Unless we have people willing to do more than talk about it, furmeets will not happen.
People like Torwin, me, Tai, Rat, and select others have put a lot of their own time and money into this community and we continue to, but it'd be nice if someone decided to take the reins and actually plan an event or meet without requiring others to motivate them for it.
Remember, there's nothing special about any of us who run things. We don't have magical contacts or huge amounts of money or resources. We just have the balls and guts to get out there and DO it. Many of us that I mentioned are just too busy to plan ANOTHER event, and if nobody else makes a point of coming forward, the furmeets will not happen.
If you want a furmeet, then post in how you are willing to make that happen! And no, saying "I would help if I knew what to do" is not a valid answer. MAKE IT HAPPEN! Tell us what you're SPECIFICALLY willing to do for this furmeet to happen!
What ever happened to Torwin's awesome amazing super secret idea that was going to blow us all away? :o
I'm in the midst of planning a get together in Vancouver (at the Vancouver Christmas Market at The Queen Elizabeth Theatre Plaza) on either the 19th or 20th this December. I encourage anyone who's seen the thread to leave a post, even if they think there is no way they can attend. Right now it hasn't gotten a whole lot of reception from you guys, if I don't get enough interest in it at all I'll save my time and cancel. :-\ However if it seems there is a large enough interest in it I don't mind making some schedule or accommodation changes if that'll mean more furs are able to go. I just need the community to give me more to work with. :P Please, ask questions, address your concerns, and be critical! I need to know what you guys want if I'm going to setting up more fun stuff for us to do together like this!
If I can get things flawlessly planned out and finalized, I'm hoping to get some suiters together to provide some free community service for the market. It will be good in improving our negative image as a subculture, and if everybody promises to behave themselves there should be some surprise perks just for showing up. ;)
I'm currently working on organising a Christmas furmeet on 13th December, to be held at a restaurant, specifically in Burnaby. I'll be doing some scouting around town this week and see who will be able to accommodate the lot of us.
I'll just say that you guys are far worse at organizing events than most large furry communities now. Edmonton has been doing better than you guys. Hell, they're going to be hosting a convention that'll essentially kill any hopes of hosting a second one in Vancouver most likely, like the one that people were keen on trying to get going.
So much for BC being the best place on earth. I miss the snow.
Oh come now - lets not whine about it. :-\
I can only work with what you guys give me, and right now I'm not seeing a whole lot of interest.
Maybe it's the cold weather that's turning everyone into shut-ins for winter hibernation.
I would host, but I am just not in a place that can host. My lil space is hardly enough for Kyris n me, let alone a slew of furs...
As for dinnermeets, I would help organize it, if only I knew the restaurants in BC. I am still relatively new to the province, and prefer eating at home. As for why I am never at the meets, they always fall on worknights...
Yup, I have the exact same problem with the dinnermeets. They finish just as I am getting out of work.
If there were one on the weekend I would definately go.
i would show up to furmeets in the central cariboo if anyone is willing to set one up... Man... I am into helping out so that it CAN happen
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Mediar, this is far from drama llama material, but very much fail whale material. :P
So what we need is people to step up and help, and suggest things to make an actual Furmeet event. I got a partial idea from the other furmeet thread (http://www.bcfurries.com/forum/index.php?topic=1904.45) as to what is required, and now that I've been to Howl, I think i have the basic idea of the space and necessities needed. I can certainly understand why we need more people to organize, I can only imagine the work that Aphinity and crew put into putting on Howl.
I'd volunteer if I knew what was required, or what people needed exactly. I don't have a lot of free time, but between my wife and I we can contribute some. I am also wondering, since there are so many aspects to a meet, what is the best way to organize? Mailing group, forum section? I don't think one thread can really accomplish decent organization if this is to fly again.
: Felix McKline November 30, 2010, 10:30:51 -07:00
Mediar, this is far from drama llama material, but very much fail whale material. :P
My bad.
this calls for some anonymous
Just host a meet someone, gawd, your all being biased and very seperated, just host somthing, have everyone show up, and lets start having these proper functions again instead of breaking into small organizations of the community?
im sure everyone can agree to this post, lets just set aside differences with each other and move on.
: ϝҵzzy gorge >:3 November 30, 2010, 03:33:00 -07:00
I'll just say that you guys are far worse at organizing events than most large furry communities now. Edmonton has been doing better than you guys. Hell, they're going to be hosting a convention that'll essentially kill any hopes of hosting a second one in Vancouver most likely, like the one that people were keen on trying to get going.
