Dating section?!
there was talk of an "Adult Section" as i saw by Van_fox, but this is a child friendly site as most said so lets make a "Dating section" for all those lonely furs who want a RELATIONSHIP (*cough* go to the movies, coffie, dinner, *Cough*)
in the world of dating there are 6 types of people:
needy,
lonely,
shy,
cocky,
and those who are like "well it sounds cool but im ok with or without" *ie, people like me),
and players who dont date the just want to **** ****** your ******* with ***** and whiped cream your ********* with his ************ whalst you ********************
ahem.
so lets cater to the first 5 types and make a dating area for 15+
I like the idea, but it should be posted to use under caution and under free will.
yeh with guidelines like
"learn about the person you are going to meet"
or
"meet in a public place"
It's an interesting concept...
but under this blanket of sickly sweet roses... I smell... Drama.
Tread carefully my friends.
Personally, I think being more personable, outgoing and becoming better acquainted with others is the way to go.
becoming more attuned with others we meet and let the process occur naturally.
However, I believe everyone find's their "one" through other methods, this being one of them.
Power to you! and godspeed ;)
well im an outgoing person and i don't ever realy try hard to get a date. i am though wanting to date ANOTHER FURRY if i do go on a date, so we have a shared interest
i never realy bother trying for dates but i dated this chick twice and she was wanting to change me because she thought furry was a flaw in my personality. and this one girl broke up after 3 date because she dident want to date a "sexual deviant"
i would like my dates to be with people who know the true meaning of our shared fandom
(also the examples are from before i came out. i only date boys now because of the fact we can comunicate better)
not the worst idea in the world but i do agree with Soki drama drama drama lol
Would people attend a furry singles night?
Now THAT would be a good idea. But with the majority of men here being over 21 ( no offense), it would be kinda awkward for the younger furs like myself to be there XD
yeah i would like to date a fur 15-20 MAX
mine is 15-19. maybe 20 if im ok with it.
: Unition September 22, 2010, 10:07:45 -06:00
Would people attend a furry singles night?
I Think Uni's got the right Idea here.
Not only would it be much more safe then a "blind" date,
you also have the benefit of meeting more people, instead of being locked down to those who respond to your ad!
: Van_Fox September 22, 2010, 10:27:51 -06:00
mine is 15-19. maybe 20 if im ok with it.
Is it cuz of me? Being 20 and all. *wink* I'm just kidding. XD
i think it would HAVE to be 18 and above due to legal things it would be just easier i think
Sounds interesting..
i wanna meet the right guy, but all the cute ones i know irl are taken :c
that or they aren't into furs.
though anyone i'd want would be less than maybe 20 years old. :l
well lets face it, people in their senior years of highschool want to date too, like me.
and well im not deperate for a date i can get one at school tomorow if i ask somone, but is it realy a good idea to date somone if they cant understand our fandom..... no it is not, as i have said.
as long as we keep the singles night from going into XXX aspects and focus on the relationship aspect of it and making freinds and possibly planning lunch or movie dates or somthing it could work out well .
we could find ourselfs luck and find an unlikely BF or GF ^-^ :highfive: :D
: Lt ReiStark September 22, 2010, 10:30:33 -06:00
well lets face it, people in their senior years of highschool want to date too, like me.
and well im not deperate for a date i can get one at school tomorow if i ask somone, but is it realy a good idea to date somone if they cant understand our fandom..... no it is not, as i have said.
as long as we keep the singles night from going into XXX aspects and focus on the relationship aspect of it and making freinds and possibly planning lunch or movie dates or somthing it could work out well .
we could find ourselfs luck and find an unlikely BF or GF ^-^ :highfive: :D
Seconded.
sounds like a plan
Furries :\
Look guys it's pretty simple :)
If you want to date a fur, do the following, k?
1) Go to furry shit
2) Locate furry you are interested in
3) Manage to have showered/dressed well/brushed teeth and talk like a normal fucking person.
4) Ask if they want to go get some coffee or some shit
Holy shit you're on a date!
