinion either way, but this did make me giggle.

A+++++ WOULD DATE AGAIN

: Silvermink  April 20, 2009, 03:33:41 -06:00

: Ravenwood  April 19, 2009, 01:35:53 -06:00
And by that I don;t just mean people that are lookign for dates, but more toward people that are willing to post (PG at MOST) experiences with dates...

I have no particular opinion either way, but this did make me giggle.

So like, how does this work if we want one put together, a variable poll of what people are looking for, like doing and see what matches are made and then blind dates, names out of a hat and pictures put on mugs to commemorate the events, ratings of each others experience and hidden cameras with pop up messages of comical thoughts during the dates, or hey, hows it going ASL shyshyshyshy?

: librem  April 20, 2009, 03:55:28 -06:00
So like, how does this work if we want one put together, a variable poll of what people are looking for, like doing and see what matches are made and then blind dates, names out of a hat and pictures put on mugs to commemorate the events, ratings of each others experience and hidden cameras with pop up messages of comical thoughts during the dates, or hey, hows it going ASL shyshyshyshy?

it would work only how those who want to start this off, again its up to the people who want to post somthing Hai?

: librem  April 20, 2009, 03:55:28 -06:00
hey, hows it going ASL shyshyshyshy?

old enough to know better/maybe/49N 123W

u? lol

That gives an adventure from Langley when searched LOL

Well, I'm in Burnaby myself ^.^

im in burnaby too ^^

I'm also in Burnaby : D

Yay! Burnaby Peoples! Anymore? single ones even?

lmao... I just can't stop laughing...

*ear perks?* What's got the giggles into you? Was it a wriggly, crawly, or just plain creepy? i hate the thought of something creeping getting into me and causing people to giggle.

: librem  April 20, 2009, 10:07:42 -06:00
Yay! Burnaby Peoples! Anymore? single ones even?

^
|     that's what's so funny... XD

Oh, the perked interest to singles.. yesh.. Well I am single and dating is frankly fun and a good way to get to know someone ^.^

yes it is~

: librem  April 20, 2009, 10:48:49 -06:00
Oh, the perked interest to singles.. yesh.. Well I am single and dating is frankly fun and a good way to get to know someone ^.^

: librem  April 20, 2009, 10:07:42 -06:00
Yay! Burnaby Peoples! Anymore? single ones even?

So non dating thread has become dating now?

Also it seems that a fair lot of furs won't know what to do with this new "singles thread". Quite enough confusion already it would seem. Looks like star would be the only one who knows what it would be used for.

It was a joke actually Kaji. ^_^ And Rino knows what it means, so does Rat, and others that actually read it. Librem is being a goof as he always is.

If you want to make a Singles Thread, go ahead and make one on the General Board, you don't even have to ask. If you were wondering if we'll make a Board for singles, (on the level of Buy/Sell/Trade or Introductions), the answer is no.

If you make one on the general board, my suggestion is to make sure the first post in the thread makes the purpose clear. Also, there's not any age verification on the board, so the thread has to be appropriate (I don't think this is a problem for the thread as originally proposed, just a reminder). This is a requirement, not a request.

I'm also closing the Poll board. If you want to make a poll on the General Board or other appropriate board, you're still welcome to.

 UPDATE: well now  im getting good responces! from the site ... maybe it was just a bad furrie that responded  *hits him over the head with her tail*

As a member of a number of different forums, and having moderated a number of them in the past, one of the most common things that a dating site advertisement bot will do is...

: FiFi  July 28, 2010, 12:18:04 -06:00
Im looking for  a   male or female or both  for  friendship and possably permant mate ship.

Maybe not in those exact words, but it does raise a lot of hackles.  I would suggest never mentioning on your first post that you are looking for a mate.  It makes you sound desperate, and can lower people's opinion of you.

Personally I don't care, and I'm glad our community is a bit more welcoming and tolerant than some of the others, but I will say that the behavior you described of albertafurries was uncalled for.  I'm tempted to sign up there now just to look at the thread...

Anyone posting that they want "friends plus more" is asking for trouble if it was their first post.  It might be how you feel, but it's also presumptuous to assume that people look to that forum as a dating site.  I mean, good for you for being open with your sexuality and relationships, but perhaps others don't use the site for that and would rather not see it?

I don't know, I'm just offering my opinion.

I've seen a few forums that state in their rules that they severely frown on the use of their forum as a dating site.

Especially with forums that have teenagers and whatnot visiting, it is especially a bad idea, from a moderator's perspective, to allow one on one meetups.  Not only can the site get in trouble, but something could happen to said teenager without street smarts.

damit i fixed it ... dont get all up in ma fur

Relax, we're just trying to help. :3

ish okay ...  some one sent me to pounced.org

Oh no...that place is baaaad.  Be careful what you ask for is all I can say. There are some really weird and screwed up furs out there that want nothing but to get laid and will say just what you want to hear...be VERY careful.  It's not just on Pounced but on fur communiutes as well.  There are many wolves in sheep's clothing. >:(