Acco Why do you care??? You don't even LIVE here right now.........Also I know I don't currently care about the situation in Edmonton, I'm sure some of the others don't as well. Plus, since you've been gone the "other" con has been disbanded.
: Runix December 07, 2010, 09:05:00 -07:00
this calls for some anonymous
Just host a meet someone, gawd, your all being biased and very seperated, just host somthing, have everyone show up, and lets start having these proper functions again instead of breaking into small organizations of the community?
im sure everyone can agree to this post, lets just set aside differences with each other and move on.
We can't all be like you Rino and set aside our differences so easily. Also there ARE people trying to get meets started again.
Actually he does live here. He just schools in Alberta.
: Felix McKline December 07, 2010, 02:47:12 -07:00
Actually he does live here. He just schools in Alberta.
no he lives in Alberta while he is going to school, he has a home in bc but he doesn't live there for the majority of the year... unless he commutes back and forth everyday he doesn't live here
Kitten: While I care not for certain elements of the community, I care about what has been happening in general. I would love to see a return to the situation pre-2010. And the point I'm trying to make is that a smaller city is doing far better than you guys are. And, furthermore, helps to have an outside perspective too.
Besides, why wage war? It's water under the bridge to me. /shrug
edit:
Also, Red/Kitten/Felix: Yeah, I'll admit I don't live in Vancouver currently. I -do- intend on returning once I finish up my degree.
: Kitten December 07, 2010, 01:31:29 -07:00
: ϝҵzzy gorge >:3 November 30, 2010, 03:33:00 -07:00
I'll just say that you guys are far worse at organizing events than most large furry communities now. Edmonton has been doing better than you guys. Hell, they're going to be hosting a convention that'll essentially kill any hopes of hosting a second one in Vancouver most likely, like the one that people were keen on trying to get going.
Acco Why do you care??? You don't even LIVE here right now.........Also I know I don't currently care about the situation in Edmonton, I'm sure some of the others don't as well. Plus, since you've been gone the "other" con has been disbanded.
: Runix December 07, 2010, 09:05:00 -07:00
this calls for some anonymous
Just host a meet someone, gawd, your all being biased and very seperated, just host somthing, have everyone show up, and lets start having these proper functions again instead of breaking into small organizations of the community?
im sure everyone can agree to this post, lets just set aside differences with each other and move on.
We can't all be like you Rino and set aside our differences so easily. Also there ARE people trying to get meets started again.
well i forgive all, so maybe you should be nicer instead of being so angry "Meow" , people talk about events, but it never happens, JUST do, talking wont help, forgive those for mistakes, and make a better future of less hate within a community that "Used" to be extremely close when i first joined in 2007 on new years. the good old days are gone i guess, its sad to see people so divided. anyways im planning proper events at conventions and hoping to set up the 360 Lan Gaming community for LanPartyEH since i run the division. it will be open to all and drinking will be a yes.
also i agree with Acco on what he says, so i back his opinion, iv hated the vfurs community ever since everyone went A-Wall on everyone else and split into groups thinking they are better than anyone else. to those who sit up on a high pedestal please get off it and help the community come together once again, i may just help if people are going to agree to get along for once.
: Kitten December 07, 2010, 01:31:29 -07:00
: Runix December 07, 2010, 09:05:00 -07:00
this calls for some anonymous
Just host a meet someone, gawd, your all being biased and very seperated, just host somthing, have everyone show up, and lets start having these proper functions again instead of breaking into small organizations of the community
im sure everyone can agree to this post, lets just set aside differences with each other and move on.
We can't all be like you Rino and set aside our differences so easily. Also there ARE people trying to get meets started again.
Actually we could if we all just tried. I have to say I agree with Runix on this as well. Grudges aren't a good thing to keep around, especially if we want furmeets to go back to the way they were.
: Kaji December 14, 2010, 03:21:50 -07:00
: Kitten December 07, 2010, 01:31:29 -07:00
: Runix December 07, 2010, 09:05:00 -07:00
this calls for some anonymous
Just host a meet someone, gawd, your all being biased and very seperated, just host somthing, have everyone show up, and lets start having these proper functions again instead of breaking into small organizations of the community
im sure everyone can agree to this post, lets just set aside differences with each other and move on.
We can't all be like you Rino and set aside our differences so easily. Also there ARE people trying to get meets started again.
Actually we could if we all just tried. I have to say I agree with Runix on this as well. Grudges aren't a good thing to keep around, especially if we want furmeets to go back to the way they were.
I second this.
Can anyone give me a good reason as to WHY the community should all be one big happy family?
People cry for the goal without giving it any sort of justification.