Skip the online bullshit, or go to pounced or something. If you have never met a person, and you are "Long distance dating" then YOU ARE NOT DATING. The first time you meet someone is your first date! Just because you've been talking to someone online for months and you get a chance to meet them, don't bring a uhaul with you in preparation of moving in.
But yeah, just be a decent person and be attractive and be socially outgoing.
Yours in Christ,
-Ember
yes but the nanimo area has next to no events that don't get cancelled.
so this could just be a furmeet and greet to get furry freinds in the area.
but please don't act so high and mighty thinging you are the love guru. some people find it hard to get out there and find somone naturaly. im not one of them as im stalked by all those "Oh gay just means hes' happy" girls who want my junk because i never realy cared openly about dating or anything like that. but let's face it, not all furrys are as awesome and timless as i the great FOX SERIPHIM OF DARKNESS :evil: am, and find it hard to ask people out and ask for love due to a lack of self love. it goes with alot of D.R.A.M.A.......
GURU PITKA FTW!!!
hmmm i really cant go t furrie events due to living to fucking far away among other things. i dont really appreciate the condescending way you are supposedly giving us/me advice Ember trust me i know how to get a fucking date. Idk if its just me but that erked me a little. :( i am not trying to be mean is just how i feel i am sorry if i offend anyone with that.
I think its a good and bad idea.
Good idea because like stark said its hard for some furries to find someone to date that lives within visiting distance. Some furries are very insecure and shy to come up to someone and tell em they like... damnit who am I kidding that's just me :vik:. Alright well a non furry dating a furry doesn't go very well this is true so there good point about it >.<
Bad idea because drama. *points at the past 3 posts* All you need is a poor choice of words and a suggestion/advice becomes misunderstood as an rude insult and that's before any relationship-gone-bad thought :angel:.
Oh and to make clear I'm not targeting anyone specifically with my own poor choice of words x.x what I meant is that people have a different way of understanding what another is trying to say especially online since you can't see the person's face or tone of voice so if you're in a bad mood you tend to see things as a direct insult towards you if you're in a good mood you usually don't care. But then again that is just my personal logic
Just go to the events that are currently being planned or plan an event yourself, TALK to the furries that show up. Be INTERPERSONAL in a NON CREEPY way. Thats how I found my furry BF.
Just go to events and act like a normal person and other normal furries will talk to you. :birdy:
Just go with the flow and see what happens!
But acting normal isnt what furries do o.o
: Van_Fox September 23, 2010, 11:53:59 -06:00
But acting normal isnt what furries do o.o
Normal as in socially acceptable
I know MANY socially acceptable furries, there are a few here that try not to be but most are
No offense, but I agree with Ember and Kitten. If you don't do anything to try to get a date, you're just going to have to wait till someone finds you. But if you really want to be in a relationship that bad, there's a word in the English dictionary called "Effort". And a tip for those that want a female, we normally want the guy to be the one to make the first move, but to also be clean and not socially awkward. We don't like being embarrassed because some weirdo is trying to talk to us in a public place. And we like the effort done in person, cuz doing it online makes people look cowardly.
I'm going to call it a bad idea, because if someone who says they're 19 and turns out to be 39 meets up with someone else who says they're 19 and turns out to be 12, this forum could get in trouble.
If they're the only 2 there XD
And with the collapse of the furmeet, there are only a handful or so of events now.
I respectfully disagree with the notion that other events can substitute for a singles night. It actually might work out really well. Or horrendously. But I think it's worth a shot.
: ϝҵzzy gorge >:3 September 25, 2010, 08:16:40 -06:00
And with the collapse of the furmeet, there are only a handful or so of events now.
I respectfully disagree with the notion that other events can substitute for a singles night. It actually might work out really well. Or horrendously. But I think it's worth a shot.
Thats the spirit!
we either succeed, or we fail miserably but learn not to do it ever again~!
I get it that there are those who live in more difficult locations as far as local fur populations are concerned. That it might not be as easy to get together with others in their area because they live so far apart from any others. In my situation I live an hour out of town and have to spend that amount of time transiting one way from home to most fur related events. However, if I didn't put in the effort to go to bowling, game nights art meets etc. then I would be sitting at home all the time and that is no fun at all. I can understand why the suggestion for a dating section might come up, it could be an easier way to find someone local.
Unfortunately a dating section could end up being a rather messy mine field to traverse in that it could cause legal problems with the presence of underaged users. You might run into a problem with posters misrepresenting themselves, or include illegal activities in their ads or even present the chance of "rejection drama" or Craigslist syndrome. I present the following as an example.
Fur X sees Fur Y's profile (or posts) and takes an interest in Fur Y, deciding to contact them.
" HI, I'm Fur X, You seem cute/ nice. "
Fur Y thanks Fur X for the compliments and during the time that they chat or exchange messages Fur Y realizes that while Fur X is a nice guy/girl they aren't Fur Y's type.
Fur Y says " You are a nice guy/girl but I don't think its going to work out between us., you aren't really my type. "
Fur X - "WTF!?? RAAAAGE/QUIT/RELEASE DRAMALLAMA!
Fur X freaks out and then posts things like. "Stay way from Fur Y, they're a time waster, leads you on, is a player, an asshat and they suck...." you get the idea.
Gorge has a point that with the demise of regular furmeets its a bit harder to make connections for friends or a significant other, but not impossible if you put in the right amount of resolution and exertion to come to a desired conclusion.
Yes. I still think it's worth a shot. I think just blasting it down before it's even had a chance to be tested is, frankly, retarded. We can eliminate the legality/underage liability issue by allowing only verified users (either through having them hold up some official ID + their face, or in person) use said subforum - it's doable with SMF. And again, it's much harder to figure relation stuff out online. Much easier to make connections IRL, face to face, at events.
As far as I'm concerned, vfur has lost a lot of what it was, and, people just shooting ideas down like this makes the state of our group even worse. I think that the established community needs to let up a bit and see what the new people can bring as far as ideas go, cause let's face it... vfur isn't nearly as hot as it was 1 year ago.
True, but at the same time, this mostly encourages the smaller groups crap again. Especially if you wind up dating someone antisocial.
The group needs some more options. Individuals, couples, and singles have millions of options, but right now our group doesn't have much at all. Where should we be focusing?
I completely agree with Ember on this, except I feel there's one extra step.
Meets these days are pretty inconsistent, so people are going to have to find a way to make the first moment of contact happen, whether it's trying to make a random trip to a mall or maybe an adventurous walk through a park/forest or whatever you feel would be enjoyable. If finding a date is so important to you then stop sitting around waiting for someone to host something for you to go to and make something yourself. Who knows, you might even get bonus points for stepping up and running something. I'm not saying it's easy to run something even if it's just getting people together to go for a walk, but you can't rely on other people hosting stuff for you.
Should there be a dating section? That's up to you guys. I personally don't like the idea of talking to people with the sole purpose of finding a date. If someone was talking to me and I knew they only came to talk to me hoping to get a date it would feel pretty awkward. I'm more the type that prefers making friends and establishing good connections first though, and I know not everyone is like that.
I don't think it's a bad idea. As long as it's kept safe (people being honest about themselves and not saying they're 10-20 years younger then they are) it should be ok. My biggest worry is dating someone without being positive you want to date that person. Getting asked out is a lot of pressure and if you feel desperate you'll probably say yes right away before really thinking about it. More often then not those relationships end in a bad break up.
As long as people are smart, careful, and don't rush into anything past meeting up for coffee/etc, the section might be good for some people.
There are alot of ways it could go wrong >_>
Maybe instead of making the section specifically for "dating" it could just be "personals", like in the paper? I'm with Raikon in that I believe in at least some sort of friendship before full-on dating; but I can also see that without regular furmeets it's hard to even meet furs to become friends with. It'd be nice if most of the ads were along the lines of "looking for furs in my area to meet for coffee or a movie", just keep it casual. You'd definitely want some warnings and a disclaimer just in case though, so there's no way this site could be held responsible if something did go wrong. Hopefully people are smart about it.