: ϝҵzzy gorge >:3 December 07, 2010, 03:26:48 -07:00
And the point I'm trying to make is that a smaller city is doing far better than you guys are.
The problem with the Vancouver community is that it is much too large. Your point that a smaller community does not have this problem is useless.
: Kaji December 14, 2010, 03:21:50 -07:00
: Kitten December 07, 2010, 01:31:29 -07:00
: Runix December 07, 2010, 09:05:00 -07:00
this calls for some anonymous
Just host a meet someone, gawd, your all being biased and very seperated, just host somthing, have everyone show up, and lets start having these proper functions again instead of breaking into small organizations of the community
im sure everyone can agree to this post, lets just set aside differences with each other and move on.
We can't all be like you Rino and set aside our differences so easily. Also there ARE people trying to get meets started again.
Actually we could if we all just tried. I have to say I agree with Runix on this as well. Grudges aren't a good thing to keep around, especially if we want furmeets to go back to the way they were.
Even if people must hold their grudges, they can at least respect he host of the event they are at (and alternatively this forum too) by agreeing to avoid each other rather than making a big scene.
Even if people still have to hold grudges, they ca
: Felix McKline December 17, 2010, 04:39:35 -07:00
Even if people must hold their grudges, they can at least respect he host of the event they are at (and alternatively this forum too) by agreeing to avoid each other rather than making a big scene.
:thumbs: I would have to agree with felix here, if the grudger's can just learn to avoid one another at these events, it will make me and other new furries to the forum/community more likely to want to attend a large meet. It will also make the event more enjoyable for everyone.
well, I just moved to Surrey a little while ago - and so far two out of three roommates are alright with hosting a meet in either January or Feb.
we do live in an apartment though, so obviously people would have to quiet down after a certain time and space for staying the night is limited.
and we're not afraid to ask people to leave if they're being excessively rude. just sayin'
: Mikau Seafox December 17, 2010, 03:58:04 -07:00
: Kaji December 14, 2010, 03:21:50 -07:00
: Kitten December 07, 2010, 01:31:29 -07:00
: Runix December 07, 2010, 09:05:00 -07:00
this calls for some anonymous
Just host a meet someone, gawd, your all being biased and very seperated, just host somthing, have everyone show up, and lets start having these proper functions again instead of breaking into small organizations of the community
im sure everyone can agree to this post, lets just set aside differences with each other and move on.
We can't all be like you Rino and set aside our differences so easily. Also there ARE people trying to get meets started again.
Actually we could if we all just tried. I have to say I agree with Runix on this as well. Grudges aren't a good thing to keep around, especially if we want furmeets to go back to the way they were.
I second this.
*raises a paw* Agreed. :3
I also agree with Felix. If people could learn to curb grudges and ignore the people they wish not to be around things would be a hell of a lot easier. I know how hard it is, i'm only human, but i do my best to enjoy the events because they are so far and few between and why ruin a perfectly fun night! XD
(I hope so far people are having decent holidays.)
I think we could bring back the furmeets. It will take alot of work tho. But gosh darnit we can do it!
In my day, I remember when we had meets. They were amazing.
I would host, but unfortunetly my family is going thru a rough time with alot of things. Oneday I will host. :l
Keeping grudges is no good. :x
~~Shadowwolf
The main things stopping events are twofold, and have been said before.
Grudges and people not liking other people is mostly a non-issue.
The main problem is space. Few people have places that are able to accommodate the 30-50 that are likely to attend a general gathering. And those that do have the space are mostly unwilling to host because of the second reason.
The second one being that there is a small number of people that are either unable or unwilling to behave and act with the decorm needed for a social gathering. Whether they are sober, drunk or stoned, it doesn't matter. It's these people that I feel are the ones that causing people to astop wanting to host.
I'm afraid that in my case, "grudges" simply mean I would not hesitate to ask a problem, new or old to leave any meet I host, or to cut off their drinking; Repeat offenders would be asked simply to not return; I am not afraid of the resultant drama. It happens in the adult world, and outside the furry fandom. My issue is not with things that are really, not showstoppers. Drama doesn't end the event in a healthy subculture, it's addressed in a diplomatic and adult fashion. Space and living accommodations are the chief issue for most would-be hosts. I do not have the space to host a meet, and I'd be crazy to try. My roomies want nothing to do with meets, having seen how the host is usually treated at some of them (I beg to differ; The host usually has problems because the HOST is the one ostracized for dealing with drama and problem individuals, not the problem!). My arrangements, while large enough to host perhaps a dozen people, are insufficient for anything larger, and our community can attract several dozen to an advertised event, often without warning.