Just wanted to comment on what Lt ReiStark said earlier...
and well im not deperate for a date i can get one at school tomorow if i ask somone, but is it realy a good idea to date somone if they cant understand our fandom..... no it is not, as i have said.
Don't give up! Firstly, it's a mistake to assume that no-one else you know is secretly a furry. I've been surprised many times by finding hidden furryness in people I knew - often they don't even know what furry is, and even the ones that do aren't necessarily into the online social aspect. I've found that furries tend to just find one another... though the fact that I wore a tail for my last two years of high school probably helped :P
Secondly, you had some pretty poor dates if they can't accept a totally harmless aspect of what makes you "you". Most of my current friends aren't remotely furry, but they all know about my furriness to some extent, and they accept it as just being one of those funny quirks that makes us all unique. Even my fiance isn't furry, but he's totally cool with it and has even joined some furry sites to find out what it's all about and try to get involved. There are good people out there who aren't furries too!
The bottom line is, people are people, and whether or not someone's a furry doesn't mean their personality is any more or less likely to mesh with yours.
Just some reassurance :3
There's a better approach.
I would probably use a personals board. Because it doesn't have to do with actual dating, I can use it to go kill time with some people who are in our fandom, and might be available at a certain time of the day...
Kinda like a "My plans fell through for Sunday, anyone wanna grab a coffee around noon?"
You know what.. those interested in dating should just post on their profiles "Single and looking <sexuality>" and if someone is interested just Message em privately. I mean if wanna post enough info to find a date on the forums why not just put it on your profile? I'm pretty sure people interested in dating looks at profiles randomly >.>
Thats....actually a good idea o.o
...might just do that :birdy:
The personals section sounds like a good compromise between dating and not having any section.
That being said, I still have no problems with the idea of somebody hosting a vfur singles night. *shrug*
I smell a whole ton of legal/BS/drama coming from a dating forum... Personals might be a better idea... I dunno going out and talking to ppl is the best option IMO. If you're on an island or up north well, please don't get offended but,.. unfortunately it sucks to be you. If you see someone on the forum that is close to you and you might like to get to know, PM them, suggest coffee and go from there... /shrug
What if, there was a section in your profile like the about me section, but you use it for what your looking for if your single?
I'm single, but I don't look for my lovers online. I prefer to meet people in person so I have an idea what they are like in person. And there's a 99.9% that the person will get rejected. But only because I seem to attract creepy people that aren't worth my time normally. And they are from the Anime community. >_<;;
Also I think the dating section (No offense) will make us look desperate. There's nothing that irks me more than being in a fandom, and the impression the local people give to the outside world is a bad one.
Also I think the dating section (No offense) will make us look desperate. There's nothing that irks me more than being in a fandom, and the impression the local people give to the outside world is a bad one.
I think the lady has a point there.
Personally, I think it would be good cause I rather date someone who is a furry =/
I think instead of looking for that signifigant other, you should just wait, and let life happen.
x3
: Oh That Brad October 04, 2010, 12:37:20 -06:00
I think instead of looking for that signifigant other, you should just wait, and let life happen.
x3
Hi, I'm waiting for nearly 8 years and my life is absolutely miserable.
I still don't think the dating section is necessary but have some more meets would be nice. But seriously don't sit around and wait for someone unless you have a traumatic social experience that makes you feels anxious and scared around people (In which case you should try to get along with people of similar interests and slowly walk away from that dark room in your head) :thumbs:
Also you have to keep in mind that if you're looking for a female partner, there isn't as many of us on the forums as there are males, and not all of us are as local as others. And not every female is into men. I for example live in Abbotsford and can't drive. So if anyone was interested to meet me, they would need to do the traveling. Not all of us are single and local (I'm single, but not local). Also there's people like me who make men do all the work to prove that they want me and aren't just trying to get laid. Lol.
Which makes me wonder if there's a local furry dating site. There's one for geeks.
: AMZinthos October 04, 2010, 02:44:08 -06:00
Hi, I'm waiting for nearly 8 years and my life is absolutely miserable.
I still don't think the dating section is necessary but have some more meets would be nice. But seriously don't sit around and wait for someone unless you have a traumatic social experience that makes you feels anxious and scared around people (In which case you should try to get along with people of similar interests and slowly walk away from that dark room in your head) :thumbs:
But i like sitting in the corner..
(http://fc00.deviantart.net/fs71/f/2010/209/9/1/Soul_Eater___EMO___by_Hitono_kun.jpg)
: Wrath October 04, 2010, 04:38:22 -06:00
Also you have to keep in mind that if you're looking for a female partner, there isn't as many of us on the forums as there are males, and not all of us are as local as others. And not every female is into men. I for example live in Abbotsford and can't drive. So if anyone was interested to meet me, they would need to do the traveling. Not all of us are single and local (I'm single, but not local). Also there's people like me who make men do all the work to prove that they want me and aren't just trying to get laid. Lol.
Which makes me wonder if there's a local furry dating site. There's one for geeks.
There's a local dating site for geeks, what?
Anyhow, I like the idea of a dating section. I understand the people suggesting that locals just go to furry events to meet their partners, but doesn't that just make people come to the events with the intent of finding a partner, rather than enjoying the social event itself? Some people may not feel comfortable going to the events alone when they are unacquainted with anyone, and I know quite a few people that like to keep to themselves, but are still interested in dating, and will only go to very tiny social events that are filled with close friends. Furmeets certainly aren't for everyone, and I really don't think they're the dating scene.
i'd be interested in things like this :D but my limits a little different then all yours~ (18 - 32)
i am looking also! :-3
Hadlock, you too?! ._.
yeah, of course i am :3
i've been looking for the past 3 years X3
so am i, alot of people are, thats why a dating section or something for our profiles, is needed
still lookin after 7 months lol
I still think it just.. happens. xD
ya for most people it does just happen love just sorta finds you, but it makes your odds better when you go out on the town or something.
I think a dating section might be pretty cool.
I'm going to have to find myself a big bad wolf sooner or later :3
I suppose I should be looking. ???
The reasons I've never had anyone is because a very sheltered upbringing has made me into a socially reclusive guy. . . that and social events of any sort will cost money which is something I make very little of. :P Minimum wage and shitty hours, and I'm trying to save for what is one of the expensive university degrees available, veterinary medicine. :-\
I don't mind getting out to meet more people for the sake of 'looking' for someone. As long as it is in a safe organized group, and the price isn't too high.
Alot of people are still trying to get their lives started and have shitty jobs with shitty hours and shitty wages. Trying to go to school and whatnot. So you're not alone. I know I'm in the same boat... So don't expect it to be easy to find someone else who's gotten farther in life. Life's hard. But whoever you find, it better be someone that makes you happy and love you for you. ^_^ And in the end, those qualities don't really matter if you guys can pull through it as a team.
I think we can all say for guys like me here that want a straight or bi single girl to be with, chances are sliiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiim.
: Van_Fox October 24, 2010, 09:48:57 -06:00
I think we can all say for guys like me here that want a straight or bi single girl to be with, chances are sliiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiim.
i'd be able to reply to your post. had you not blocked me.
the long heartfelt letter you left me? =3
I've only seen you online on MSN twice Van and then you disappeared off the face of the Earth and now you blocked Brad? Shame... :P
: Wrath October 25, 2010, 06:18:10 -06:00
I've only seen you online on MSN twice Van and then you disappeared off the face of the Earth and now you blocked Brad? Shame... :P
JFDKDFHKDSHJ it's not like that ><
yeh, the shitty wages can make finding a mate tough ...has been for me but let's all cross our fingers, digits, claws ...whatever
Well Brad, given your age, and given the ages everybody else, a lot of these guys would be getting themselves into trouble had it been any setting other than this forum. :-*
Not trying to start shit just stating a fact. Canadian law states 16 year olds are incompatible with everyone 17+.