The dinnermeet I arranged last Saturday had only 4 people RSVP; There was in actuality 10 attendees; No problem, I had specifically called the restaurant and told them to expect 6-10 guests at or around 6:30. That leaves a meet-host one of two choices; Risk being mobbed or go invitation only. For meets to be a reality again, they really must be an RSVP type arrangement; There's only so much room in most people's houses, and I'm not aware of any local furries holed up in a mansion. Personally, I might entertain the idea of renting the common room in my building, but even still, the event would need to be restricted to approximately two dozen or less. There simply is no space for more, even in the largest space readily available to me. I suspect for most, it's a similar scenario.
: Ember December 17, 2010, 04:12:01 -07:00
Can anyone give me a good reason as to WHY the community should all be one big happy family?
We're Canadian.
: Selkit December 22, 2010, 07:03:03 -07:00For meets to be a reality again, they really must be an RSVP type arrangement; There's only so much room in most people's houses, and I'm not aware of any local furries holed up in a mansion. Personally, I might entertain the idea of renting the common room in my building, but even still, the event would need to be restricted to approximately two dozen or less. There simply is no space for more, even in the largest space readily available to me. I suspect for most, it's a similar scenario.
Yeah, with dinnermeets back in the day we always had problems with people not RSVPing and showing up anyway, because apparently they're special and should be on the guest list automatically and RSVPing is something other people do? I don't know. We had a dinnermeet at Amorosa once and way more people showed up than had RSVPed and it was an embarrassing disaster, frankly. I seem to recall some of us tipped very heavily that night because of the crap we put the restaurant through.
You sound like you wouldn't tolerate that, though, which is a good thing. People will never learn otherwise.
I have yet to host anything furrywise, but outside the community I have hosted a couple parties and gettogethers, and had uninvited people show up that nobody knew, because they saw the party from the street and decided to check it out.
Said people got violent when told to leave, and we had to get the police involved.
I know what it's like, and it sucks, but control over your space is still very important if you're going to have any sort of group in your home or temporary arrangement.
It may also be an idea to simply not give the where and when to the public, but only the rsvp'ed.
: Felix McKline December 23, 2010, 11:49:20 -07:00
I have yet to host anything furrywise, but outside the community I have hosted a couple parties and gettogethers, and had uninvited people show up that nobody knew, because they saw the party from the street and decided to check it out.
Said people got violent when told to leave, and we had to get the police involved.
I know what it's like, and it sucks, but control over your space is still very important if you're going to have any sort of group in your home or temporary arrangement.
It may also be an idea to simply not give the where and when to the public, but only the rsvp'ed.
Agreed! That's what I did for the New Years Fur-Eve event ... you MUST RSVP to get the address ... no uninvited people can come unless they tag along with another fur ... but even still, I am in an apartment ... the space served us well at our last fur-meet, but thankfully, there were only a dozen or so people ... It was nice - I got to meet almost everyone and spend time with most - to get to know everyone.
It is a rather interesting, if not also, a very good idea for hosts to do RSVP-only meets, since it'll also give far better control on the host's part, such as setting up the rules, giving the address to the place, and to limit those who can actually come, on a first-come-first-serve basis. I'm all for this idea, and if those who are uninvited going to cause a lot of drama because they didn't RSVP versus those who did, well, haters gonna hate, I suppose. Besides, to cause a major stink about it is just one more reason for us to laugh at them because they're acting like children in an adult world.
Hopfully my friends and I will start up a furhouse next year and get furmeets up and running again. c:
Ive been hosting mall meets, I plan to make another mall meet next month.
I agree that RVSP'ing is good. Get a more controlled crowd.
~~Shadowowlf
: Brittany-shadowwolf January 14, 2011, 11:26:15 -07:00
Hopfully my friends and I will start up a furhouse next year and get furmeets up and running again. c:
Ive been hosting mall meets, I plan to make another mall meet next month.
I agree that RVSP'ing is good. Get a more controlled crowd.
~~Shadowowlf
will warn you inadvance, make sure when you have this place to have alot of rules in place before hosting a furmeet. dont want problems of can we do this etc tec.
hello, all, i'm just curious on this subject because i've not been to a furmeet in awhile now, and just curious as too when or if there will be a meeting anywhere? i'm willing to help out money wise if you need or just in anyway possible even if i do live on the island :P let puppeh know so he can help and come to vancouver again ^^
As soon as someone finds a decent location and organizes it, we will have a meet.
Anyone?