[MOD]: Please stay on topic. :police:[/MOD]
: Renwaldo October 25, 2010, 02:14:31 -06:00
Well Brad, given your age, and given the ages everybody else, a lot of these guys would be getting themselves into trouble had it been any setting other than this forum. :-*
Not trying to start shit just stating a fact. Canadian law states 16 year olds are incompatible with everyone 17+.
no.. no they dont. =_=
Sex education class and Life have both told me so!!
So quit Labelling me as some kid, because when i'm grown up, you'll regret it.
Not gonna lie here. This dating section sounds like a bad idea. and brad we know your upset about all this stuff. but getting angry and saying stuff like "we will regret it" wont solve anything.
this thred is a little out of control lol waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to much drama
Way to revive the drama stupid. :P
: Renwaldo October 25, 2010, 02:14:31 -06:00
Well Brad, given your age, and given the ages everybody else, a lot of these guys would be getting themselves into trouble had it been any setting other than this forum. :-*
Not trying to start shit just stating a fact. Canadian law states 16 year olds are incompatible with everyone 17+.
Then maybe we need more 16-19 year old furs here XD Its like 2/5.
I'm 19, I don't consider my age group that young though. :P
Legally speaking I'm not being forced to live as a dependent. I can go out and own my own real estate whenever I want to. I simply lack the means to do so. :(
there are dating sites for a reason...
this is a local community, and there are people underage, a personals is bad and you could have stalkers because of posting private information, i would rather say to trust other dating sites than add it to an open community forums... just a thought
i just think all of you hopless singularities need to wait, i'm sure somthing will happen for you.
waitings for lazy losers XD
Said the hare to the tortise.
i prefer to see it like how spiders wait in there webs to get what they want.
it works every time -w-
: Van_Fox December 03, 2010, 03:10:35 -07:00
waitings for lazy losers XD
So is creeping the same person for a month or two. :')
well i have a boyfreind but i just thought a dating section might be cool for others. sorry for putting out an idea
: Oh That Brad December 03, 2010, 10:58:27 -07:00
: Van_Fox December 03, 2010, 03:10:35 -07:00
waitings for lazy losers XD
So is creeping the same person for a month or two. :')
thats called flattering =3
: ThanatosPanda December 03, 2010, 05:16:13 -07:00
Said the hare to the tortise.
i prefer to see it like how spiders wait in there webs to get what they want.
it works every time -w-
I works about half the time, sometimes you end up with sour insects that leave a bitter taste in your mandibles and makes you wish you had never caught them in your web in the first place. D:
: Roxxy_Starrz December 04, 2010, 01:35:29 -07:00
: ThanatosPanda December 03, 2010, 05:16:13 -07:00
Said the hare to the tortise.
i prefer to see it like how spiders wait in there webs to get what they want.
it works every time -w-
I works about half the time, sometimes you end up with sour insects that leave a bitter taste in your mandibles and makes you wish you had never caught them in your web in the first place. D:
Roxxy, you make such a wonderful use of a metaphor! XD
: Renwaldo December 04, 2010, 05:39:41 -07:00
: Roxxy_Starrz December 04, 2010, 01:35:29 -07:00
: ThanatosPanda December 03, 2010, 05:16:13 -07:00
Said the hare to the tortise.
i prefer to see it like how spiders wait in there webs to get what they want.
it works every time -w-
I works about half the time, sometimes you end up with sour insects that leave a bitter taste in your mandibles and makes you wish you had never caught them in your web in the first place. D:
Roxxy, you make such a wonderful use of a metaphor! XD
Why thank you Ren! ;D that one comes from personal experiences of mine playing the "waiting game" as it were.
I wish there were more females my age here =( No offense to you older guys XD
*Thread Dies*
dun dun dunnnn ....was about time
Pop it, Lock it and drop it mods? :birdy:
I'm glad you guys came to that conclusion on your own ;) Done.