With what I have been reading, a lot of meets don't get done because of a "would if I could" mentality, from those that want to attend one. And some that have ample space in their house either do not have the time, and/or the ability to put up with a large number of people (some of which have proven themselves to be unruly). So far, Gizmo has proven that the RVSP method has proven worthy of working; it helps give people a chance, and if they throw the chance away, then their RVSP gets ignored.
But, as much as I am saying this, I too cannot host anything, at least not until work picks up and stuff happens.
Ah well.
As Aph has asked: will anyone host a meet?
Every time we have these threads I always notice two types of people; type one who encourages and ushers the community to get together, and the other type which causes the drama..
I'm still underage and I can't contribute to the 'let's host a furmeet at my place' idea since I live with my parents. I'm not exactly desperate to go to a furmeet either.. It would be nice yes, but if there's no one to host it, what can you do? I think with such a large community there's so many people, and when furs invite others to their house, it's all comes down to trust. Knowing some people's behaviour, even if I had a house I wouldn't want to hold a furmeet, simply because my stuff is my stuff, can't/won't/don't want to trust people with it.
You can't host a general monthly furmeet when it's for the whole community, but you hate _____ so you don't want them to come. Which is fine. I know some people are stubborn and don't like to, or can't settle their differences because the other doesn't want to, you don't want to, or the problem is just too 'big' to settle. So it's all about settling our differences, and trust. Which is hard. and we can't just push a bunch of people together and tell them they should settle things. It's their own choice.
If these 'differences' are solved, and we're only left with the problem of trust.. I suggest maybe a pre-monthly fur meet? Maybe have an afternoon or evening where the person that can hold a meet invite other furries, and see if it will work out? This will take a lot of pre-planning, like making a guest list of who is going, etc. Then invite those people over for about one or two hours for just a pleasant tea time or something. If their behaviour is okay, then put them on a guest list. This is just an idea, and I actually think it might be a bit complicated to do this.. Sorry about the bad idea.
anyways, my point in teh above paragraph is that if people can't behave themselves, they don't go. It should be easy. Sorry for the bad english and stupid novice words that could be seen as scolding..
Hey if someone could host at there place, maybe i can set one up and get locals furr to come. Tons of fun
Get back to me. This seems fun.
<3Wolfyy<3
: wolfyy January 28, 2013, 12:29:05 -07:00
Hey if someone could host at there place, maybe i can set one up and get locals furr to come. Tons of fun
Get back to me. This seems fun.
<3Wolfyy<3
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I don't have any rule against posting to old threads. Of course, sometimes it makes more sense to start a new thread. Discussing hosting furmeets in general is probably one of those topics that can always be added to.
If I can rent the community room in my building. I will host a fur meet... I remember I loved hosting way back when... How ever there are a few furs that are not welcome and they know or should know whom they are... I hope we can get back into having regular fur meets and I guess it will depend on how the first meet will go for me again if I rent the room as it's not cheap. We shall see ^_^
Im new so i shouldnt and hope im not banned?!?
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: wolfyy January 31, 2013, 06:39:50 -07:00
Im new so i shouldnt and hope im not banned?!?
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Like I said those who are know whom of that I speak... you sir aren't one if you have to question it. lol
fur meet exceptions. when posting your notice of the meet, make the notation - private event, ask for permission to attend and directions. that way the offending party will hopefully know not to ask or you won't give permission. simple. also state that anyone asked to leave that doesn't will be evicted and or the police called.
good luck
: tokar January 31, 2013, 11:00:02 -07:00
fur meet exceptions. when posting your notice of the meet, make the notation - private event, ask for permission to attend and directions. that way the offending party will hopefully know not to ask or you won't give permission. simple. also state that anyone asked to leave that doesn't will be evicted and or the police called.
good luck
Didn't I already create a thread about this on the forums? Didn't we already address this?
I think so lmao but i guess someone second in favor. *sit and waggs tail*
I'm still hoping someone suggests a venue. Sniffum, your room rental idea sounds like a good one! I remember that being a lot of fun.
For those still in their parents house, PLENTY of meets have taken place in a parents house (including mine), but obviously, it takes a strong level of trust with your parents. Thankfully, our community has historically been quite responsible and in nearly every case, has left the place nicer than before the meet. Key to this is making sure drinking is done responsibly, or not at all. I know that some of the current meet hosts can probably agree to this fact :)
I hope we get some fresh ideas in here and get the monthly furmeets happening again!
I'm getting Abbotsford Fur Meets going! ^_^ Does that help? And we even figured out transit! :thumbs: :-3